Do you think i need help?!
Question: I have always been very shy and self conscious. I have never had any friends my whole life because of this. I don't have a drivers license (and i am 27 years old). I don't cross roads if they are too busy, i don't go to the shops at all especially if there is heaps of people. My boyfriend does the grocery shopping, and pays the bills and everything else i need. I don't look at people when i talk to them, i look at the ground. My life consists of work, home, eat, smoke, sleep. The last time i went to the mall was October 2007 because i had to buy my family Xmas presents. I am turning into a hermit.
I always think that people are looking at me and thinking things about me, like how ugly i am or look at what clothes i am wearing and stuff like that. I am always stressed at work and very anxious, especially when we are busy which is most of the time. I don't know what to do, i think i am going crazy. I don't enjoy life any more because i am always worried and stressed. What should i do?
Answers: I have always been very shy and self conscious. I have never had any friends my whole life because of this. I don't have a drivers license (and i am 27 years old). I don't cross roads if they are too busy, i don't go to the shops at all especially if there is heaps of people. My boyfriend does the grocery shopping, and pays the bills and everything else i need. I don't look at people when i talk to them, i look at the ground. My life consists of work, home, eat, smoke, sleep. The last time i went to the mall was October 2007 because i had to buy my family Xmas presents. I am turning into a hermit.
I always think that people are looking at me and thinking things about me, like how ugly i am or look at what clothes i am wearing and stuff like that. I am always stressed at work and very anxious, especially when we are busy which is most of the time. I don't know what to do, i think i am going crazy. I don't enjoy life any more because i am always worried and stressed. What should i do?
I'm not sure where this armchair-psychologist diagnosis of agoraphobia is coming from but what you're describing appears to be related to depression and general anxiety.
The best advice you can be given is that you should see a therapist about these issues. Life is too short to be consumed by things like depression and anxiety, too short to be trapped in your own mind. A therapist will help to establish the root cause of the problem and get you past it so you can begin living a happy life.
you have Agoraphobia, and you should get help. click the link it might help you understand.
Have you seen a doctor? You may be suffering from depression.
your just shy of people only way you will really change is if you put in your mind that you can...start crossing busy streets and looking at people... at one point i was somewhat like that...especially in high school...I hated walking in the halls when classes changed because there were so many people...but i taught myself that people are people...they bleed just like I...dont live your life in fear...
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yeah u're depressed because of the way u feel about yourself not by others. even though ppl in this world can be very cruel to ppl for stupid reasons (i hate ppl like that) its something within u. i think that a doctor will only give u drugs that u dont need. and tell u what u can hear on here. i feel like u should look at urself within and realize ur good qualities and magnify them as much as possible whether it be singing drawing or whatever u're good at so u can see that u are here for a purpose. and the way u look or how u dress doesnt have to be the focal point of ur beauty. let it shine thru ur gift. and im willing to bet that u'll feel better about urself. what is it that u like to do? i want to know
President Roosevelt's wife was not exactly a beauty queen. But, the moment she began to speak, you were drawn into her fantastic personality. God brought you to Planet Earth for a reason. Your job from this second forward is to find out why you are here. It may take day's, week's or year's before you find yourself. It's worth the effort. Get "outside" yourself.
Start doing many different project for "other" people, (for example: go to a hospital and read to people who can't for what-ever reason) Real soon you'll be so busy helping other people, the old you will fall way far back somewhere forever.
Do this for all us parents (around the world) who's children have taken their own life.
It sounds like Agoraphobia. It is worry if being i open spaces and I think it can also be to do with being around others. You can get help on this. Call your Dr if you can face going down there. Its nothing to be ashamed about. It is very real and confusing for people with it.
With the going out I don't think you are a lone there. There is a lot of people who are image conscious. Always think people are looking down at them. But I can assure you this is not the case. When people are out the are getting on with there own things and don't worry about others. Have you ever thought if someone looks at you it not just because they are thinking of something horrid. Maybe they like your hair, make up, clothes smile eye. Or maybe the are just looking around. I love to just people watch and see what others are doing. It does not mean I am making fun of people.
I think this is something you need to get sorted and it can be done easily. I am sure your boyfriend out love to help to make the best of you.
1.u need to get out of ur house
2.if i wasnt mistaken u said u were afraid of wat other people thought who gives a dam wat they think of u
3.if ur going to let it ruin ur life its up to u
as matt said, it could be agoraphobia. What you're describing is in fact an irrational fear, meaning there is no actual danger for you to leave the house.
Like any phobia, it has to be treated in small steps. Obviously, you wouldn't feel comfortable running out the door to a crowded store right now! But perhaps you could go to the grocery store on a slow monday morning with someone you feel comfortable with. If that feel ok, maybe next week you could go to a park with slightly more people... and so on.
In addition to a phobia, perhaps you have an anxiety disorder or a paranoid personality problem.
Those are just some suggestions that I hope might help you understand.
Since you mentioned that this problem is affecting your life you should DEFINITELY go to a doctor. Not because you're crazy or you have a problem, but because there should never be anything affecting your quality of life. You are only 27 and there is a lot to do out there, and a doctor may be able to understand your condition more thoroughly and give you educated advise. It sounds like since this has been bothering you for years, that it is serious, but it doesn't have to continue!
Congratulations for seeking help and
good luck!
It definately sounds like agoraphobia you do need to seek medical advice as it gets worse if you dont as some dont leave their homes at all.