Parents drive me crazy?!


Question: calling all the time, coming to my house 4 times a week, telling me how to raise my son, laughing when I say I cannot live my own life because they know everything, getting mad at me when I do not tell them every single thing in my life(for example got mad because I got my windows tinted in my truck without telling them)
I am married 23 with a baby


Answers: calling all the time, coming to my house 4 times a week, telling me how to raise my son, laughing when I say I cannot live my own life because they know everything, getting mad at me when I do not tell them every single thing in my life(for example got mad because I got my windows tinted in my truck without telling them)
I am married 23 with a baby

Sweetheart...you are woman now with a child of your own. If they didn't teach you what you need to know by now, then it's too late. Always remember that YOU have the final say. Its YOUR life...they have already lived theirs. They just seem to really care about you and there's nothing wrong with that. There IS something wrong with riding your back all the time. It doesn't help you be a better mommy mentally for your child. So..my answer is simple. DON'T ANSWER THE DOOR AND DONT PICK UP THE PHONE! You have that right! It's your home, and your phone, and if you don't feel like being bothered..than DONT BE! They can not FORCE you to listen to them and it's really causing you grief. Wait until you are in a better mood before dealing with them. You have to take control of your life sweetie! You have to make a stand and show them that you are not the little girl they are making you out to be! This is YOUR time to enjoy your child and your life. DO NOT FEEL GUILTY! They have to cut those strings sooner or later, and the longer you drag it out, the harder it is. They may threaten you with talk about not helping you anymore, or not being there...but trust me. If they are as persistant as you say, they'll come around. When my mom calls to nag...I send it to voicemail.

OK... I'm a bit younger but they definitely drive me INSANE!
But thanx for the heads up about what's coming:-)

WOW..I would go to a sycologist he will tell you what to do..They are really nice and understand you..They dedicate all of there time to you..That's what their for..
-Ali

honestly, the only way is to move farther away. if you love them and all but just want them to get off your back, visit them once in a while and tell them they can visit once in a while also. just move very very far away lol trust me it's all that worked, my parents are like this as well.

I have to say that you have to tell them, I think every parent thinks that their children are not capable of taking care of their own familily, sometimes they may feel jelous that you are doing a great job at raising your kids without their help. Tell them how you feel and tell them that they are making it very hard for you and they streess you. Tell them how you feel. If they don't pay any attention to what you have to say, I have to suggest moving a little farther from them, not very far but far enough for them to consider going to your house. I know parents can be very difficult but good luck with you and your new family of your own.

Beside moving away you might even want to tell your parents if they don't stop you'll have to file a restraining order. Sometime you just have to give people a good "kick in the nuts" to let them know you are a real woman/man and, unlike the child they think you are, don't take any crap.
I would also encourage your husband to help you voice this to your parents. Unless they are paying your bills and thus "working your job" or your treatment of your kid has gotten bad to the point child support needs to be involved they are essentially "kidnapping your kid"...so you have every right to be angry.

move to a different state.
change your number.

if you want to keep in touch call them once in a while from a private number.


or just talk to them

Ok. My mom knows EXACTLY how you feel.

My grandparents used to come over everyday and do the same exact thing. It also caused family problems; my dad cheated on my mom because he couldn't stand her parents being over all the time and we had no family time alone together. It got to the point where when we would go on vacation, my grandparents just HAD to come with us. I mean I love them and they no longer do it but I do think it is rude.

My mom got in a HUGE fight with her parents and told her never to come over again and they finally stopped coming over. Though my grandma still picks me up to go over and play and go shopping; it didn't ruin our relationship or anything.

I really don't know what to tell you. But I used to cry when they would come over because I was so sick of them. Just wanted to share a similar experience my mom had. It is not a good thing to be happening either. I hope it all works out for you guys.

Tell them that you think they are great parents, and did an awesome job of raising you. Compliment their parenting skills in every way. Then explain to them that you would like to live your own life, make your own decisions, and your own mistakes. Dont get angry when you talk to them, be sincere, and they might really listen!





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