How to help others cope with depression?!
Question: I know that I am depressed and have a bad body image/low-self esteem (due to the past).
My boyfriend knows it as well and it really bothers him. He wants to help but doesn't know what to do and gets really frustrated and angry with me.
What can I tell him to do to help me out?
Is there anything that he can do to help me deal with it?
What kind of tips would you give to another to help one deal with depression?
Please help, this is tearing my relationship apart.
Answers: I know that I am depressed and have a bad body image/low-self esteem (due to the past).
My boyfriend knows it as well and it really bothers him. He wants to help but doesn't know what to do and gets really frustrated and angry with me.
What can I tell him to do to help me out?
Is there anything that he can do to help me deal with it?
What kind of tips would you give to another to help one deal with depression?
Please help, this is tearing my relationship apart.
When you are really down, he can help doing some chores, like make supper that night and clear away the dishes or whatever chore that is hard for you & just can't do when depressed.
Pop a comedy DVD into the player, or take you out to your favorite restaurant, budget permitting. Go on a vacation together, even if only one night in a resort, or in a motel or camping, again, depending on your budget.
Go walking together. Exercise helps depression A LOT.
Ask him to help you get involved in activities together, so you are busy and not sitting around feeling sorry for yourself. Such as a hobby, or playing string with the cat, fishing, etc. Explain that it is hard for you to be motivated, so you need help in that department.
Counseling would be a good option for you. If you think your depression might be chronic or genetic, you probably need medication. Also if your depression is very severe (suicidal, or can't hold down a job) Watch out for the SSRI's like prozac - that's the end of your sex life.
Remind him that it isn't him that is the problem, it is you, and he can't fix you. He shouldn't take everything personally. If you are sharp with him, be sure to apologize.
I hope something here helped - I have very severe bipolar disorder and many of these things have helped me & I am happily married. I have taken hubby into counseling with me on many occasions also, and that helped us form a team approach to handling my symptoms.
Just tell him as long as hes there for you, thats all that matters. And you should go see your doctor and see what goes from there. BUT I DO SAY DO NOT TALK ANTI DEPRESSANTS. they arnt good.
Hi, i kind of suffer for depression also.
The best thing to do is tell him to cheer you up, in a positive way. The bad thing to do is go "Are you okay?" or "What's wrong?" because for me, that makes me feel worse. Maybe you could tell him to point out negative things you do soyou can work on breaking the bad habits, and bring back the old, happy you. That's what my friends are doing and it seems to be working. Hope this helped :]
-katie
Yoga and or meditaion will give immediate relief and over time will eliminate the problem all together. It will enrich your life in other ways as well.
Google "Yoga Finder" for instruction in your area. Or if you want to do something right now, go here http://newfreebooks.com and click on the research section. The 10th book on that website may be a help as well, since it explains how to reconnect to your inner positive resources.
Now, I know you might be sceptical about this answer, but I know it works.... and the longer you keep up the practice the better life gets. It restores a connection to the inner self.
go to a doctor, because depression is a serious issue, so getting the proper help for him would be good in him dealing with things.
You have to say everything that is inside you no hiding no feeling embarrassed about it and he needs to support you by listening to you ,by talking you will feel better and by him listening to you will feel that there is somebody there that cares about you ,all this will give you a self-esteem and will make you feel good.