Cant i just get over it?!


Question: thats what my mom always says
why cant i just move on
i was raped for 9 years of my life by my father
why cant i just move on
i mean all the abuse just ended
when i ranaway and then cps///cops was involved...
so im trying to deal with it all
and im without any "distractions"
aka alcohol cutting etc...
and i try to make her understand and everytime every single time
she brings up the one year that they were married and how she stole me away from his house
and how only once not every first third and fifth weekend and the entire school summer
only once did he ever show any abuse towards her
for me its been my whole life
and she says that the reason she hates me is because when i was 13 i told the police it was all ok but i never said that actually i said quite the opposite the problem was that when we took him to court he got off...
anyways
help
please
how can i make her understand
or anything
any advice
thoughts?


Answers: thats what my mom always says
why cant i just move on
i was raped for 9 years of my life by my father
why cant i just move on
i mean all the abuse just ended
when i ranaway and then cps///cops was involved...
so im trying to deal with it all
and im without any "distractions"
aka alcohol cutting etc...
and i try to make her understand and everytime every single time
she brings up the one year that they were married and how she stole me away from his house
and how only once not every first third and fifth weekend and the entire school summer
only once did he ever show any abuse towards her
for me its been my whole life
and she says that the reason she hates me is because when i was 13 i told the police it was all ok but i never said that actually i said quite the opposite the problem was that when we took him to court he got off...
anyways
help
please
how can i make her understand
or anything
any advice
thoughts?

That is a tremendous burden for someone to deal with. I am sorry that your mom isn't more understanding or consoling. You do have to move on with your life. However, you need serious counseling to help you to be able to do that. Do you have a school counselor or teacher or minister that you could go to? You are not able to process this as an adult, (not sure of your current age) because this happened to you as a child. You are a true victim of this horrible abuse. Your father was suppose to be your provider, protector and security. Instead he robbed you of innocence, abused you and defiled you. You have got to learn how to process all of this and it will take time and may be rather painful. You need to undo what was done to you emotionally from all of this. There is no doubt that you will have scars from this, but scars are healed wounds and they can be there to remind you that you survived. Also, you should seek out counseling so that one day, you can help other girls who have been a victim like you. Decide that you are going to let all that has happened to you to make you into a better person. A person who cares and loves others in a good, wholesome and healthy way. You know how important this is because someone violated all of those things in your life in an awful way. Find a counselor. Call a minister. Call a teacher. Find a safe person who can give you the resources you need to become that wonderful healed person who is going to move on with their life and be a blessing to others.

Please keep writing about your thoughts, because you need to get it out. I would recommend getting some help.

youre lying, too poetic...but not

OMG thats touching!!

sending you love

<3

I am so sorry to hear that. I wish u the best of luck.
I don't know what to say, but u have to pull ur self together, what you went through is not easy, it is hard and very hard to move from. But just relax and tell ur self IT IS OVER. you have to try and forget it , i know it is hard and may seem imposiible but try ur best. and i hope u can do it.

if u ever need someone to talk to write me,
ara1usa@hotmail.com

its not your fault nothing is your fault but you can try to suggest counceling for the both of u to your mother maybe someone can mediate while you talk to her

get some help.

Sounds like your father took a good deal of your childhood away. That was absolutely not your fault what-so-ever.

Now you have a choice to make - how much more of your life do you want to give to him? You can ruminate and marinate in your victimization for the rest of your life if you want to. Or you can get whatever help you need to put it behind you and have the marvelous life you deserve.

I'm not saying one is better than the other. You have every right to be angry and bitter and resentful. But that would be letting your father still have control over your life.

Sweetheart I wish I could give you a hug. I'm so sorry you were hurt for so long with no one to protect you. The only explanation I can think of is that your Mom has a huge amount of guilt hanging over her. She's just saying that because she knows once you get over it or at least you start healing then she can stop feeling so guilty. You both need to seek professional counseling so you can begin the healing process. Know your in my prayers tonight.

My heart is sad for you because your mother, whose number one job on this Earth is to protect you and she's SO in denial about how much you've suffered. You need intense therapy to deal with things that no young lady your age should ever have to deal with. She needs therapy too, but unfortunately, you have no control over that. Get help from a trusted teacher or other adult. I will pray for you.

just tell her to shut up and listen its not about her its about you if she can deal with it fine bt u need sum1 to listen to u right now so keep talking sum1 will listen to you and if your mom cant c ur hurting make her c tell her how bad you have been hurt and dnt back down keep talking untill she Finlay hears u! your mom needs to shut up and listen cuz denying wont make it go away

It is wrong for your mother to tell you to get over it. obviously it is something that has hurt you and hasn't healed and may take a while for the wound to close. I would agree that you should definately speak to a mental health professional. You and your mother together or just you. It can make a difference in your life. Best of luck to you.

It sounds like your mother is in denial. She just doesn't want to believe she married that monster. He is a low down dirty dog !!I am sorry that you had to go through that and even sorrier that your mother refuses to show you the love a mother should show her child. I am glad you are without distractions that shows that you are more mature than your mom. Please believe things will get better and if not please get counseling. You need to talk to someone. Above all else know that what your dad did to you wasn't your fault. I feel the pain of which you are referring -- been there before & it hurts and if you let it it will consume you. Try to stay focused on you and forget about the past as I know it is painful. Look forward to the future things will get better. Don't try to convince your mom as it sounds like she hasn't figured out how to accept it herself. her words were hurtful and she needs to show you love but maybe she don't know how. My prayers will be with you.





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