I have mental issues?!
Question: Well these issues are really bizzare. I'm a 15 year old boy
There is this other dude in my class and whenever he talks to me I like become obsessed with him (I'm not gay by the way, haha)
I just want to make friends with him heaps. I've helped him out in some tough times and he said I am a good guy,
Ever since that, I have been like obsessed. It has basically happend with every single person who likes me and consideres me a friend.
I think one day I am going to freak some one out though.
It's a really bizzare problem
Also, I am currently feeling very depressed. All the sad things are coming back from my life in my mind.
How do I get over these problems?
Answers: Well these issues are really bizzare. I'm a 15 year old boy
There is this other dude in my class and whenever he talks to me I like become obsessed with him (I'm not gay by the way, haha)
I just want to make friends with him heaps. I've helped him out in some tough times and he said I am a good guy,
Ever since that, I have been like obsessed. It has basically happend with every single person who likes me and consideres me a friend.
I think one day I am going to freak some one out though.
It's a really bizzare problem
Also, I am currently feeling very depressed. All the sad things are coming back from my life in my mind.
How do I get over these problems?
First up, neither of those things are that 'bizarre'! They're both relatively normal.. especially depression.
Re friends, basically it sounds like you're just a sensitive person. There's a point of view that we're all 'naturally' like that towards each other, but build up a whole lot of 'mental gunk' over ourselves which means we don't act or think like everyone is our best friend. Unfortunately you gotta curb those instincts to survive... people are attracted to 'cool' people, not 'needy' ones... so you have to make a conscious effort to not show how you're feeling (until you fall in love of course ;-) )
You could maybe try to channel the energy into cool stuff.. be the guy who organises parties, trips, events etc for your friends.
Re depression, it's really common and part of being human is learning how to deal with it. There are no easy answers, but you're doing the right thing by asking questions. Personally I've found meditation, philosophy, laughing, and recreational drug use to all be good. (The last one you have to be really careful with though as it can easily backfire and the later you start the better... seriously. ;-) )
Just keep trying to find answers. There's no final, magic, perfect solution, but you'll learn how to manage your thoughts and make them work for you rather than against. Anything is good - books, counselling, meditation etc. I'd treat prozac as a last resort, nobody I know who has gone on it hasn't regretted it later.
Hope this kinda helps!
go the doctors,
dont take prosac though!
YOU NEED LOVE.
GO UP TO A GIRL AND TELL HER ' I WANT YOU TO BE MY MOMMY'
Hehe. I'll be your friend.
haha. I've never met anyone who's gone through that. But, it sounds interesting. Maybe it's a phase. As for the problems, always remember that someone else has bigger ones. Helps me a lot.
yea thats weird...maybe you had a hard time making friends when you were younger and so now you are obsessed with anyone who likes you.
You need to believe in youself more and taht you are a "good" person....just take a chill pill and dont worry about who likes you and who doesnt.
You have a strong desire to "belong" to feel accepted..It is a need that you have....
Start developing your interests...what appeals to you? Is it art, or music, or sports? What interests you hobby wise? Develop your intellect, become more of yourself, pray to God for the answers you seek. Ask for guidance from the angels, they will help you along. Work on yourself, that way as you grow and grow-up you may be a huge HELP to others..We are here for a purpose...
Peace be with you.
Sounds to me like a crush, which is quite normal - yes you can have a crush on a bloke and not be gay neccesarily, although there's clearly nothing wrong in being gay, bi or whatever. You will get over it in time. It won't be the first,, and if it was a girl you were talking about, you probably wouldn't even question it.
i know how you feel i used to be very similar i found that the people i didnt try to be freinds with became my best freinds i just never really realized. I know youll go to crazy legnths but doing that dosnt make people like you more or like you less theyll just get bored with you.
its just a stage it will pass dont worry mine just passed there now i was like that from about 15 until i was about 17
mate, you'll find that most of the medical answers on here (especially mental issue ones) are based on other people's experience, which may be very, very little. I suggest you see a doctor (psychiatrist, or your local GP), and soon.
hope this helps
It sounds to me as though you really need
a friend and there is nothing wrong with you we all seek that special friend we can talk to
at your age or any age being depressed once in a while is normal we all have a lot of stressors to deal with these day's
however if your deeply depressed it's time to see a doctor
Distraction always works best for me. I do things that help me change my thinking. Like hunt for new things on the internet, go for walks, play GTA SanAndreas. Find some one to kick it with. Get with my girl. Go to a movie. Why sit around and think bad thoughts. Get out of your self and do something else. Hope this helps.
I have had those obsessions before... I was taken by an elderly lady and did become her good friend and now the obsession has ended.. She is like a mom to me and I just was so deteremined to have her as a friend...I believe at the time my life felt empty.. I needed someone I could trust that would not just disappear because I say something they don't like...
well ... this helped me once when i fighting with my best-freind :
I got a thing that my grandmother gave me (take a thing that is special to you)
whenever i feel sad i take it and i look at it and i think about funny things and stuff and what i am grateful for and really gr8 moments. (i got over it in 2 days)
and about that obssesing thing:
i really dont know how to solve it, i just can say maybe ur happy to have a freind with you, i really dunno whats happening with u ... you can just talk with a doctor if u think it is a big problem.
Hello Mr.Big D
I am your Friend. I am 50 years old. You are my son's age.
Do feel that you are having mental issue.
You do not have any problems.
Follow simple steps
1.Do not see Home work is big issue.
2.Feel possitively
3.Do home work regularly
4.See some interesting TV Channel, Sports/Music/Dance
5.If feel uneasy, make a walk/ go and take a Ice Cream/Pizza
6. Select Good Friends
7.Develop communication
8.Feel that you are Good Boy.
9.Join some Music or Dance or Drawing Class.
10.see comedy film/ListenJokes
1.Findout your skill and bring out side
Avoid
1.Do not see horror Film/Fighting film,
2.Do not feel depressed.
Whenever you feel uneasy you sent e.mail.
I am having 9 years old Daughter ( my only Daughter).
She comes from school, after finishing Home work, she see joking film. Evening she goes for Dance & Music Class.
She takes cycle and make 10 rounds around my society.
She mixed with neighbouring Children and play.
DO NOT WORRY. WE ARE WITH YOU.
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Aloha from Down Unda!
Get yersef to a Methodist, Baptist Church, Savation Army & ask your family & friends to join you!
Best wishes~
Dont worry
this is not gay problem
You're starved for validation, approval and acceptance either from not receiving it growing up in your own family OR low self esteem...Find a school counselor to talk to about this and get ideas from them...Best part is it doesn't cost anything to ask them about this and it's a safe place share...
Good luck..
Maybe you just want to make more friends.
I don't know what you mean by "freak some one out." In what way?