What's wrong with me, I can't stay interested in anything?!


Question: Since i got divorced about 3 years ago, I have found it very hard to stay interested in otehr women and other objects like cars and home ect... I have gone through owning about 6 cars in the last 3 years and that borrowing money for them too.

I get into relationships and i get bored after a short while, I have been with my girlfriend for 1 year now, I feel the need to get away from her. As soon as I break up with my past girlfriends I feel the need to find a new one as soon as possible.
I have been in my own home now for almost 3 years and i feel like i want to move. I wonder what is wrong with me, is it a frear of the commitment to someone or something


Answers: Since i got divorced about 3 years ago, I have found it very hard to stay interested in otehr women and other objects like cars and home ect... I have gone through owning about 6 cars in the last 3 years and that borrowing money for them too.

I get into relationships and i get bored after a short while, I have been with my girlfriend for 1 year now, I feel the need to get away from her. As soon as I break up with my past girlfriends I feel the need to find a new one as soon as possible.
I have been in my own home now for almost 3 years and i feel like i want to move. I wonder what is wrong with me, is it a frear of the commitment to someone or something

Hello again Big Fella,

Hey Mate, Nothing wrong with You. It is a natural feeling that Guys get after a serious relationship with a woman they have been with for a few Years. You seem to lose trust in other women (Even if they are true to You) You look to blame them for your divorce and really there is no trust there, as You fear the same thing will happen again. My advice (I have had 2 divorce settlements) is to slow down and look where You want to go in life. Don't rush your relationship with your new Lady. Give her some time as well. My car is an Evo 5 and I have had it for 5 years and would never part with it. Buying new cars will only cost You money and do nothing for your state of living to pull in women. I went out with many women after my first divorce and enjoyed it. You seem to be doing something they call the rebound. Just have fun first as You are not ready to take up a serious relationship. Get it out of your system first

Although you may not be typically "sad"... one of the many symptoms of depression is a loss of interest. This could include relationships, objects that were once important to you etc. Please speak to a doctor about depression, it could be affecting you in more ways than you know.

I guess you could be feeling a bit lost and looking for ways to replace what you had in your marriage.

That sense of total commitment that should exist in marriage, where you can be just you, where you can be both the good you and the messy you and tidy you and the sloppy you etc. Where pretense and over trying or trying to impress should have no place.

You need to find some sense of direction in your life that extends beyond the material (house and car) and beyond transient relationships.

What plan do you have for the future, where are you heading with your life, you career, you personal interests, sport and hobbies. Make plans that take you where you want to go and focus on those, not on cars. Perhaps if you begin to feel more fulfilled as an individual you will have more interest in longer lasting relationships as well. However if you find yourself full of negative thoughts, always feeling lost or alone, then chances are you are depressed and may need some professional support. That need not be drugs, it could just be you need someone to help you get through it and out onto the other side.

Be safe, be sage





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