My teenage son is driving me insane? Help!?!
Question: He doesnt listen to me. He is rude,lies,verbally abusive, disrespectful, nasty if he doesnt get his own way, he antongonises me for fun & has hit me! Oh & now I have a broken window he did in one of his fits of rage.
He frequently misses school because he is too "sick" The school councillor has been trying to help me but to no avail.
If I ask him to do something once thats nagging.
He doesnt even want to see his father anymore as he doesnt like his new partner so I get no time for myself.
He tells me he is depressed but wont seek any help.
I have tried talking, reasoning, offering rewards NOTHING WORKS, we even went to councilling through the mental health unit at the local hospital. This was after he took a handful of sleeping tablets.
Im at my wits end! & I dont know how to cope with this anymore!
Any helpful advice would be appreciated. Please no smart a** comments.
Answers: He doesnt listen to me. He is rude,lies,verbally abusive, disrespectful, nasty if he doesnt get his own way, he antongonises me for fun & has hit me! Oh & now I have a broken window he did in one of his fits of rage.
He frequently misses school because he is too "sick" The school councillor has been trying to help me but to no avail.
If I ask him to do something once thats nagging.
He doesnt even want to see his father anymore as he doesnt like his new partner so I get no time for myself.
He tells me he is depressed but wont seek any help.
I have tried talking, reasoning, offering rewards NOTHING WORKS, we even went to councilling through the mental health unit at the local hospital. This was after he took a handful of sleeping tablets.
Im at my wits end! & I dont know how to cope with this anymore!
Any helpful advice would be appreciated. Please no smart a** comments.
he is crying out for help. you dont say how old he is. if he has no contact with his father, he is probably holding onto a lot of bitterness and anger, and you, unfortunately, take the brunt of this. keep working with the counsellor, he will more than likely open up the counsellor before he does you. its easy to see his behaviour as bad, but look at the underlying problems. as he took an overdose i would say he is deeply troubled, but you know your own son, and it could be he is simply wanting attention.
Wow, Im sorry to hear all that. Tough love is better than coddling... have him admitted to a psych unit at the hosp. in some cases medicaid will help you pay for this, if you dont get a hold of this now he will grow into a man you dont know
i know your son, he sounds a lot like my best friend, for a second i thought you might be his mother,, while he was with me i learnt a lot about him, he wasent very happy, but it wasent his fault, it was everyone around him, all kids just want a happy life, what smaking him sad?
love him. its all my best friend ever wanted,
Help him find a purpose in life. Help him with a hobby and then take part in it with him. Avoid say anything negative about him, think only positive. The reward thing is a little dangerous when there is no love in it. I am sure you love him. It is amazing how simply thinking you love him, saying I love you in your head, when you are talking with him will change the micro expression in your face. Studies are showing that micro expression are what people get intuition from. Best of luck.
well first he is a teen so hes going through puberty so there is nothing wrong its natural
Oh I remember being a boy of 15, parents divorced and lerning about girls, sex, and H.S. and how dumn my parents were and I just wanted to leave home are run away.
I think that is where your son is at now. Lost in the teen years without parents their for him in his eyes.
My first thought was to say let him go and visit his dad for the summer if that is posible. This would give you time and him to see that he misses you too. It will not be long and he will be off to war or college, and you should start to put those ideas into his head of his future based on what he wants to do with his life and having a part in shaping it himself.
Being a parent isn't easy at this point in life. Being a single parent is only harder. I learned from my Mother, she let me go and live with my Father so I wouldn't run away and that I would maybe learn more in school as a young boy. She was right, I was out of control for her, but not my dad. Funny how over the years that followed I grow to lover her more and and understand her for all that she was to me. A great mother, a great friend, and a partner in life as we both grow older, had breakfast once a week together and then she was gone. I miss her still, but only have good memories of her now, and very few of the past as that boy that took cars, set fires and grow up as a hell raiser.
I did grow up and with the help of both of my parents I became the man I am today. Retired young, educated, 3 degrees and 40 years on the job and ret. before I was 55. I tell you this so you can see, your son can change and you can help him, but you can only guild him at this age.
Be brave and stronge Mother, and be his friend also.
Johnny 326 am Mar 14 2008
wow hes worse then i was.. now if i he is on the order of how i acted, hes giving off the essence of wanting to be independent. besides the fact of him being depressed he also has really extreme anger issues, an attitude adjustment is in the makings, he may also be lashing out at you for separating from your husband. if giving him his space for how much it may hurt to do on leaving him alone. i know asking him to do things around the house is a big problem try not asking him, if it comes down to wanting him to try and do something around the house try bribing him. if he has friends over and you talk to any of them, try finding out from them whats truly wrong with him. hope things get better.
it could be puberty and also just for attention
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