I am ugly fat and i want to be skinny but i cant be skinny cos nobody will let m!
Question: i have a lot going on in my life right now i mean my mum died 4 years ago and i live with my dad and my 3 brothers i miss my mum alot i have not really got over her death at all and i dont think i ever will. 2 years ago i had eating problems i would go days without eating but that eventually subsided and i started cutting myself instead on my wrists and stuff with a compass. i stopped doing thatcos i saw a counsellor and cried alot but now its all started again. i cut myself with knives, scissors and pins and cant stop and i also have a problem with eating. if i am depressed i do not eat anything at all and i also get really weird stomach aches. once i woke up and my stomach was hurting so so bad and it all went numb and tingly and i physically could not move and i fainted but i still didnt eat. that feeling went but i still feel so bad, my friends dont help and i told 1 of them, they were relaly concerned, i am 14, how do i deal with this,?
Answers: i have a lot going on in my life right now i mean my mum died 4 years ago and i live with my dad and my 3 brothers i miss my mum alot i have not really got over her death at all and i dont think i ever will. 2 years ago i had eating problems i would go days without eating but that eventually subsided and i started cutting myself instead on my wrists and stuff with a compass. i stopped doing thatcos i saw a counsellor and cried alot but now its all started again. i cut myself with knives, scissors and pins and cant stop and i also have a problem with eating. if i am depressed i do not eat anything at all and i also get really weird stomach aches. once i woke up and my stomach was hurting so so bad and it all went numb and tingly and i physically could not move and i fainted but i still didnt eat. that feeling went but i still feel so bad, my friends dont help and i told 1 of them, they were relaly concerned, i am 14, how do i deal with this,?
Ok let's pretend for a second that you are stupid and dumb and ugly, and smell, and no one likes you(I AM NOT SAYING YOU ARE). That still would not mean you have nothing to live for and that you should be treating your self like you are.
Now in reality, I don't know you, but I can definitely say you are being too hard on yourself. You are doing damage to your self for no good reason, and that is the first thing that has to change. But I think you know this and you are trying to change it and that is great.
You should continue to talk to a counselor/therapist. Remember that a counselor is the only person that is offering a paid service that you are building an actual personal relationship with. You just won't click with some people. If you are not comfortable or 'clicking' with that person, there is nothing preventing you from going to someone else. This is also good, because when you really talk to someone about how bad you view yourself, time and time again, you will soon realize that you are being too hard on yourself. And you can say how you really feel, without being embaresed. It is their job to listen to you and help you.
And it is a very difficult to lose a mom, but don't forget you have your dad and brothers that love U very much, and your mom is still with you in your heart. Be open with the way you feel with them, they are the ones that can likely help you the most.
I don't know if I offered you anything of value, but I just want to say, i hope you feel better soon. Remember, you will. no matter how bad U feel, things will brighten up. Trust me, I know from experience.
I wish you all the luck in the world.
You need to talk to a docter and get help with a diet and your depression. Stop trying to be your friends and be yourself
Stop right there. You are not stupid. Your not ugly or fat. You need to stop trashing yourself right now that just makes things worse. Cutting does not make your problem go away. After you cut and when that feeling goes away your sad again. Cutting is an addiction and you need real help. If you want to loose weight eat healthy not junk food. Who cares what that stupid boy thinks. It only matters what you think. If he does not like you for who you are then he is a loser. Please talk to your dad because you are better then all this. You need to love yourself before some boy likes you. I know your sad and feeling alone but you do not have to feel that way.
lose some pounds
You really need to see someone about your cutting..and your eating disorder. Its really not good for you! If you want a guy to like you then they should like you for you not your weight or image on the outside..
You are very perceptive and understand that your depression probably stemmed from your feelings of loss and missing your mom. But what you are doing to yourself as a result is very self-destructive behavior. Cutting and anorexia are common conditions among young women who want to feel perfect but don't, and also are not expressing their pain in other ways. I would recommend talking to a good doctor about wanting to lose weight through healthy exercise and diet, but remembering not to hate yourself for not being at your goal weight. I have struggled with eating problems too and the best help I ever had was close friends reminding me that I was beautiful just as I was.
I am also very sorry to hear about your loss. It will definitely be hard to deal with your mom being gone, but time does heal wounds. There is a lot of hope for you to be very happy in the future. Try to keep your head up and keep on the bright side. I hope you are feeling much better soon.
Typical anorexic symptoms
I dont need to go into detail, because my words would be a bit predictable.
But I think you should always look at everything from many different perspectives. Never look at it in either black, or white. Find the grey, and look at the colours in between. Maybe you need to start a hobby, or join an art class, or a soccer club or something. Join an out of school social net work. Also, if you wait a year to get a job, you wont have that much work at school so you'll have time to balance it out and learn how to do that. A job makes you feel good because of the simple thing that you are needed to work there and you get paid for it too! Approach it from different angles that distract you from what you're focusing too much on.
play sports. get yourself interested in something. IM me through my profile if u'r about to cut again, we can be friends.