Depressed. What do i do?!


Question: Wow like where do i start. Im not on here to give a sob story but to express myself because i have no one to talk to.
Im sooooo depressed because im 19 & i live with my dad who has raised me by hisself, Im jobless and have nothing going 4 mtself. i graduated in may of last year.I've been searching high and low for a part time job because im starting school in may. But my dad is not supportive in nothing i do!. Normally parents would be happy their child wants to further their education but not him. All he wants is for my to work allll the time and not go to school, he wants almost all of my paycheck and i know thats what he want because before when i had a job all he wanted was the money. I can honestly say i cant stand him! he stresses my alllll the time when he comes home for work its like walking on eggshells, sometimes he has a attitude and sometimes he dont. i cant stand it & now lately i've been thinking about suicide. Idk what to do, please give me some advice!


Answers: Wow like where do i start. Im not on here to give a sob story but to express myself because i have no one to talk to.
Im sooooo depressed because im 19 & i live with my dad who has raised me by hisself, Im jobless and have nothing going 4 mtself. i graduated in may of last year.I've been searching high and low for a part time job because im starting school in may. But my dad is not supportive in nothing i do!. Normally parents would be happy their child wants to further their education but not him. All he wants is for my to work allll the time and not go to school, he wants almost all of my paycheck and i know thats what he want because before when i had a job all he wanted was the money. I can honestly say i cant stand him! he stresses my alllll the time when he comes home for work its like walking on eggshells, sometimes he has a attitude and sometimes he dont. i cant stand it & now lately i've been thinking about suicide. Idk what to do, please give me some advice!

Ok, your dad is manipulating, controlling and using you. You feel like committing suicide because you feel trapped and you're looking for a way out. My heart goes out to you. My best advice is to find someone to live with. Do you have any other family (aunts, grandparents) you could live with?

That sounds like a tough situation.

Since your over 18 I would go and open up a bank account in just your name. Let him know NOTHING about it, so you are gonna have to be careful with leaving the debit card around, and make sure you opt out of mailing statements, just get e-statements. Even if you dont have a computer you can go to any public library.

This way you can cash the paychecks and give him *some of the money*

If he somehow wises up to the amount of hours your working vs. the money, just tell him they are taking more taxes out or some bullshit.

If he starts to be abusive seek help at a womans shelter. Not saying that you dad isnt bright but by the time anyone figures it out you should have enough saved up to atleast get a cab or bus ticket or something to take yourself out of the situation.

You don't need to feel like your giving a sob story, everyone has to deal with their problems and some people just choose to express them. Do you know exactly why your father wants the money? Try opening our own private bank account so he can't touch the money even if he tried. Sometimes you may feel stuck in life, but it's just another part of the ongoing story of you. Just try to not stress about it and look towards the future. There may not be opportunity's now but they will come sometime soon in your life. On another note suicide is never the way. Try reaching out to friends and family, there's always someone out there willing to listen and help you in your struggles. Just try avoiding conflict with your father and put him on the back burner for a while if you don't think you can salvage your relationship with him. Just hold in there :).

get a job and move out dont cry about it do something

Suicide ?Noooo dear child. The world is large. You can find lot of things in the world. Nothing is lost in the world except the mind. Just try some part time jobs and move around with your friends. Learn meditation a finest way to keep you upright. Please see the article in blog http://transcendental-meditation-forheal... Get rid off from your negative things. Try the positive things that are hidden within you OK.
You will win the world one day.Be cheerful.

So...what would happen if you got a job and then found an apartment - with a room mate if necessary? Could change the whole picture!

And for the job - think about where you WANT to work. Dress the part, put together a great resume with everything spelled correctly and then go to those places you want to work and ask to speak with the hiring manager. Talk to them about what they want - ask how you might be able to find a job with them. Learn all you can. You may leave with a job and if not, you'll likely have a lot of good information you can use in the future.





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