Do I have paranoia problems? I often feel scared and insecured...?!
Question: I often feel scared when I'm home alone. I fear that someone would somehow sneak into my house, and attack/murder me. I know this sounds really foolish, but I'm a 16 year old girl, and the fears always gets worse at night time, when it's dark outside. Sometimes I get scared in my room, so I'd close the door. But then, I'd be afraid to go outside, because I think there's someone out there.
Whenever I hear a sound, I get really tense too.
There ARE times when I'm not scared, for example when i'm really busy, or have things on my mind.
Do i have paranoia problems? I haven't told anyone what I just wrote....
Please help? Thank you!
Answers: I often feel scared when I'm home alone. I fear that someone would somehow sneak into my house, and attack/murder me. I know this sounds really foolish, but I'm a 16 year old girl, and the fears always gets worse at night time, when it's dark outside. Sometimes I get scared in my room, so I'd close the door. But then, I'd be afraid to go outside, because I think there's someone out there.
Whenever I hear a sound, I get really tense too.
There ARE times when I'm not scared, for example when i'm really busy, or have things on my mind.
Do i have paranoia problems? I haven't told anyone what I just wrote....
Please help? Thank you!
Very VERY normal feelings to have sweetie.
I completely agree with 'angelic' who wrote an answer before me.
Normal.
Lots of people feel the same way.
Not nice to feel this way, no.
But completely normal.
Just try to have some rational 'adult' thoughts like:
go check all the doors and assure yourself they are locked and no one can come in. Tell yourself - ok, no one will come in as they are all locked and I have checked them all. THEN let that thought go, trusting yourself in checking all the doors.
If you hear a sound, go look out of the window. If you do not make a light (you know your way around your own house don't you?) then nobody will see you looking out the window from outside inwards. Just feel reassured that you take control in looking out the window seeing a bucket that has just blown over in the wind, or a dog that has just been barking at the moon. Assure yourself there is no one there and that you are in control of your environment.
If you are really afraid of anyone entering and scaring you, just practise in your mind what you will do IF.
Say - I will run to the phone (or put the phone close to your bed) and I will dial 999 and say 'help I am in number this in so and so street and I hear someone has come into my house'. The thought of being prepared will reassure you and then you can LET IT GO and relax. This is important as you do not have to keep thinking '999' and repeat what you will say. Once is enough, you will remember, now you can relax, you are as prepared as can be.
'Own' your environment. Know where everything is. Know what is flying about in the wind (did you leave a bucket out?!) and if you do not know, just go check before you go to sleep. Trust your feelings. Trust yourself. Trust that you will know what to do if anything were to happen. Promise yourself that you will look after yourself and that you will look after your loved ones. Then LET IT GO. try to relax. read a book.
It is very very normal to feel this way.
It is good to be a bit careful.
You are doing the right thing to explore your feelings and to learn more about yourself.
good luck!
sounds like panic attacks brought on by stress dear. i get them myself if i think about small spaces or getting something stuck on me. even getting lost in a video game will do it. Talk to your doctor about it and see what he/she can offer. its not a mental thing, least not to the point you should be locked up or something. You arnt mentally unstable i promise
Then I think you NEED to tell someone what you are feeling. They are feelings of insecurity and paranoia, but where are they stemming from... that's the question you need to ask yourself...and if you have no answer, then you need to find out...ie: perhaps some counseling... talking to your Mom, etc... What you are feeling is really NOT normal... don't wait until it escalates to the point that you don't want to leave your house. Talk about it...
Your fears are justifiable. Maybe you should concider a self defence class so that you have more confidence in your abilities to defend yourself in any giving situation. Unforturnatly, there are sick people in this world. It helped big time for my 16 yr. old daughter.
Talk to someone PLEASE. Whether it be a parent, teacher, counselor at school, or a doctor. Some fear is OK but it sounds like you have some real bad anxiety issues. I get a little nervous and scared myself but it doesn't overwhelm me like it does you. Talking to someone will really help you and may relieve some of your anxiety. You seem level headed otherwise but let your fears okverwhelm you.
Hey sweetie,
You know when we were young, our parents always used to scare us if we played late in the evenings!! They would say, ("if you don't come in right now the boochy man will get you!!!!!"")
so this image of this monster coming for us stayed with me for a long time. But , I soon got rid of it when I realised it was just a figment of my imagination (contributed ofcourse by my parents)
and then I told myself, I AM BIGGER THAN ANY BOOCHY MAN, ANY MONSTER, LET ANY ONE OR ANYTHING COME NEAR ME AND THEY WILL GET SCARED" I soon got out of my fears and free from all that silliness!!.
So , tell yourself you are bigger and more scary than all those imagined things out there.
Have confidence in your self and you will be peaceful !!
Get good peaceful books. Stay away from those Horror movies and books! They only ruin your mind!!
Stay blessed and beautiful!!!Lots of love.
stress??
I am 32 now and live a normal life; I walk my dog late at night throught the woods. I lived alone through college and through my husband's deployments. I tell you this because when I was your age, I felt the same thing. I put it down to an overactive imagination. Sometimes I saw or felt things that weren't there. I even crawled out my bedroom window when I was 12 and jumped from the 2nd floor of my house because I was afraid someone was in the house. I really do understand. I just want you to know that you will either mature out of it, or you can seek help if it doesn't get better in the next couple years. I am sometimes still a little jumpy, but life is normal. Just keep your mind busy so your imagination doesn't get overactive.