Why am i so uncomfortable.....serious answers please?!
Question: For some reason whenever my mom comes close to me or tries to touch me/ hug me, i get REALLY uncomftorable and it makes me want to cry because i feel so uncomfortable and it makes me feel like i'm stressed out. there's no reason for me to feel weird around her, at least nothing that i could remember. could something have happened that i just can't remember? or am i just normal?
ps. it doesn't happen with anyone else.
Answers: For some reason whenever my mom comes close to me or tries to touch me/ hug me, i get REALLY uncomftorable and it makes me want to cry because i feel so uncomfortable and it makes me feel like i'm stressed out. there's no reason for me to feel weird around her, at least nothing that i could remember. could something have happened that i just can't remember? or am i just normal?
ps. it doesn't happen with anyone else.
I'm like that in the sense that if my mum gives me a hug at Christmas time (because she never does any other time), it makes me feel disgusted like a want to vomit.I get a really sickening feeling inside my stomach . I love my mum, she has never done anything bad to me, i had a really good childhood. She was just never an affectionate person , and she's a very cold, hard woman . I never had any problem hugging her when i was little, maybe it was the rejection since she's not affectionate, she hated hugging and as i got older like around 10 years old she would say things like, "aren't you a little bit old for that "
I can't get close to her in the emotional sense either, i can never talk to her about things. I can't show any kind of emotion around her without feeling extremely uncomfortable. So when i am around her i just pretend i'm always happy . I can't cry infront of her either.
Ps- my 2 sister's feel exactly the same way as i do about the subject . It's more common than you think .
Honey, I seriously think that you need to meditate, do some yoga, get a massage, and just reflect on your life. There is a reason why your Mom makes your skin crawl and I know that deep down inside, somewhere, you know exactly what the problem is. Address it, find it, figure it out, as soon as possible. The sooner you figure out your issues, the sooner you can learn to live with them. Trust me sweetie!
I have felt that way about my Dad and Mom and had the same question about blocking out bad memories or something. I know they didn't harm me and I have had anxiety all my life. I know how you feel but it's nothing to really worry about. You would probably remember if something happened now that you are questioning this. Maybe seeing a counselor would help.
its odd, not normal. theres something going on between you and ur mom. Not sure what it is though. Could be a repressed memory, or something else.
the answers you get here are all very subjective and hearing what others have to say wont help you, only you will know (or possibly never know), a counsellor is trained and maybe paid to be subjective, and has training in ways to help you work this issue out for yourself. Good luck and beware of wolves in sheeps clothing :)
This is difficult to answer, but I have a feeling that this may all be caused by anxiety, which may have nothing to do with your mother or any past experiences for that matter.
Please test yourself with
The Nutrition-Behavior Inventory Questionnaire (NBI) at:
http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/articles/...
and the
The Hypo Quizz at:
http://www.hypoglycemia.org/hypo_test.as...
If you score is high it could be hypoglycemia, which has all sorts of weird psychological symptoms. Treatment would without recourse to drugs by going on a hypoglycemic diet.