How to cope with loneliness?!
Question: I have been living on my own for the first time for almost a year now, and the longer I live on my own, The more i feel lonely. I have axiety also and this also doesnt help much. Alot of time i just walk around my apartment in bordom and sadness because it feels like i am all by myself all the time and feels like life is going nowhere. Alot of it is due to bordom though. did anyone else feel similar like this when they got there first apartment?
Answers: I have been living on my own for the first time for almost a year now, and the longer I live on my own, The more i feel lonely. I have axiety also and this also doesnt help much. Alot of time i just walk around my apartment in bordom and sadness because it feels like i am all by myself all the time and feels like life is going nowhere. Alot of it is due to bordom though. did anyone else feel similar like this when they got there first apartment?
i understand. i've been there and it can happen to a lot of people from time to time. try getting invoved in a sunday church group even if your not very religious. i have wandered into church when i feel down and i get there in time for the kitchen duties. wash a dish or two and eat all the great homemade food that the parishiners bring in. its all homemade. cookies and pie. awesome. noone will question you or shove religion on you. they are a great non judgemental group of people to talk to. go to a book store to read and have coffee. get to meet others in gathering spots. just get out of the house and walk. take up crafts once a week or something along that line. i know it costs money to do things, but if your finances are limited, i can understand your wanting to stay in. but you can invit someone over and watch a mutual movie you both like. stress management will cut down on your anxiety and stay away from caffiene. its terrible to be alone in the house bored and feeling anxiety. you've got your life ahead of you, there are good times to come in your life. if you havent found the perfect boyfriend yet, it gets better when you can have a trusting and close friend. boy or girl. go out there and give a little of yourself and let others know how nice you are. you will find someone who will give of thier time back. you sometimes have to search a little. i wish you all the best. there are good times in life, i promise. its great that you can talk about this too.
It's really difficult to live on your own for the first time, and anxiety certainly doesn't help. The best thing to do is to try to get out of your house on a regular basis, even if it's on your own. Go see a movie, or get coffee, or go to a bookstore, or wherever you feel comfortable. Call up some old friends, or your family, try to reconnect, get dinner, whatever. It doesn't matter what you do, as long as you're not wandering aimlessly about your apartment by yourself. That will just increase your loneliness.
get youself a kitty...not a dog......it ll always be w/u,wait for u,see u off when u leave,someone to giuve food to and etc
Go out somewhere when you get bored. See a friend or ask one over. Read a good book. Watch a movie. Start a hobby or join a hobby class to be around and meet others with the same interests. Take some classes. Personally, I enjoy it. I can do whatever I please whenever I please. Maybe you're not meant to live alone. Find somebody looking for a roommate or get one yourself if you have the room.