I want honest answers. Is it normal?!
Question: Okay, first I'm going to start off saying that I'm 15 years old. My parents aren't exactly the best parents in the world. They will not let me do anything and they never understand, and mentally abuse me, because I love nature and try to protect it. I have a craving for adventure. They actually won't even take me to the book store to buy a darn book. But either way, everyday I always have millions of thoughts running through my head about how so screwed up the world is and how virtually know one cares about each other and the killing and the issues with the environment, and... the list goes on and on! It hurts me on the inside because my dad and I don't talk anymore because my views. I don't want a 'normal' life. Ever since I could remember I've wanted to move and live to Alaska or Canada out of the government and society. It's sickening when you think about it. Is it normal for a kid 15 to think like this when no other kid I know does? I even look like I'm 20 and act like it to...
Answers: Okay, first I'm going to start off saying that I'm 15 years old. My parents aren't exactly the best parents in the world. They will not let me do anything and they never understand, and mentally abuse me, because I love nature and try to protect it. I have a craving for adventure. They actually won't even take me to the book store to buy a darn book. But either way, everyday I always have millions of thoughts running through my head about how so screwed up the world is and how virtually know one cares about each other and the killing and the issues with the environment, and... the list goes on and on! It hurts me on the inside because my dad and I don't talk anymore because my views. I don't want a 'normal' life. Ever since I could remember I've wanted to move and live to Alaska or Canada out of the government and society. It's sickening when you think about it. Is it normal for a kid 15 to think like this when no other kid I know does? I even look like I'm 20 and act like it to...
I definately think you are an inspirational 15 year old, because you are different, you have a passion for something so much that it is certain you will do so well in if you turned it into a job in the future, and like me, you've grown up "prematurely".
I myself think there is nothing wrong with this. People like you can seriously go and do amazing things, and like me, you have had people try to stop you.. Or hold you back in some way. For me, it was indirectly. I ended up moving out, because I had such a free spirit, and felt so mature that I was just ready to.
There ARE issues in this world, but try not to fret too much about them. If they really are a worry to you, create it into more of a passion to stop them, but not to the extent that it stresses you out. At fifteen, whatever you are on the inside, adults still can regard you as "simply a fifteen year old" and therefore don't give you the oppurtunity to express your gift. But you seriously sound like you have a gift, and are talented, and are intelligent too. The problem is, usually this comes at a price in life. For example, I was always told I was talented, gifted, and that I could do anything I wanted to - Because I was unusually clever and mature for my age, had strange spacial awareness senses and could try anything and be good at it. The problem with me, was my stepfather who I lived with aswell as my mum, he verbally abused me, I lost confidence, got fat, ended up caring more about keeping friends at school than the education (it was hard for me with my low self esteem to do this) and eventually dropped out.
The moral of my personal story is, don't let anyone let you down and stop you from being who you want to be. It's people with gifts who end up being well known or successful. It's GOOD you are thinking this way about society, because you are one of the few who do and believe me, there are others. I know it's hard to believe, feeling left out thinking this way could tempt you off this track due to peer pressure, but hold on, because you are a rose amongst thorns, a dying breed, and if every adolescent had views like you then the future would be far brighter.
At least you have the talent and passion about helping the world to know that you can make it a whole lot brighter by yourself if you want to. It all depends on your decisions now - Nobody elses!
way to go! go to a college and study to be a biologist! in the meantime i reccomend you read Henry David Thoreau, he wrote something called Walden which I think you'll like :D
So what is your faith then???
That could be the real cause of your parents not supporting you.
It is perfectly fine that you stood your ground on what you believe. Just don't forget...You are still in their house and have to get along.
Something you may not understand about parents...They do their best to raise kids in a way that they think is right. If the kids develop a personality that conflicts with their beliefs the parents can see it as their failure. They fear that they did not do a good job in raising you.
Try to minimalize the conflicts by being flexible with them. Don't demand special treatment because you don't want meat and they are having meatloaf. Just get something for yourself with out degrading their choice in food. Don't freak out if they do some damage to some grass or a tree in their backyard.
Remember The Great Mother heals well and sometimes a little bit of damage can encourage new fresh healthy growth. Be as tolerant of them as you want them to be of you. In time they might come around. If not when you are 18 you can find your own way in the world. Then when they come to see you ...It is your wishes that will need to be heeded in your own home.
Reading this I have a serious level of suspicion about your point of view and ability to be objective - your parents might just be concerned about your health, I don't know why any parent wouldn't but their kid a book but I have a feeling you're not telling us the whole story behind this - wouldn't be unusual for a 15 year old.
It sounds like you are unhappy about a lot of things in your life including yourself and you think they are to blame for all of it. I imagine your parents have jobs and they can't just move to Alaska at the drop of a hat because you want to commune with the bears (see the movie about that guy to see how well that one worked out - LOL!)
All the best, it will get easier, and a lot sooner than you think you will be an adult and able to make these decisions for yourself.
I think its really good that u have ur own views on how u see life. do what u want to do and dont change cuz ur parents dont like it. i think its really cool that u like that kind of stuff and that u care. cuz someone has to, rite??
Your parents should be proud of you because you are only 15 and you have figured out what you love in life. Remember your parents have opinions of their own too and you both have to respect each others thoughts. Now to be able to do what you want (studying nature,etc) you are gonna have to get good grades in high school and go on to college to study what you love. You will not be under your parents roof forever so just keep your goal in mind. Maybe get a part time job and save up for when you are out of school. Then you and a group of friends could go back-packing in Europe or you could join the Peace Corp!
thats wicked! You are who you are, your own person. Follow your dreams! Some parents don't understand certain attitudes of there kids, which is hard to live with. But don't let that stop you! respect your parents, but go you own way!
Between the ages of 15 and around 17, you will feel like your parents DO NOT EVER understand you, this is common to feel. You will feel very enraged by any rules that oppress your freedom. And your parents will try to impose them cause they think that's what's "right."
Parents are just like any other person and are operating on their belief systems of what they think is right or wrong. You're not fitting in their "mold" of what they think you should be and so they are not liking what they hear.
I think there is also probably something else going on here that you're not telling us completely. I'm sure you are yelling at your parents or doing something else drastic like that, but it's OK, we tend to be bias toward our own cause.
And how do you know if other 15 year olds don't think like you? Honestly there is no "normal" behavior.
There's this quote I say... "Everyone is normal until I meet them." You'll realize that every single person has their unique set of strengths, challenges, limits, problems, powers, etc...
If you love nature and the environment, good! Be strong and hold onto your desires and passion and love and always remember Who You Are and Who You Want To Be!
And in the meantime, take it easy, be cool, try to be chill with your parents. They do love you afterall, even if they are mad at you. Trust me all this will be over sooner than you think. Eventually you'll have a license and a car and you'll experience freedom like you never had before.
Take it easy bro.
You can read online all you want about nature and the things you enjoy. Would your parents ever consider something like a foreign student exchange program? They don't have to take in a student, but you could go live in a home in another country. I wish I had been as in tune with these things at your age. Some day you will get to live your dreams, really in just a few years. I bet your parents will ease up each year as you get older. I hope you can learn to find faith in Jesus Christ because these made up ideas of who God is could cost you your eternal soul. Believing in Christ goes well with being a naturalist. I am. For now, just watch programs and find things online that interest you, and try to make friendships with interesting people. The good thing about being a naturalist is adventure is right in your own backyard.