I have an anger management problem and its getting worse yet my parents won'!
Question: I just feel soooo angry all the time and I really can't control what I say and do and it's getting worse does anyone have any suggestions?
Answers: I just feel soooo angry all the time and I really can't control what I say and do and it's getting worse does anyone have any suggestions?
It is so strange that your parents won't allow you to get help! Wow, who ever heard of such a thing. Hmmm.... They just don't know how lucky they are; I had to practically DRAG my daughter in to the doc when she had your problem. lol
If they do not have health insurance, though, it can be very costly. What if you made a deal with them to pay them back as soon as you are able to get a job? (Just so you know up front, this could cost thousands of dollars to get to the bottom of.)
My youngest daughter who is 18 now became a very irritable, annoyed, angry person at about the age of 14, and there didn't seem to be anything that anyone could tell her or advise her or teach her that made a difference. She wasn't rebellious as in sneaking out or doing drugs or anything like that, she just was very likely to bite our heads off at the slightest thing. Even counseling did no good. Finally, the doc put her on anti-depressants (it is a medication for depression AND anxiety) and wow! did we ever see a difference.
She's not perfect now, but she's so much calmer and relaxed than she was. As it turns out, she was incredibly anxious all of those years and just really on edge every minute. I feel so bad that she had to suffer through that. It was like PMSing every single day. But it was normal to her, since she didn't know any different, so she didn't know to tell us what was wrong. We just thought she was being very naughty. Once, I didn't take her to Dairy Queen fast enough-- I had promised her I would take her after dinner, but I wanted to put away the food first and clear the table-- and she totally flipped out. She lunged at me like a tiger and I thought I was done for, but my son grabbed her just in time.
If I couldn't have access to professional help, I might try some herbal over-the-counter pills, like Valerian root. Smells bad, but it helps to calm the nerves so that one is not so "on edge" all the time. If one pill doesn't do it, you might try 2 or 3. You can find it in most larger grocery stores. Walmart has it in the vitamin section. Chamomile tea is also somewhat relaxing. Just don't take it on an ongoing basis because a ragweed allergy can develop.
Calcium WITH magnesium is a natural tranquilizer. Take no more than 2000 mg. daily of calcium and no more than 600 mg of magnesium.
A multi-vitamin is essential; sometimes if someone is missing just one important vitamin or mineral, it can throw the body off.
A B-Complex pill, taken 3 times a day is also very good for anxiety. It has several B vitamins which are all helpful.
My heart goes out to you. And to your parents. It is not easy for any of you, and I wish you could get the help you need I wonder if it would be beneficial to take the vitamins and herbs I mentioned. I got all that info out of a book on nutritional healing written jointly by a doctor and a nurse.
I wish you the very best. :)
you need professional help. Try writing your parents a letter telling them that you want to talk to someone. Hopefully they will listen. Good for you for acknowledging the problem. Good luck. :)
tear up things in the house lay on the floor start screaming out I'm sick of this repeatedly I need help kicking and screaming over and over they will get the point !!!
How old are you? If you are still in your teens, then hopfully it will be a phase you are going through, and will grow out of.
But i think the more important point is why your parents arent letting you get help. You have a right to get help, I think you should take your self to your GP (if you can) Your GP can refer you to services that can help. They wont give you drugs, they dont do that unless they have tried everything else first.
Go to the doctor and tell them how you feel and ask them to refer you to a counsellor/therapist.
if yr parents wont listen then u need to get help. u dont mention where ur but if ur in uk u may have a Connexions adviser at school, they may be able to help u or a YAC organisation near u who help teenagers. if u cant find either of these then i would suggest u ask maybe yr PSE teacher or school counsellor for details where u can get some help. good luck.
Try to figure out whats bothering you.
Is it the way your parents or someone else is treating you.
What age group are you in ? Most adolescents and young adults have a periods in their own self knowledge that makes you a bit confused.
Talk to someone, counselor at school perhaps.
I have the same thing sometimes. If it gets really bad go outside for a long walk away from people you may want to talk with later in life. It helps to just go away on your own too. Set a knocker on the door and tell your household that when it says do not disturb to leave you alone. Then try meditating. Breathe in to the count of 7, hold it for the count of 7, breathe out to the count of 7 and hold air out for the count of seven. If its a person that does it draw a picture or write the qualities that upset you about them and then rip it into itty bitty little pieces. That's all I can say.
Go to the gym and exersise. Go on the running machine and use the punchbag if they have one. Or become a boxer.
How old are you? If you are over 16 you can get any kind of help you need without their permission. Good luck.
All I can say is you really need to find some way to get help because I have been diagnosed as Borderline Personality Disorder and that includes having anger issues--and I don't mean just getting a little peaved. They are full blown rage attacks. This is not normal and you need help or else it will only make your more miserable and get worse. Good luck hun.
What are the symptoms of your anger? I mean is it verbally,physically,emotionally,internal... However yes you do need help and need to see a psychiatrist or a form of mental health professional.If you want to talk to someone I am more than willing to listen so feel free to email if you feel you need to. I hope you get better