Do you handle "negative feedback" well and if so, how do you do it?!


Question: How do you handle negative feeback at work without feeling like a complete loser and without becoming horribly depressed? I have been with my company for 1 year as a software designer. With this last project I'm getting some negative feedback. I'm having a hard time digesting it and I'm becoming depressed.

HELP!


Answers: How do you handle negative feeback at work without feeling like a complete loser and without becoming horribly depressed? I have been with my company for 1 year as a software designer. With this last project I'm getting some negative feedback. I'm having a hard time digesting it and I'm becoming depressed.

HELP!

I agree with Q. However, if you are receiving negative feedback WITHOUT a prescription for growth or improvement, then I believe it is a dead-end situation. It's the difference between "This won't work because..." and "YOU SUCK!" So negative feedback with advice, GOOD...negative feedback only, BAD.

don't take so personally just let it goo...and pray

i do handle negative feedback well, in fact i love it.

think about it this way, if ppl don't like your program, they obviously have reasons right? So first know WHY they gave you a negative feedback, and then fix that problem. That's the best way to perfect and get better. Critique brings you closer to perfection is my motto. The more critique the better, now that you know you can change.

don't take it personally, take it as helpful advice. It's much easier to "digest" it that way. =]

goodluck!

I didn't always take negative approach well and I ended up depressed because of it so I see what your saying, but you can't let these people get you down....alot of times people are more neagtive and spiteful because of they own problems going on in their life and they just target people, either way- the first thing I do is talk to them about it, how it made me feel, how I thought they were being TOO harsh and such......and this next step....LET IT GOOO!!!!!!!! Its so freaking hard to do, but you have to.....it is not healthy to hold it all in....just realize that some people will be mean and spiteful......forget them....you dont need them anyways.....try not to let people get you downn as hard as it sounds.....use friends and family as support system....you can make it through anything!

You call it negative feedback, now ask yourself this is it really negative feedback or constructive critisizm? Negative feedback usually means that someone is telling you what a screwed up job you did but they don't give you any solutions to solve that problem. Constructive Critisizm is when someone says " Hanna your new program has some minor glitches in it that causes such and such a problem. Do you think maybe we could do it this way?" Or even something like "You did this wrong, this is how you need to fix it" if they are just putting you down then you have every right to feel bummed out. But if they are trying to be helpful then you shouldn't let it bother you. I know that's easier said than done, but you need to try. Look at it this way. People who are giving you feedback are generally doing it to help you become a better person, employee, mother, girlfriend what have you. They are doing it to help you not hurt you. And if you honestly think they are just trying to be mean and hurt you then you may need to seek out a better place to be working. You need to be noticed and complimeted on the good things you do in your life just as much as you need the feedback for the things you need improvment on...even more so with the postive reinforcement.

Take that negative feedback when it comes your way and try to put your emotions aside and ask yourself " Was this constructive or destructive" and if it was constructive thank the person who gave it too you. If it was destruction ask the person what you could have done to make it more productive and then give them some constructive critisizm.

Don't take it personally, and if there is something that you can improve on fine you might want to do that otherwise here are 3 things I can say to people that feel the need to dump on me.

#1 I am sorry you feel that way. ( Doesn't mean you agree)
#2 You may be right. ( then again you may not be but conversation is done,)
#3 Now If they continue, you can stop them and say
" You know when you say this (XYZ) it makes me feel
bad. ( However you feel )

NO one can ever tell you that your feelings are wrong and perhaps they don't realize they are being insensitive.

I would also suggest that sometimes it may a be a good idea to wait an hour or so before using 3 as " Your " feelings may be hurt and if angry you may not be representing who "you"
want to be.





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