NEED help in STAMMERING OR STUTTERING?!
Question: i stammer since the age of 5 or 6 i think now i am 16 and verry sad and my confidence level is very low i stammer when i meet strangers i get nervous talking to them thats when i hit rock bottom i have tried to go online any cure for stammering need urgent help any suggestion will work. I seriously need help. I can t even talk to girls because i know if i go there i will stammer in front of them i will make a complete fool of my selff PLEASE HELP i dont want my life to end up like this HELP
Answers: i stammer since the age of 5 or 6 i think now i am 16 and verry sad and my confidence level is very low i stammer when i meet strangers i get nervous talking to them thats when i hit rock bottom i have tried to go online any cure for stammering need urgent help any suggestion will work. I seriously need help. I can t even talk to girls because i know if i go there i will stammer in front of them i will make a complete fool of my selff PLEASE HELP i dont want my life to end up like this HELP
hi sam...a good friend of mine studders and stammers...i just knock him in the head he's better..joking..my younger brother coulndt even talk at five he was real stupid though..my mom just took him to a speech therapist..hes better now is in colleg on the deans list thing..but hes gay..lol..joking i think..well u probably need a speech therapist...geuss what we cant please everyone ..just let go of your fear..people dont apt preciate if u care enough to pronounce your words trust me they say this nice crap and that nice crap they dont care..open your mind sam,,,breath slow..think a little about ? u say ..think about slowly in your mind till it comes out free flowing...i use to get nervous around people till i said to myself this is my life and dam it i'm gonna live it ..I have morals n crap but I no longer have that did i say it right act right ? approach ..i just live my life, no ones paying my bills i take care of me..my friend gonna get better you will to..just have some patients,love,and take your time..if that doesnt work maybe u might need to do yoga or meditation stuff..i just listen to comedy shows all day..geuss what the guy i like most stutters flops flitzts,bloples the words he's funny as poop though..why did i just say that funny as pooop..oh my god i'm retarted..lol...sam..no ones perfect ..maybe you should be a comedian and stammer your way into riches..f it all ..live your life..baby boy ...peace
SPEECH DISORDERS: GENERAL ADVICE FOR ALL DISORDERS: Use the WebFerret search engine, your own, and the Wikipedia, and Google websites. GROUPS, at Myspace, Yahoo, and/or Google may be of assistance, and also contact the state, and national bodies for more information. STUTTERING :Try deliberately slowing your speech. You could try 4 different talking speeds: 85%, 90%, 95%, and 100% Consider your current rate of speech as being 105%, a rate at which you stutter frequently. Go back to 85%, then slowly increase, in stages, until you begin to stutter noticeably: then go back to 85%, and work your way up to the rate before you began stuttering at a rate that you find unacceptable. Keep at that rate, for a good while, maybe later, risking stepping it up one more notch; confident that you can always work your way back up from 85% again. Think of it in terms of modem speeds on your computer: if that speed is set too high for the connection to the ISP, there will be problems. You may well be currently "overclocking" your speech modem: the difference between your brain speed, and the rate at which you are able to speak clearly and distinctly, without stuttering markedly, is the issue. (I had to reduce modem speed to 80%, on my computer.) A different suggestion is putting some marbles in your mouth. See http://www.stutteringhelp.org/ and http://www.stuttering.net/ and http://www.stutteringtreatment.org/ and http://www.speakeasy.org.au/ and http://www.stuttering.org/bsrp.html ($$$) & http://www.casafuturatech.com/Books/ (Books/NoMiracle Cures/) (NoMiracleCures/index.shtml) & http://www.slc.sevier.org/comdis.html & http://www.perfect-voice.com/ Call (USA) 1800 992 9392 and 1800 221 2483. It may also be helpful to visit page 38, on self confidence, and the EFT version for use in public places, for which you can reasonably claim to have a headache, as you massage/tap your temples, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris (in section 53) saying/subvocalising to yourself something like: "Even though I may sometimes stutter, I deeply and completely accept myself". LISPING: http://members.tripod.com/Caroline_ (Caroline_Bowen/lisping.htm) PUBLIC SPEAKING: http://www.uncommonknowledge.com/ & http://www.voicebusiness.com.au/ and see social anxiety, at ezy-build on page 9, and, in your case, I'd consider getting the recommended book, or CD's, (the DVD's are expensive) after first checking out the extensive free email stuff. See social anxiety/shyness, and self confidence, in sections 9, and 38, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris Here is an exercise that can help you. It is called "Act as If." When you are in a social situation, act as if you are outgoing. Talk more, smile at everyone, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone. Watch some of your outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior.
Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit.
Try this for a month, in every situation you can. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing. One form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and scream out: "I'm queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave. People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot". But, you're probably not up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy). Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally. It is endearing, if you don't do it too often. Use positive affirmations: for example: "I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me".
Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind.
Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication. Start out small by asking the time and directions and gradually go bigger. Rewind your mistakes. Let's say you want to change an annoying laugh that you have, when you hear something funny, your old laugh will come out. You have to immediately think of what you wanted to happen, (i.e. your new, practiced laugh) and then do it immediately. It will be a little bit late, but slowly you will start to pair the two together, and eventually your brain will become conditioned to switch the first for the second. It usually takes 30 - 40 repetitions, to instill a new habit, with most people, so I estimate a similar amount, in the reprogramming process.
Try these resources for help:
www.stutteringhelp.org
http://stammeringcentre.org/s-index
http://stutteringselfhelp-stutteringself...
http://stutteringhelp-bud.blogspot.com/
http://notesonstuttering.blogspot.com/
Meet others who stutter/stammer here http://groups.myspace.com/stutteringfoun...
Contact The Stuttering Foundation of America as that is where our family got help. Their book "Self Therapy for the Stutterer" worked wonders after working through it step by step.