Counselor problem?!
Question: Last year when I was in the 7th grade I saw this counselor that was hired by my school because of my depression. I really liked seeing her I was so happy and I feel like I had benefited a lot! But now she went into private practice so she is not at the school any more. So they hired this really creepy guy. That was my only option for a counselor because my mom can't afford another one. Well when I had a meeting with him and my mom I was asked if I should be having a counselor, and I lied and said no I don't need one because he makes me uncomfortable, so I don't see him any more. How can I ask my mom to call my previous counselor? I know that she can't afford it but doesn't some counselor have reduced fees? The last time I saw my counselor she said If things weren't going well for me she would talk to me again. But my mom is to embarrassed to ask her to reduce our prices (I understand that) But I am afraid if I ask her if I can she a counselor she will freak out that I lied and make me see that creepy guy, and I will have no way out of it. I am just to scared to ask her because I am afraid of what she will do. Should I ask her to call her or not? Please help me! I don't mean to say he is creepy, he just makes me nervous and I prefer female counselors.
Answers: Last year when I was in the 7th grade I saw this counselor that was hired by my school because of my depression. I really liked seeing her I was so happy and I feel like I had benefited a lot! But now she went into private practice so she is not at the school any more. So they hired this really creepy guy. That was my only option for a counselor because my mom can't afford another one. Well when I had a meeting with him and my mom I was asked if I should be having a counselor, and I lied and said no I don't need one because he makes me uncomfortable, so I don't see him any more. How can I ask my mom to call my previous counselor? I know that she can't afford it but doesn't some counselor have reduced fees? The last time I saw my counselor she said If things weren't going well for me she would talk to me again. But my mom is to embarrassed to ask her to reduce our prices (I understand that) But I am afraid if I ask her if I can she a counselor she will freak out that I lied and make me see that creepy guy, and I will have no way out of it. I am just to scared to ask her because I am afraid of what she will do. Should I ask her to call her or not? Please help me! I don't mean to say he is creepy, he just makes me nervous and I prefer female counselors.
Your mom is an adult. You are in 7th grade and should NOT be trying to take care of her. You need to tell your mom that you can't work with this counselor because he creeps you out. She will have to work out a solution. this is a job for your mom, not for you.
I just asked my hubby what he thought. He raised 5 kids who are all adults now, and he says this answer is what he would say, too.
This is NOT something you will get in trouble for! Your mom loves you and wants to help you out. A parent getting exasperated is not the same thing as being really angry with you, even if they sound crabby.
so I hope you talk to her soon & get all this worked out. the longer you take to do it, the harder it will be. You could go talk to her now, in fact. All the best to you!
call her cant hurt to ask
Go see the 'creepy counselor' one last time and tell him flat out how you feel and that you will only see the previous counselor. If he is the professional he claims to be he will contact your previous counselor and explain the situation to her....then she will decide whether or not to see you again.
If she agrees to see you, then you can talk to your mom and explain that your former counselor has agreed to see you.
It is understandable and normal to feel better with a female counselor; you can call your previous counselor to lower her fees due to you limited resources she can work with you, I know because one of my professors told me she does that when there is someone that cannot afford to pay the full price. Yea moms get uncomfortable so you should call the female counselor and then when she tells you she can reduce her price tell you mom to call her to make arrangements.
It is always best to be honest so be honest with your female counselor as to why you need her help. Take care.
Theres no reason you have to see the 'creepy' guy if you don't want to. But you do need to tell you mom how he makes you feel. You can see if the woman you like will consider another fee policy with your case, I know your moms pride might be in the way, but really its OK. If you like her, are comfortable, that all that matters. Youre seeing these people to help you, If they are truly interested in helping, they will find a way.Also, if she will not lower her session fees, you can ask her to refer you to someone she knows that is within your budget, she will do that, Im sure of it under the circumstance. Also, SOME healthcare insurance providers will assist with the bill for counseling, Have your mom look into you plan and see what is offered, if anything. But, you dont have to see the creepy man if you dont want to, and dont think that you do. But again, you need to tell your mom your honest feelings about him and tell the councilor you do like about how you feel about meeting with him too, That's a must!