How do i not explode?!
Question: I am probably gonna get fired yet again whats the best way to handle it, avoidance is not an option
Answers: I am probably gonna get fired yet again whats the best way to handle it, avoidance is not an option
nothing personal, just business
Perhaps one of the most important things you will learn in life is how to control your emotions. Too many people are unable to hold back and they let loose every chance they get. The effect this has in business is that it shows others that you have no self-control. It proves that you can't even control your own balls. So how the hell are you going to control employees and run a business?
If you can't manage yourself, you sure won't be able to manage others, and business is about people boys, remember that. It always comes down to people. Even in my line of work, I can't just whack someone; I need to get permission first. This avoids guys taking early dirt naps because someone lost their temper over some broad or some loaded dice.
logic vs. emotion
People operate on two levels: rational and emotional. For most people, the emotional side is predominant. That is, they let their emotions and feelings rule their actions. Maybe they are just too lazy to think things through or they just don't have the brains to do so. Very few people live by logic, but it's these people that run the world. They calculate everything and don't let their feelings get in the way of getting the job done.
In this case I'm referring to controlling your temper. Some people (friends, colleagues, reporters, etc.) will try to make you lose your balance and logic by making you first lose your temper. When you lose your cool, you don't think straight, and consequently do and say things that can hurt you.
If our friend from earlier had just realized there was a small mistake on his bill and given his tab to the barman to fix, this whole thing could have easily been avoided. Instead, the guy chose to lose his cool and a few teeth in the process.
Keep reading and I'll give you some solid tips on how to control your emotions, and always stay in the driver's seatcontrol your emotions
Your goal isn't to stop feeling completely, but to no longer show the outside world that you are feeling anything on the emotional level. Emotions are usually communicated via body language and voice.
Thus, to control your emotions, you have to be aware of what your body is doing and what your mouth is saying.
control what you say
It's easier to control what comes out of your mouth. When someone says something insulting, disagreeable or aimed at ticking you off, you should just say nothing, if possible.
You may be insulted, but remember; it's nothing personal, just business. If you look at things from that perspective, nothing will ever insult you. In a business setting, if someone brings up phony arguments or rigged numbers, don't raise your voice and start yelling because it'll look like you've lost your head and your credibility will follow.
What you need to do is talk in your regular tone of voice and give rational arguments. Don't get inflamed at any point, just reason with the others. It may take time, but you will prevail.
Never say anything insulting back and never reply in a sarcastic way. You want the other guy to start wondering why he's not getting to you. He'll keep turning up the heat and he'll eventually look like the unreasonable fool.
control what you do
Controlling your body language is not as simple. We all have "tells," that is, little body language signals that tell the other person how we are feeling and by extension, what we may be thinking. What you need to practice (and this takes time) is remaining in a normal state. You should look the same whether you get good news or bad. That way, the other person will never really know what you're thinking.
Pay close attention to your eyes, mouth, how fast you breathe, and how much you move your hands and feet. For example, if you tap your feet rapidly upon hearing bad news and never normally tap your feet, it's a dead giveaway that the news is bugging you.
Each time you lose control of your emotions, think of it as a kink in your armor. If you lose it too often, you'll have dents and eventually holes in your outer shell; holes that your enemies will use to finish you off. So keep your cool at all times, no matter how "justified" you would be in losing your marbles. And remember; it's nothing personal, just business.
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Just say what is on your mind and explain everything to the person who is firing u in a nice and calmly way what u think....I know its probably gonna be harder that it sounds....cause i always let my anger take control sometimes and that is not good...
You can run while listening to music.....that always makes me feel better ^_^
well hope everything works out for ya....good luck and watch that anger cause it runs DEEP in my veins also......don't let it take control of you or else u will lose sight of everything......its true....take care
Take it with pride, then take a wizz in the coffee pot..
Use your anger and apply it to something healthy like running or boxing or sports where you can let out all the anger. Or sports where you can hit something. Try a batting cage or a gym.
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try not to stress out too much.
when im angry and stressed i listen to music.
try ttalking to your boss and hopefully he will be reasonable
Always think out side the box before uyou do or say anything.
Hey I'm the same way. I have just kept my mouth shut for the last few days at work because I know if I say something it is going to be the wrong thing and get me fired. My boss is an idiot. I like what I do, but I hate the company that I work for. I take meds that help keep me from blowing up, they aren't working so good right now. I feel like my entire head is going to literally explode, just blow into a million pieces......sometimes I wish it would.
How about try doing your job and trying not to get fired all the time?
gracefully, and proffesionally that is how.. you will say thank you and bye to them, you are going to left, call your laziest friend and get very drunk that night... the next day rest home, and the 3rd day go out looking for a new job... see ... you mourned your lost job, you rested and then to star fresh
well, the good thing about getting 'fired' is at least you can get some unemployment, hopefully, while you are seeking new employment...if you are wrongfully terminated, don't explode, go to an attorney, seek legal advice, and get some repayment out of it...Good luck....just go forward,and don't look back
Get your anger out first in a healthy way. Sports for example is a good way to get rid of steam. Make sure you are calmed down first when you go for the confrontation, so don't go there immediately after sports!
Realise yourself all the bad things that would come out if you would really explode. Explosions can have a damaging effect, not only for others but also for yourself.
Then, if you get fired, tell them your side of the story. Tell them in a clear, adult way. Be sure you are in control of yourself.
After that, make a new start.
You will probably not. Be calm and be optimistic.
- Reflect on all that brought you to this stage.
- Be sure you know what you want.
- Make amendments, apologise if necessary, genuinely.
- Learn from the experience and if it does happen, move on!
It is because you think too much about the consequences of your own actions that you have so much anger and stress. Instead of dwelling on the fact that you behaved in a way that makes you feel ashamed with yourself. Try to focus on being confident in yourself and do something you love. If you do not love work do something outside of it that is enjoyable so that unbearable work only becomes a small fragment of your life. Your anger is caused by storing all of your horrible feelings inside yourself. This is very unhealthy and leads to premature death. Some people believe it is the reason why men die at a younger age than women. Crying is a great way to release tension and anger but it must be sincere. Do not anticipate and calaculate ways to get rid of your feelings. You will be given an opportunity to release your emotions.