How do you move on from being separated from a child you love?!
Question: There is a little girl I have been babysitting for half the weekend every weekend for a year and suddenly a few weeks ago they told me they weren't going to be needing me anymore because the girl's grandma is going to be staying with them now. I asked if I could still visit her sometimes and the mom basically said no, that it was time to have some separation between their personal life and their daughter's daycare life (I work at her daycare).
I miss her very, very much. I've practically been her third parent since she was a baby (she's two now) and we're very attached to each other. I think the mom may have felt threatened by how close we are, which I understand and respect, but how do I move on now that she's not in my life so much?
I know she misses me too, because she asks for me all the time at work and clings to me and cries when she sees me.
I understand their need for separation, but how do I deal with this loss? She is very special to me and I really miss her.
Answers: There is a little girl I have been babysitting for half the weekend every weekend for a year and suddenly a few weeks ago they told me they weren't going to be needing me anymore because the girl's grandma is going to be staying with them now. I asked if I could still visit her sometimes and the mom basically said no, that it was time to have some separation between their personal life and their daughter's daycare life (I work at her daycare).
I miss her very, very much. I've practically been her third parent since she was a baby (she's two now) and we're very attached to each other. I think the mom may have felt threatened by how close we are, which I understand and respect, but how do I move on now that she's not in my life so much?
I know she misses me too, because she asks for me all the time at work and clings to me and cries when she sees me.
I understand their need for separation, but how do I deal with this loss? She is very special to me and I really miss her.
if you have her address maybe send her a card every once in a while to tell her you miss her and how special she is. the mom seems to be acting very inappropriate especially since the daughter adores you..thats just not right but she is the parent and there is nothing you can do but it cant hurt to try to send a card or a note...
always remember the special times you had with her..just know that noone can take away those times you had and you have to close that chapter in your life..there will be many children you bond with and it sounds like someday you will be a wonderful mother, aunt, caretaker, etc...
good luck sweety..in time the mother will know how immature shes being--this will teach you how not to be as a mother--ungrateful
There is nothing you can do about it. Just think of good memories you had with her
Be happy you have her at daycare and enjoy her there-and the other children. You will have your own someday and then there will be no comparison, even though you care-
You definitely need to develop some emotional separation. Perhaps you should talk to a counselor for a time while you work through it. At work, you have to be the strong one and work toward creating that separation with the child as well -- don't allow the clinging, firmly but kindly encourage her to play with the other kids or go get help from one of the other caregivers. It's gonna take time.