My mom is going through menopause for three years now and is driving me crazy, w!
Question: At first it was just hot flashes but then the extreme mood swings started. She went to her doctor and got hormone replacement and that helped out so much! But she heard something bad about them and is now scared to take them. Her mood swings returned and I think she may be suffering from depression. I will be having a conversation with her and she will start crying and saying that she doesnt think she was a good mother or that no one appreciates her. I do not criticize her at all and these mood swings usually happen if I do not do exactly as she says. Recently I started planning my wedding (she is very supportive and has lots of ideas) but when I dont like an Idea I gently say "that is a great idea, but I think I will do something else" but she still blows up or gets emotional. She will either start crying or get angry and say that I dont appreciate her and she doesnt know why she tries. I am doing my best to be nice and never say bad things to her and I am really concerned about her.
Answers: At first it was just hot flashes but then the extreme mood swings started. She went to her doctor and got hormone replacement and that helped out so much! But she heard something bad about them and is now scared to take them. Her mood swings returned and I think she may be suffering from depression. I will be having a conversation with her and she will start crying and saying that she doesnt think she was a good mother or that no one appreciates her. I do not criticize her at all and these mood swings usually happen if I do not do exactly as she says. Recently I started planning my wedding (she is very supportive and has lots of ideas) but when I dont like an Idea I gently say "that is a great idea, but I think I will do something else" but she still blows up or gets emotional. She will either start crying or get angry and say that I dont appreciate her and she doesnt know why she tries. I am doing my best to be nice and never say bad things to her and I am really concerned about her.
encourage her to speak again to her doctor. hormone replacement therapy is risky but not for everybody. believe me, she doesn't like feeling this way anymore than you like her feeling this way. your poor dad! I'm 50 and just starting menopause...i liken the symptoms to PMS and then multiply by 10! continue to be patient and remember, it's you and your fiance's wedding. keep your cool and make your plans. maybe don't discuss every aspect with her...i know you want to but maybe she's stressing about it and that sure doesn't help those crazed emotions. good luck
Prepare yourself, because one day you'll go through it too.
Tell me about it. Same with my wife. I'm thinking about running off with Jessica Simpson.
confront her and tell her how you feel. Ask her why? leave the room if she gets too emotional. tell her you want her to go back on her medication because you are worried
WELL HUN YOU'VE CONQUERD TAKING CARE OF THE SITUATION FOR THIS LONG RIGHT?
TAKE CARE OF HER, SHE WILL GET OVER THIS SOON.
It happens to everyone,
i can tell your being nice about it all,
but she just needs more support,
tell her you love her more, and maybe go with her ideas
believe me it will make her the happiest person ever,
if her daughter loves what she loves,
and take her to go see a doctor, obviously she needs something else for her mood swings there are alot of meds.
talk to a doctor about lithium its quit good and works great.
You should tell her that you would really like it if she went back on the hormone replacements. You could maybe research the bad thing she heard about them and see if it's a good enough reason to stay off of them (something that could actually really affect HER). Also, im sure theres more than 1 kind of hormone replacement and other methods to deal with menopause.
this is a job for google... :)
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The first thing that comes to my mind is accupuncture. It's been recently endorsed by the American Medical Associaton and it takes a lot to convince those guys.
Second, how about a joint visit to a therapist? Ask a few questions and see where that takes you.
Good luck.
Menopause is something that all women will eventually go through; however, it's a big hormonal imbalance. So, yoga helps to balance. The two of you could do it together.
If that doesn't work, you can always move out!
She should get over it soon. It is a normal part of aging, marking the end of a woman's reproductive years.More information and remedies at http://useinfo4.blogspot.com/