What is a good method of controlling one's anger?!
Question: Because today, something my mother said was very upsetting to me. And it was really frustrating to me that I was trying to talk to her to work things out, but she continued to ignore me and watch the television. So I went up to my room, locked the door, pounded my mattress with my fists, cried a little, slapped myself in the head a few times, dug my nails in my arms, etc. I'm never been into "self-injury" at all, the thought of cutting myself is disgusting to me. But I always beat myself up, literally, out of anger. I know this can't be normal but it's something I do anyway. I never have anyone to talk to anymore. I just always feel really hopeless.
Answers: Because today, something my mother said was very upsetting to me. And it was really frustrating to me that I was trying to talk to her to work things out, but she continued to ignore me and watch the television. So I went up to my room, locked the door, pounded my mattress with my fists, cried a little, slapped myself in the head a few times, dug my nails in my arms, etc. I'm never been into "self-injury" at all, the thought of cutting myself is disgusting to me. But I always beat myself up, literally, out of anger. I know this can't be normal but it's something I do anyway. I never have anyone to talk to anymore. I just always feel really hopeless.
Always remember that you are your own best friend. In that way you always have someone to share life with. You are very important and your opinion counts even if no one hears it!
Scream into a pillow.
keep you arger in balance, don't let it control you
Deep breathes, counting,talking it over later to get it all out on the table and cleared, forgiveness ... why? It burns your butt, and ruins your health not theirs.
Also if all else fails anger management classes. Seriously.
Journaling and forgiving are great!!
While a person angers you they control you..
YOU ARE THE MASTER OF YOUR FATE
THE CAPTAIN OF YOUR SOUL!
The hitting your mattress is okay, so is screaming into a pillow (make sure you take it away to breathe though).
Do you have a friend you can talk to? Maybe see about getting a counselor to talk with.
My Dad taught me to "vent", verbally, or like you, hit a mattress or some object. Just not the wall, animal, etc. Please, stop doing things to your body that hurt yourself. That is not cool.
I don't know how old you are, but please keep doing what you need to do at school, at home, etc. And, take time to (if you have any allowance, etc.) see about taking your Mom out for coffee to talk. Just the two of you. If she won't spend the time with you, that is not good.
Do you have an aunt, or cousin or someone you could talk to?
As for a counselor, I don't know what state you reside in, however, please check about the laws in your state-in WA you can be 13 yr. old, and get your own counseling.
I wish you the best. Take care.
WOW not your best day is my guess.
Anger is normal and even healthy but how you handle it can be a problem.
I too have had moments of rage or uncontrolled anger. Recently I have been using a deep breathing technique and I start the breathing when I FIRST notice I am getting upset....like when my head begins to feel pressurized or when my stomach starts to queasy.
After years of letting my anger control me I am having some success. I still flip out once in awhile but I am doing better.
I still beat myself up if I loose it; the price of that is getting too great so I work really hard at self control.
Mom's can be super aggravating....just like anyone else you are close to or live with. I feel much sympathy for you.
You know that there are help-lines on the first page of most phone books....the people there have been great at listening to me.
You are not alone and you are not without hope. I care. And so do others.
All the best.
Anger management is addressed in section 4, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris If you can't deal with it by using one of the techniques, such as counting backwards from 20, to 1, (and prevent yourself from making yourself angry, in the first place) is important to express that anger appropriately, at the time, and to the person who caused it, if possible, or immediately afterwards, if not, maybe by walking away later, and bellowing your rage. In some situations, such as work, or school, it might be better to cover your mouth with a cupped hand, bandanna/handkerchief, or use the crook of your elbow, to muffle the sound. Some people find that it helps to journal those thoughts, and emotions soon afterwards. Anger, which is repressed, rather than healthily expressed, tends to fester, and later may cause explosive fits of rage, or depression. It helps to have someone you can talk to. For more physically inclined people, a punching bag, or punching your pillow can be a good release mechanism. ~~~ From Y!A: "But next time, when you get mad, just remember this quote: 'Those who anger you, conquer you.' It's basically saying that when you give someone the power to make you mad, or let it get to you, it's like they're controlling you. When I realized that, it made me mad, so I try to control my anger and not let people see it. You can still control your anger without being walked all over. You just have to draw a line." Have a look at www.verbalabuse.com as well.
talk to me by yahoo dogmicjoe@yahoo.com. try meditation. go to holisticonline.com for more info. pray.