How to I ask my mom for a counselor?!
Question: last year when I was in the 7th grade I had to see this counselor because of my depression. I had no problem with it, because I liked her a lot, she seemed really caring and thoughtful and never judged me for any thing and I felt like I benefited from her a lot! But the problem is she went into private practice so she does not work for the school any more. So they hired this guy that I really don't like, and I prefer female counselors, so I don't see him. I really want to see my previous counselor again but I don't know how to ask my mom, she can't afford it because all we don't have money for extra things. It all goes to food, bills etc. But my counselor told me the last time she saw me if things weren't getting better for me that I could always come and see her again, but that was like last February so I don't know if she would still want to do it, and I know that If my mom called her and asked her if she could lower our prices that she would be embarrassed. And that is understandable. But I don't think that the anti depression pills are enough. I really think I could benefit from a counselor but my only option is that man I don't like, and like I said would rather have a female counselor because there are things I am not comfortable talking about with a man. I am just to embarrassed to ask my mom to call her, and I am afraid that if she finds out I need a counselor she will make me see that guy. Please help me! I feel so lost and don't know what to do.
Answers: last year when I was in the 7th grade I had to see this counselor because of my depression. I had no problem with it, because I liked her a lot, she seemed really caring and thoughtful and never judged me for any thing and I felt like I benefited from her a lot! But the problem is she went into private practice so she does not work for the school any more. So they hired this guy that I really don't like, and I prefer female counselors, so I don't see him. I really want to see my previous counselor again but I don't know how to ask my mom, she can't afford it because all we don't have money for extra things. It all goes to food, bills etc. But my counselor told me the last time she saw me if things weren't getting better for me that I could always come and see her again, but that was like last February so I don't know if she would still want to do it, and I know that If my mom called her and asked her if she could lower our prices that she would be embarrassed. And that is understandable. But I don't think that the anti depression pills are enough. I really think I could benefit from a counselor but my only option is that man I don't like, and like I said would rather have a female counselor because there are things I am not comfortable talking about with a man. I am just to embarrassed to ask my mom to call her, and I am afraid that if she finds out I need a counselor she will make me see that guy. Please help me! I feel so lost and don't know what to do.
you should ask, because at least by asking, you have a chance of seeing the counselor you like!
You can always search online for other free counselors you like!
I think you should just ask, chances r u'll see her again
there's nothing wrong with counseling. I'd be proud if my son had the strength to openly talk to me about it.
Do a yahoo people search for the old counselor. She may tell you to see the new guy. So go see him. I am sure he is just as qualified to talk to you as she is.
Tell your mom you feel like you're not over your depression and you feel as though you need some help so you want to talk to a counsler
she's your mom and she loves you. mothers only want what's best for their children, and if that's calling and asking for a lower price and maybe a little of embarassment, then she would do it because she loves you. go ahead and tell her, of course she will understand.
y dont u call the women counciler and ask her about the pricing? she'll prolly remeber you and give you a good deal + ur mom wont be embarassed and, you'll have your counciler back =]
hope this helps! good luck hun!
I would just tell her that your are uncomfortable talking to him. And that your old councler really made you feel comfortable. And that you could open up to her. Tell her that you will make the phone call if she is not comfortable with it, but you really want to get help. But you don't think the guy could help you.
i know this might not be the answer that you want, but i'm sure that if your mom knew what u just told a bunch of random strangers then she'd definitely consider paying for you to see the counselor that you want. Your mom will see how much this means to you and realize that she has to let u see that counselor for your sake.
you should possibly see your doctor about your medication.
and if you have health insurance find a reasonable counselor in the area that fits your cost then you should go to your mom and tell her that you used to go to your schools counselor but she quit and now i dont like the new person so i found this person outside of school with a reasonable cost could i possibly go to her?
I would think that your mom would be more than understanding if you did not feel as comfortable with a male counselor as you did your first. You could try telling your mom that you felt so comfortable with the lady, and she actually helped you with your problems to a degree that you really don't want to start all over again from the beginning telling a stranger all the things you have already covered with the first counselor.
I don't have a lot of extra money either, and I am a single mom, if my daughter came to me and told me she needed to see someone and the story you just discussed above, Honey I would find money somewhere to help her. Even if I had to swallow my pride, work another job, borrow the money, make payments. I would.
Good luck, you sound like you are really in tune with yourself already. Keep it up.
Explain to your mother that you're not comfortable with the guy counselor and do not feel that you are benefitting from spending time with him. Tell her that you really felt like you were getting better from the counselor that went in to private practice and that she said you could talk to her again if you wanted. Your mother will respect and understand that. You should try calling that counselor (after telling your mother) and talking out your issues. She may be able to refer you to a female counselor that isn't private practice but works at another school. No matter how embarrassed you feel about it, you should definitely let your mom in on what's going on with you. She'll respect you more for it, and for knowing that you value her enough to tell her the truth about what you're going through. Good luck!
Well first of all just tell your mother you need to talk to someone and you would feel more comfertable if it were a woman and not a man also tell her that you felt comfertable with your previous counselor so could she just call her and see what she says.Thats all you can do Im sure she will understand.
I understand where you're coming from. I can't imagine talking to a man about my sexual *** ult incident. Just tell your mom how you feel. Go to her in a very mature and respectful way and she will understand. Tell her that as a female you feel that there are things that you prefer to talk about and you prefer being counseled from a female's perspective on things. I don't see why your mom wouldn't understand this.
Have you considered calling this female counselor yourself and telling her what the problem is? I say this because it is a therapist's/counselor's job to act on what is best for the client/patient. If she is as nice a you say and believe she is, perhaps she will want to work something out with you. As a student of psychology, I know for a fact that people should not have to see a therapist whom they do not feel comfortable with. In your case, a male counselor. Call your friend (the lady counselor) and see what she has to say.
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You really should talk to your mom about this. Explain to her that you don't feel comfortable talking to the man at your school and you really need a female counselor. She'll find a way. And definately tell you that you want to see your old counselor. It's good to stick with someone you're comfortable talking with and who understands you. Good luck and I hope you feel better!
Sometimes verbally asking for something is extremely hard. Honestly, I think this post is well written and gets your true feelings across.
Perhaps you could let her read this post or write her a letter to express your feelings. It might be easier on you.
I truly hope it all works out for you. I wish I had more ideas, but I'm speaking from personal experience that writting your thoughts and feelings down on paper is much easier than saying them.
Also you said you are in the 7th grade, which makes you about 14. Where I live 14 is old enough to get a small part time job. Perhaps you could work a FEW hours a week to pay for your sessions ??
Best of luck <3
Hey.. firstly i would think very carefully about taking drugs, your extremely young and doctors are way to quick to give them out to people. They can have extreme side affect, so try and ween youself off them before you end up relying on them.
Im sure your mother will understand, it sounds like you need to have some cognitive behaviour therapy. Tell your mother you dont want to see a man, she will understand, dont forget she has been your age too. Good luck.
And your not alone, a lot of people feel the way you do, look forward to being happy again, i dont know what your problems are so i cant suggest much but as a teeneager your going through a lot of things already so just be really open with your family.
I can honestly say as a mother of a teenager that I love it when my daughter sees a counselor! It really makes talking to her much easier. We have really horrible health insurance, but we don't mind paying for something that works. Please sit your Mom down and explain to her (just like you did here) that you would really feel comfortable with the counselor that you were seeing and tell her exactly why. The counselor that you were seeing will still want to help you. I really have to tell you that having open communication with your mom and not being afraid to explain in detail why you feel you need to see your previous counselor will be a really good way to show your mom how responsible you are and also very compassionate toward your mom. You're an awesome young lady and Good luck to you!
perheps you could ask anouther adult to contact the councelor or even a teacher who you trust to understand. you could go to a doctor who might refer you to her and see if they know of any wayareound the costs. or you could call yourself and see if she can help you and then go to your mom. some doctors also do pro bono work, for low income patients. i think your best bet might be to go to a doctor and tell them your situation. they may know a cheeper female counciler. some gov inititives provide free councilors as well. good luck
Hi, I'm sorry that you suffer from depression, the best way is to be honest tell your mother how you feel and that you feel more comfortable with a female rather than a male, I'm sure your mother will do whatever it takes to get you the help you need. after all depression is a very serious health issue in teens. Good luck & god bless you.
Let your mom know you don't feel comfortable with the new counselor. Also let her know that you feel you were benefiting from your previous one. Tell her what's going on and I'm sure she'll listen, but you don't really know until you talk to her. You have to cross one bridge before you can get to another. Good luck!
Hello,Here is my opinion.The first thing you need to do is go to the male counselor.Tell Him you need advice nut want to see a female counselor.Ask him to respect your needs.
Second thing is the woman that was your counselor before.She is not going be available unless your mom gets money. That is not likely. Please remember that your worth plenty and that Life is good. Find the good in something every day of your life.
Go to your church counselor if you have one. maybe that is something you can look into. That is your option.Wake up and look at the good things everyday.
I have a daughter that has cerebral palsy and she can give me every reason to be depressed. But she will make me smile everyday. So i have learned to take the heartaches and turn them into a positive. I hope I helped you a little..Please talk your mom a lot and let her know how you feel .It is her job as your Mom to listen and help you with everything she can.
LOW COST/FREE COUNSELLING: Contact your county/local mental health agency, and find out what help they can offer. Psychological counselling, with a sliding scale, based on income, is available through many religious organisations, such as Catholic counselling, the Methodist church, and the Unitarian Universalists. You don't have to be a member. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ DEPRESSION: There is a quiz about depression, through sections 1, and 2, at ezy build, below: print the result, and take along to your primary mental health care provider. My standard post follows, but, if you are young, antidepressants are unsuitable for young people, because they have been shown to increase the rate of suicide, homicide, and aberrant behaviour. See depression treatments, at ezy build, below, in section 2, (much more detailed) or the Myspace blog of shaneris, and consult a doctor, to eliminate thyroid problems, etc. as possible contributing factors: also seek a referral to a therapist using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~... It is your decision, and yours alone, as to whether to take any antidepressants offered, but, before you do, read section 1, and check medications out at www.drugs.com so you will be on the lookout for side effects, like sexual dysfunction. My strong recommendation, however, is to follow the advice of my doctor, his associate, and Nathanial S. Lehrmann, MD, Marcelle Pick, OB/GYN NP, and Dr. Mercola, at www.mercola.com and many others: avoid antidepressants (pages 2V, and 2Z refer, & antidepressant websites: page 2). ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~... The reasons why we all share the same view on this are explained in full, as you will find, if you read it, and section 1. All of their advice, (except prayer, because many people are not religious) I have incorporated into the "core treatments" of the multidimensional approach to treating depression, including occupational therapy, Omega 3 fish oil supplements, or , preferably, "krill oil", (use the searchbar at http://www.mercola.com/ ) relaxation techniques, and exercise, with others as options, such as the supplements: SAMe, Inositol, or herbal remedies, like St. John's wort. If you are diagnosed with clinical (major) depression, antidepressants may be necessary for a while, which will give the treatments time to become effective. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~... The antidepressants themselves need at least several days, or even weeks to begin becoming effective. It's a good idea to taper off them slowly, with medical advice, after several months, say, to a couple of years, at most, because they are only effective in the long term for about 30% of people(they will always be there, if you find you can't cope without them). Because of this, you would be well advised to begin the treatments immediately, and maintain them. I'd just thank your mental health care provider, and pocket the prescription, trying the treatments for a few months, to see if they are sufficient for you, before considering filling it (unless clinically depressed, and having great difficulty functioning, or suicidal, in which case I'd take them). ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~... If the amount of daylight you have been exposed to recently has reduced, perhaps due to the change of seasons, see Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D.) in section 2, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and, instead of taking 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily; replace 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements for the winter months only! (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a little butter, to ensure its use; I take mine on sourdough rye bread, or toast, covered with fishpaste, and pepper, to mask the strong taste). Consider having your doctor test your vitamin D levels, using the 25 Hydroxyvitamin D test. Optimal levels are 50 - 55 ng/ml (115 - 125 nmol / L). It should be above 32 ng/ml. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~... Those people who receive adequate exposure to sunlight, daily, won't need the vitamin D from cod liver oil, but many people, particularly those in latitudes far from the equator, find this difficult, to achieve.
O.K. I'm old enough to be your Mom So here goes I see a psychologist. She is the best I have ALOT of medical problems and can't stand all the Dr.'s I have to see,I was Suicidal.At least you know you have a problem and I would call the counselor that you like and ask her personally how much would it be for you to come see her, Could you take a bus there and back ??How old are you? could you maybe help out baby sitting to get some money.Don' have to See her everyday just once a month and keep a journal .They have special lines if you need her she can talk to you...How's that ??
Now if you really want Mom to know show this and go to school .And help around the house !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Best of Kuck
1.Move up to ur mom
2. Say "I have a question.
3. open ur lips slowly curling ur tongue into saying the words "Can I get a counselor mom"