I'm so scared. I just need someone to listen.?!
Question: I'm so scared of gaining weight.
I don't even know why I'm asking this question, I just feel so alone, and I hope there's someone out there who can understand where I'm coming from.
Right now I'm 5'3" and about 95 pounds. I've been really unwell lately. I had been doing much better with my eating disorder, but for the past month or so I've stopped getting better. And I've been getting much worse lately.
Well I have the flu right now, and I dont know, I ate a lot today, mostly soup and crackers and stuff. My stomach just hurt sooo bad and being hungry on top of that made me feel like I was digesting my stomach.
So anyway, now that I had eaten more than usual, I had some kind of anxiety attack and I'm so scared that I'm going to gain weight. I tried to make myself throw up, but I stopped when my cat came into the bathroom. She kinda snapped me out of it.
I think I need to go back into therapy.
How do I bring this up to my mother?
Answers: I'm so scared of gaining weight.
I don't even know why I'm asking this question, I just feel so alone, and I hope there's someone out there who can understand where I'm coming from.
Right now I'm 5'3" and about 95 pounds. I've been really unwell lately. I had been doing much better with my eating disorder, but for the past month or so I've stopped getting better. And I've been getting much worse lately.
Well I have the flu right now, and I dont know, I ate a lot today, mostly soup and crackers and stuff. My stomach just hurt sooo bad and being hungry on top of that made me feel like I was digesting my stomach.
So anyway, now that I had eaten more than usual, I had some kind of anxiety attack and I'm so scared that I'm going to gain weight. I tried to make myself throw up, but I stopped when my cat came into the bathroom. She kinda snapped me out of it.
I think I need to go back into therapy.
How do I bring this up to my mother?
tell her exactly what you just wrote here--honey, you need to gain some, with being underweight it also lowers your immune system, but you know all of this already--just try to realize that being underweight is as bad as overweight--gain to your ideal weight and then maintain that weight by healthy eating--most people get into trouble by gorging on food and good therapist and nutritionist will work together through all of it until you are able to gain the control you need---my sister was bulimic--after she finally stopped the vomiting, her weight naturally stayed normal the rest of her life because her system wouldn't let her over eat--but she had to get better to get there--please show your mom what you wrote here---and remember, if she has gotten you help before she loves you and wants you around--have her help you find support lines (phone or internet) when you get scared.
ask her if she noticed how much thinner you look in your clothes or how hard it's been to find clothes that fit you. Or if she notices how you've had a change in behavior, or more time in the bathroom, or alone.
I went through the same thing, you are perfectly welcome to email me, just go to my profile and do it from there or you can im me
Hi..you bring it up the same way you brought it up here! I'm a mum and i so hope that my babes would involve me in anything they felt scared about..I'm sure your ma would feel the same..our love is unconditional!!
Tell your mother, go back into therapy before its irreversible.
I'd just tell her. It's not really your fault it happens to a lot of people. But maybe you should go back to therapy because constantly worrying about stuff like gaining weight isn't good because the stress can make you loose weight which isn't good because it sounds like your already skinny enough and especially the throwing up thing isn't good, but you know that. Good luck!
I think you need to go back to therapy, too. I don't know if you need to be hospitalized, but some kind of therapy...and it needs to be for more than just a few months. The problem with ED is that people don't get how hard it is. I mean, alcoholics don't HAVE to drink ~ people with ED have to EAT, food is the enemy but we have to live with it. Unfortunatly, this is something you will probably struggle with your entire life ~ I know. Talk to your mom, tell her you are scared and need help. She needs to know this isn't just a quick fix but lifelong problem.
Okay, I get the feeling that you've been listening to a lot of public opinions.
I'm going to step out of a limb here and say, you have the image in your head of you turning into a hideous hippo. You're so scare of it, you're willing to hurt yourself to see that you don't go there. Well, being too skinning is ugly too.
Don't turn yourself into a Zombie. Here's what you need to do. Make sure your scale is set to Zero. Below, I've included a " Body Weight Calculator " link. Just click on it and fill in the blanks.
Pencil-thin was a fad in the late 80's. It's not good for you, and it make you look like the walking dead. Don't do it. Use the calculator, and monitor your weight. You will be fine.
Best wishes.
First of all it is good you have been able to realize old patterns of thoughts you are having again, that's very good! I am sure your mom would rather you just tell her that you are having these thoughts again then let it go on your own, and possibly having it get worse. You should definitely go back into therapy, there is nothing wrong or shameful to say you are not "cured", as this will most likely be a life-long affliction you will have to battle with. It's like any mental illness, you have good days then you have really bad days, it's how you choose to deal with the bad days that makes the difference. Good luck hun.
Your BMI says that you are in fact underweight, so I don't understand why you feel you are overweight. But the question of over/underweight is closely related to feeling depressed, because it is related to a sugar handling problem. People who have a problem converting the sugars in food into biological energy, lack the energy to produce the feel good neurotransmitters such as serotonin. Hence if you have hypoglycemia, it could be the cause of depression.
If the problem persist, I suggest that you ask your doctor to refer you to a Nutritional Doctor or a Clinical Nutritionist.
I think you need to go back to therapy too. I think the best way to tell your mom would be to sit her down and tell her everything you just told us here. I'm sure she will understand and she would want you to tell her if you were getting worse. You can also email me anytime you need to talk! I hope you feel better soon! =)
I think you need to go on some type of anti anxiety or anti depressant. New studies have actually been showing a link between anorexia and depression, and in these studies medication has really worked.
As far as bringing this issue up to your mother, this research also shows that anorexia and depression are genetically predisposed. So your mom or dad might have gone through something similar-just ask your mom if she's ever been depressed or had an eating disorder. It is sometimes easier to start off a serious discussion with a question.
I hope this helped some - hang in there. There are plenty of people in this world to help and listen - if you think it's time to seek treatment, then I think this is something you should definatly bring up to your mother and get moving with, before it becomes too late.
Good Luck!
Please speak with your Dr. If left untreated this could be fatal. I feel you have low self asteem and probably feel that your weight is the only thing yo can control. Please seek help!