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Question: help please i have a cuzin who is in serious depression she has thought about killing herself and she cuts herselve with a sharp object to try to "relieve the pain"..i tried alot of things i tried talking to her but she won't listen she'll say she'll stop but she doesn't..How can i help her without anyone else knowing and by not taking her to a doctor???????????help please
Answers: help please i have a cuzin who is in serious depression she has thought about killing herself and she cuts herselve with a sharp object to try to "relieve the pain"..i tried alot of things i tried talking to her but she won't listen she'll say she'll stop but she doesn't..How can i help her without anyone else knowing and by not taking her to a doctor???????????help please
You can't help her. The trouble with anything that involves an individual's mentality, is that it is THEIR mental problem. They are the ones that have to want to get help and to seriously try and help themselves.
The best thing you can do is if she is under 18, make sure her parents know and that they need to do something. If they fail to find help for their daughter, you need to go to a school counselor and seek their help for your cousin. She is very ill and needs a doctor.
If there is any way you can talk her into going to a hospital, this is where she needs to be. This can't be a secret if you really want to help. She needs to know you will tell another adult if she doesn't. You can tell her you will be with her when she tells them if she wants. Tell her you will give her 3 days to tell (give a name....hopefully it's mom) and then you will talk to her mom (or whomever she was supposed to talk to). Then keep your word. You HAVE to.
She will get angry with you, I'm sure. But, even if you lose her as a friend, you might save a life, which is much more important. After all, this is what love is all about. She has some terrible secret that causes her a lot of pain and the cutting, believe it or not, the pain from the cut relieves the emotional pain she is having. It is terrible. She is very ashamed and feels it is all her fault. The cutting is also viewed as "punishment". She punishes herself for something she is viewing is her fault. Very often it involves sexual abuse, or other physical abuse in her past. (or even present).
PS:: regarding her not wanting to see a MD. If she is a minor, she has no rights, believe me. Even if you are an adult, and you are even thinking about suicide or dieing, you can be MADE to go into a psychiatric unit on an emergency. It is not legal or socially acceptable to hurt ones self.
Tell your parents, and let adults take care of this.
Good luck
Pray hard
I am an RN
Talk to an adult you can trust. She needs professional health. No reason to be scared of telling someone; what if she kills herself? I'm sure you don't want any regrets.
talk to her parents or another adult that you can trust.
explain to them whats going on, and myabe then they can contact the doctor for you.
make sure this is done as soon as possible.
good luck to you and your friend! :]
If shes cuttin herself you want to take her to a phychyatrist RIGHT NOW before she ends up killing herself explain to her that life will get better also after she fells better she will love you like never before
Thats not something you should be playing around with there is nothing you can do you have 2 get her real help you have 2 take her 2 a doc thats the only way 2 help she wont change by u saying stop its deeper then that and stuck in her head she needs professional help and if your truly her friend then you would make sure she gets the help she needs!
Good Luck
you have to tell someone and you have to get her to a doctor
trust me i know this is a serious issue and it will only get worse not better
it doesnt matter if she wants to go to a doctor
you have to tell someone like her parents or your parents
she needs help and it will only get worse if she doesnt get it
A doctor may be necessary. There is no shame in getting help. It could even be free. She could kill herself at any moment, and you would feel guilty for not getting her help.
you NEED to tell someone
well i will sugest you search for a book that
might help her out...like a motivation
book that will show her the opposite of what she thinks
or maybe taking her to psychologist i will sugest you tell her
parents and maybe send her to a some sort of rehab...
Well what iz caused this well feeling?You can draw a pic. of the ppl who love her and say if you kill yourself all the people who love you will be not happy u know sad.If that dose not help you can do a play,pertend you died or where in a lot of trouble,maybe that can make her think of something eles in life.Or you can pretend to say if she dosenot stop u will killslef i tried all these thingz the are suppose to work.Good Luck:D
There is no way to help your cousin without anyone else knowing. You are not a Dr. I am sorry to say this but she needs help you can NOT give her. You can be there to support her but that won't help her at this point, it seems she needs more than you know how or are able to give.
It seems scary BUT if you don't tell someone and get her professional help she will do something desperate, and there may not be any going back(ie she kills herself) PLEASE PLEASE tell your parents, your aunt or uncle a school counselor. She may be angry with you but wouldn't you rather have her be angry than dead????
You can see if you have SADS its a origination that will definitely help her!! I took in a girl her that my son had found (he doesn't bring home stray animals just stray kids) She had cut her arm and legs up then started drinking that was 2 years ago and now she is sooo much better I had to sign her to sads they took her up into a ambla. and they really help her I felt so guilt
because I did this but today she loves me more than her own mother Good luck I know what you are going threw
If she gets to a point where you are convinced that she will cause herself harm, you need to call 911. She can get to an ER for an evaluation and some help. She may be angry with you initially, however, she needs to deal with her issues in a healthy manner.