Can an abusive person (possibly schitzophrenic) ever really be helped???!
Question: Hello. My brother is abusive to his wife. He has always had an anger problem since we were kids. I have told his wife to leave him, because I dont want anything to happen to her & I dont want my nephew to have to grow up seeing that. She says she is going to leave him, but then she never does. Now I dont agree with what my brother does, but somethimes I do feel bad for him becuase he really doesn't want to be that way. He has broke down to me a few times, crying & saying that he hates himself for what he does & he really tries to change but he cant. He might be schitzophranic because are Dad is too, but we dont know him very well. I just know he was the same way. My brother wants to get help. My question is, Is it possible? Can anything really help him?? Or is this how will be forever? Thanks alot guys.
Answers: Hello. My brother is abusive to his wife. He has always had an anger problem since we were kids. I have told his wife to leave him, because I dont want anything to happen to her & I dont want my nephew to have to grow up seeing that. She says she is going to leave him, but then she never does. Now I dont agree with what my brother does, but somethimes I do feel bad for him becuase he really doesn't want to be that way. He has broke down to me a few times, crying & saying that he hates himself for what he does & he really tries to change but he cant. He might be schitzophranic because are Dad is too, but we dont know him very well. I just know he was the same way. My brother wants to get help. My question is, Is it possible? Can anything really help him?? Or is this how will be forever? Thanks alot guys.
YES!!! He can be helped. I know a few people who are schitzophrenic, and with the proper therapy and medication they can lead very fulfilling and normal lives. The first thing I would suggest to you, is to try and persuade him to seek out a therapist. I would also suggest telling his wife to stay with someone else for a little while. There is no sense in keeping herself and her children in an abusive situation. It will be very hard for her to do this. Most people will agree, but wont actually do it, because they are used to the pattern and think this time it will change. Unfortunately it won't change until he seeks help for this condition. You can help both of them by supporting them, and even providing them with information on seeking help.
This sounds nothing like schizophrenia.
Schizophrenia is a psychotic disorder, characterised by a loss of reality. Usually accompanied by one or all of the following symptoms: delusions, hallucinations, confused thinking....nothing to do with getting angry sometimes or having two names???. But yes schizophrenia can be treated with medication.
Sounds like he may need to see a dr about this(anger)-maybe needs some counselling or an antidepressant or something. Or marriage counselling
I to have lived with a man of this nature. I have been through several stages with this man. I thought trying to prove myself to him that I would stand by him no matter what, would help him with his problems. I have learned that it stems from issues as a child that they are unable to resolve. They really don't like being this way, they do not know when it will happen. It seems the one's he loves the most are the one's most affected by it. He did try to get help and all they told him was to express his anger, not to keep it in. To me that was not the answer I would take, he already has this problem of expressing his anger, there has to be another way. I will never find out. I had him leave after the last expressed anger.
He can only help himself, if he truly wants help.