Does my mom care?!
Question: ok so im really depressed i cut im trying to stop and have been clean for 3 months. I have t ried to kill myself 5 times but no one knows about them and im always depressed and i ahev ADHD. My sister is depressed too shes older. My mom cares so much about my sister and it has taken me about 3 years to get the courage to tell my mom about my depression(not the cuttign and suicide stuff) I finally told her and shes like well if you ever feel like this agin talk to me so i have everyday. Now she was like i can get a therapist. She siad she would call him. ITs been TWO months and she sitll hasn't talked to him. she like its on my thigns to do. OK so my mental health is on her list to do. WHAt the hell it doesnt take more than maybe 5 min to call the $%#%$ pyschtist or thrapist whoever the %#$$# he is and get an appointment i know for a fact that if this was my sister she would have called the same #$@$ing day does my mom not take me seriously?
Answers: ok so im really depressed i cut im trying to stop and have been clean for 3 months. I have t ried to kill myself 5 times but no one knows about them and im always depressed and i ahev ADHD. My sister is depressed too shes older. My mom cares so much about my sister and it has taken me about 3 years to get the courage to tell my mom about my depression(not the cuttign and suicide stuff) I finally told her and shes like well if you ever feel like this agin talk to me so i have everyday. Now she was like i can get a therapist. She siad she would call him. ITs been TWO months and she sitll hasn't talked to him. she like its on my thigns to do. OK so my mental health is on her list to do. WHAt the hell it doesnt take more than maybe 5 min to call the $%#%$ pyschtist or thrapist whoever the %#$$# he is and get an appointment i know for a fact that if this was my sister she would have called the same #$@$ing day does my mom not take me seriously?
It looks as if you are Not going to get your Mother's attention until you let her know that you do mean business (((with needing and wanting help that is.))) Please call: 1-800-Suicide.
Sometimes we ALL go through times that we just could curl up into a ball and leave this earth. This is not a good feeling. However, some of us can get through our down-spots and lows on our own, yet some of us just cannot as we each do not have the very same problems in life and some of us need help to be able to stand back up. This is nothing for any of us to be ashamed of. Only be "Thankful" that we do have others to lean on in and during these times. You CAN get passed this. You did not state your age, but I am guessing that for you to be on here and telling all you have been through- that you must be at least in your teens. Please call the number I gave you above. These people will get help for you in your area!
maybe she thinks you want attention because of your sister sit her down and tell everything i guarantee she will care
Tell her its serious, maybe she thinks it's not that serious. So she's not making it a priority, she cares about you though because she is going to get you help, tell her it's serious and you need a counsler now.
Your mom probably doesn't realize HOW serious you are. If she doesn't know about the cutting and suicide then she may have interpreted your depression as you going through a phase or something. Call her out on it and tell that you NEED her to make the call the the therapist. Be extremely clear with her and she should get the point.
About her playing favorites with you and your sister try talking to her about it. You will have to be patient cuz it won't click for her right away but it should eventually.
P.S. good job staying clean for that long..that is really hard sometimes.
cos my mum and bro suffer from adhd, depression or bipolar can occur. you need to go see the doctor. Honestly if you leave this underlying you will wake up one morning so crazy you will have a mental breakdown. I've seen it all before.
But i definately think you have a case of bipolar disorder or depression because the fact you have adhd just gives it away lol
Hope i've helped,
JessiiLou
lets be honest here... you havent tried to kill yourself 5 times.. Killing yourself is not "hard" if you think about! You tried to get attention 5 times.. you "scartched" your wrist or took 8 tylenols and said you overdosed.. Honestly it makes me laugh when people say they "tried to kill themselves".. People that "TRY" to kill themselves usually succeed..
First, explain all of this to your mom. explain your frustration and your understanding that things would be different if this were your sister instead of you. This should be a fairly long and relatively CIVIL conversation meaning that sreaming at her probably won't get what you want as fast as you could get it. if all that doesn't work, wait until she's watching TV or reading a magazine or something else stupid like that and shove the phone in her face reminding her of her promise and responsibility. that's what i do. and if that doesn't work i call my grandma. i don't know if you can do that, but if you can, that's helped me. good luck. and remeber. be assertive and don't take no for an answer. you're much more important than any frivolous phone call or activity that she may be engaged in. tell her so.
First off she is already dealing with a lot of stuff just being a mom. Your sister was the first to deal with this so she is focused on that. You have not been completely honest with her either, as far as the severity of your depression goes. You should let her know about the cutting and the attempts of suicide. Your mother loves you but she is dealing with a lot. and as far as she knows your not dealing with a lot as your sister is, therefore she may not be willing to spend thousands on therepy for a child that just needs to talk once and a while. Talk to your mother like she has offered to you, and be honest about EVERYTHING, and I am sure that she loves you enough to get you the help you need.
You should sit down and talk to her face to face and let her know that you really do need to see a therapist. And you would like her to call the therapist right then and there. And maybe you should go to your school and talk to a counselor about needed a therapist and then they can help you or call your mom (then she would see you're serious). I don't think that your mom doesn't care...she is probably overwhelmed with all of the pressure that your sister is putting her under, not to mention what ever else she has to deal with. You need to focus more on yourself and don't worry too much about how she does your sister. If mom doesn't help you then you need to get the help on your own. Cutting can become addictive, it is a cry for help and attention at the same time. When you are feeling this way you need someone to talk to (as you know) Go to your local church too and get counseling for free...the church is there for you whether you know it or not. You are on the right track asking for help...but let me tell you...your life no matter how small or ****** up it may seem to you is in your hands, not your mom's. Talk to your mom, talk to your church, talk to your school, get online and search for counseling services..find out what kind of coverage you have first from your mom. Whatever you do, find the help that you need so you can have the support you need! Good Luck my friend and stand strong...we're not the only one who does what you do...get into a group also with others like yourself who can give you support and vise versa.
Hiya....Jesus it must be so frustrating for ya, Love I think your best bet is to ring him yourself, I have battled with depression since the age of 14, got a breakdown at 18 after my first child, have cut my self took overdoses, slit my wrists,(which very nearly did the job), I remember crying to my mam that I couldnt cope, and she used to get angry with me because she thought I was acting so that I didnt have to look after my son,
I finally got the help i needed when I was admitted to 5B (phyciatric ward) for 3 months....To this day my mother wont apologise for ignoring me, but i dont let it upset me, cos i know deep down that she carries the guilt with her every day...
Im not by any means telling you to do anything drastic, but i am advising you to ring your doc yourself, and explain, he will act on it straight away... Your mother probobly thinks she is doing the right thing so dont fight with her, sit her down and tell her that she is making you feel worse and that you will ring the doc yourself, then maybe she might do it.
I think it would be a good idea not to make comparisons to your sister. Don't judge your mom. She seems to be indecisive and she may be spending too much time defending herself. Lots of people struggle emotionally. If this is supposed to motivate her it doesn't seem to be working. Let's try a different approach.
Your mom and your sister may have some social games they play well together but that doesn't solve emotional problems. It may make it just that much harder for your sister to talk about depression because they are such good buddies. She may feel just as bad as you do. She just doesn't know what to do either. You are filling in the silence with your anger. Don't assume anything. It just might not be true.
You may have no idea how much your sister struggles any more than your mother knows about your cutting. Maybe she thinks that when you stopped talking about it, it actually went away. I don't think she grasps how much this means to you. I don't get the impression you talk much about emotions in your family.
You do seem to struggle emotionally and you do definitely seem to need help. You also seem to have terrible communication skills. You need to talk more about the things that cause you to be upset , instead of waiting until you can't take it anymore and blowing up.
If you are bent on getting help, make some phone calls yourself and see if you can get some advice. What kind of treatment do you need? Depression? Antidepressants? Would you be willing to do that? Are you willing to learn to change? Can you learn more about your disorder and the type of treatment available? Be logical and be prepared to follow through. That would show how much this matters to you and that you mean business.
Stop being dramatic, it looks like you do it for attention. There's a vast gulf between what you feel and what your family understands about it. If this is a real concern, someone needs to know it. There is something that makes you feel bad. What is it? Learn a little more so you can describe it to someone. Then you can make plans from there.