Why do i feel guilty???!


Question: I had a date with a guy Friday night and we made out..messed around..etc (no $ex). But i had been seen a previous guy for a few months. I really liked the previous guy...but he did not seem to take me seriously, and i only saw him seldomly (once a month). It didnt seem he was taking me seriously...so i drifted away..and havent had contact with him. So i decided to go out with this new guy, it seems like this guy...likes me...but why do i feel so guilty for going out with this new guy?? whats wrong...with me? i feel like i shouldnt be doing this...:(


Answers: I had a date with a guy Friday night and we made out..messed around..etc (no $ex). But i had been seen a previous guy for a few months. I really liked the previous guy...but he did not seem to take me seriously, and i only saw him seldomly (once a month). It didnt seem he was taking me seriously...so i drifted away..and havent had contact with him. So i decided to go out with this new guy, it seems like this guy...likes me...but why do i feel so guilty for going out with this new guy?? whats wrong...with me? i feel like i shouldnt be doing this...:(

Don't feel guilty and enjoy ;)

Clutch time?

Youre too nice for your own good.

dont feel guilty just pick a guy and stay with or just dump his ***..lol its that simple

dont feel bad at all.

you still love the other guy. and apparently the new guy is not as special as the old guy.

i think you feel guilty because you really like the other guy ["previous guy"] but then this new guy likes you and you don't have the same feelings for him as you do for the "previous guy".

i hope i got that right/made sense...

You feel guilty because there was no closure with the other guy. You have to move on with your life. Don't let the old guy put a damper on the relationship with a new one.

maybe deep down your feeling are a little bit more than you think

don't feel bad as long as you have no ties with the previous guy. make sure he knows that you're not exclusive with him.

It's because you must still have strong feelings for the first guy. Or you don't like the second guy enough to take away the guilt from the first guy you dated.

My advice, if you can REALLY get over that first guy, break it off, nice and clean. And continue having "fun" with that second guy ; ]

You must really care for the previous guy. If you don't know what it is, it must be your subconscious side. In the johari window of communication you have 4 sides open, blind, hidden, unknown. To reveal your blind side to your open side is called Self-awareness. Follow your instincts because they won't lead you wrong.

u prob still have feelings for the previous guy a lot of girls have this one guy they always go back to but then again it doesnt sound like u guys were very serious. i think you should make contact and hang out with him to find out how your feelings for each other stand

Yeah, I know what youre feeling.
Like your "kinda" dating someone, but not really.
I think you need to realize Guy # 1 isnt serious about you, and you arent about him.
You are free to date anyone you chose. I also, would feel strange if I ran into the other guy, but thats a "heads up " for him. He shouldve paid more attention.

you proberly feel guilty because of your own attachment to the old guy-so these are your own feelings that you may be projecting in to the new situation-you are not doing anything rong to feel guilty about-its not like your in a serious relationship with the first guy-epically if you say he do sent take you seriously-and you didn't see each other much-guilt is such a waist of energy-move on with your life and have fun-just my opinion

i maybe just a baby compared 2 u ,but i totally understand why u feel this way . I've felt that way before . i guess it's because we feel some type of commitment to these guys ,but if they don't take us seriously than we have to move on we cant just wait for them 2 come around. just give your self some time to think . think long and hard and don't make a decision until u know that your sure and ready.

It seems that you really love this previous guy. I would try to get in contact with him, and explain how you feel to him, and if he feels the same way, then gently explain to the current guy that you do like him, but it's not working out, and that you would still like to be friends. If the previous guy doesn't feel the same way, well, that's pretty much all it will take to be able to move on. We subconsiously hold on to someone we previously loved if the relationship ended abruptly with no closure. Get closure with the previous guy before truly making up your mind. And don't feel guilty. It's not your fault. =]]

You could feel un attatched..This guy may have been what you thought you wanted...but you never really did. I think the best thing for you to do is to be alone for awhile. You thought you wanted to date another guy, maybe you didnt want to...Maybe your still wondering how the once a month guy would have been if there was more time?

You have made an "investment" in the old guy, but wake up to the fact that he's not for you because you need a guy who will give you a return for your investment.
If new guy #2 doesn't "pay off" either, consider expanding your portfolio to other guys who will turn out to be "mutually funding". :-)





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