How do i stop my negative thoughts ?!


Question: I constantly have terrible thoughts running through my mind and I can't control it. I think I'm ugly, stupid, repulsive and worthless. The only reason I dont kill myself is that I dont want to hurt my mother even though I think deep down she doesnt really know or understand me.
These thoughts arent logical. I know logically I have a lot going for me. I'm tall, thin and pretty( everyone else says so). I'm very fit. Everyone at work seems to really like me. I'm an international flight attendant and im financially secure due to an inheritance but I really think I'm just fooling everyone into thinking I'm pretty and confident.
However I still have "I'm stupid, worthless, hideous, alone...I wish I was dead" constantly running through my mind over and over and I dont know how to make it stop since I really do think its true. I have already tried several anti-depressants but still have these thoughts. How do I make the thoughts go away?


Answers: I constantly have terrible thoughts running through my mind and I can't control it. I think I'm ugly, stupid, repulsive and worthless. The only reason I dont kill myself is that I dont want to hurt my mother even though I think deep down she doesnt really know or understand me.
These thoughts arent logical. I know logically I have a lot going for me. I'm tall, thin and pretty( everyone else says so). I'm very fit. Everyone at work seems to really like me. I'm an international flight attendant and im financially secure due to an inheritance but I really think I'm just fooling everyone into thinking I'm pretty and confident.
However I still have "I'm stupid, worthless, hideous, alone...I wish I was dead" constantly running through my mind over and over and I dont know how to make it stop since I really do think its true. I have already tried several anti-depressants but still have these thoughts. How do I make the thoughts go away?

This is a tough one. I've read alot about depression, having experiances alot of it around me and you may well have a condition, but chanses areyou've been to the doctor and nothing has improved for you.

Something really important it to understand the power that you have over yourself and your life. You are in a terrible habbit of thinking about yourself in a negative way - change it. It sounds like crap but it really is that simple.

I used to drink quite alot and I got pretty down on myself. Like yourself I felt like everyone else thought I was wonderful, and I was dancing to their tune whilst secretly thinking awful things about myself. I am really not big on self-help books - I tend to find them patronising and full of hippy bullsh*t but I was given 'The Power Of Now' by Eckhart Tolle by a close friend. It gave me a very new perspective on life and I've been able to reform my thinking and the way I live. I'm a happier, healthier, fun and confident version of how I used to be and it's made every aspect of my life a thousand times better. Seriously, give it a go. It was written by a man (with a bizzarre name!) who had been scuisidal and tried to topp himself a great many times, untill he 'cured' himself so to speak. It's not only a beautiful and brilliant experiance to read the book, but it was the good hard kick up the a*s that I needed to see the world as it really was, and stop thinking about myself all the time. There are people in the world who are poor, who are sick, who live lives that are hard every day and who still are happy. Happiness is yours whenever you want it. I'm not religious or crazy, if you really want to change this then you can! Good luck and I really hope you take my advice, I'm pretty sure that book saved my life.

so do i, my friend. i wish death more than anything else... how do you stop them? you dont, I actually want those thoughts. I want those negative thoughts because the more of them the worse I'll be and the sooner it'll tip me over the edge and the sooner I'll hit rock bottom and just end my life and get it over with. Im sick and tired of being in the middle, not good enough to be good and not bad enough to be dead, instead im stuck in the middle suffering

I know someone like that....just relax, and be real...you may think you are fooling everyone, but really you aren't...you have to start maybe expressing to others what you like about them when they give you compliments...focus on why you love your friends/family and express it...the positive will come back to you from their reactions.

Spend a few minutes a day thinking of what you have to be grateful for.

Also spend a few minutes each day thinking of what you have going for you, and of what you're accomplished.

This will help to turn your thinking in a more positive direction. It sounds as if at some stage in your past people have said unkind things to you that kind of got stuck in your mind. But you can get rid of them by changing your mind-set.

This may help as well:

http://www.spirituality.com/

Ok....I know what I'm about to say, you'll probably disregard it, but I want you to give it a shot.

Pray to God...Honestly. Just tell him everything. Ask for forgiveness for the life you've led, because I know you've sinned at least once in your life. Ask him to come into your life, and to take it over and make the most of it. Read the Bible on a daily basis, and really try to understand it. Find a good Bible based church.

Trust me, it'll really help you. God has made my life wonderful, and he can do the same for you.

God bless you. :)

Maybe although you have a lot of people around you, you feel as though not everyone really knows you. So your personal thoughts and anguish are cries out for help, or really a friend to talk to.

Or

You should seek therapy, and take the appropriate medication. Depression, anxiety disorder, and many other things can lead you to feel this way.

Go to see a counselor and get advice from him/her. Also try consulting your parents and friends about that. If you dont want, try taking up new sports or new hobbies to occupy urselves with many things.

dont bottle down ur feelings and thoughts, shout to the sea.u will feel better!=)

Deep down you know thats not true but it gives you some satisfaction to beat yourself up. Maybe you did something in your past or someone hurt you and you cannot/haven't forgivin yourself for it.

Write down all the things you've accomplished that you wanted to. The great things about you. carry it with you wherever you go and when you start to think negative thoughts pull it out and read it to yourself.

Talk to a therapist. They may be able to help you find out what it is that makes you feel this way, and have other means of stopping those thoughts.

HHmmm. Whats really bothering you? Deal with that and youll be back to normal in no time. From a nurse!

Challange every negitive thought with a positive no matter how small. It's called cognitive thinking and most shrinks practice this. Try imaginative thearpy. Do not sucumb to these thoughts as most of them are a waste of time. You are worth it and you can do it. XXXXXXX

Look for a good church and start going to generate and develop faith in you. When you begin to hear the word of God your life will never remain the same. That will make every negative thoughts of yours to become positive thoughts.

You may be being harassed by evil spirits. Or you might have been programed to think that way by the people around you. In either case. Jesus will help you with this problem. Yes He really will. He helped me so much with my thought life. First pray and ask Him to help you. Then your mind must be transformed by the word of God. and the Holy Spirit of God. Thoughts of suicide are usually from the devil. Gods word says you were fearfully and wonderously made. It says that you are the righteousness of Christ. It says you are a child of God. You were worth so much to God that He gave His only begotten Son Jesus that whosoever (thats you) believes in Him should not perish but have evrlasting life. Don't take drugs they dont help. Go visit a christian book store and ask for some truly uplifting and self esteem building books and posters. I had a wonderfull poster and I read it out loud every day It tells who you are in Christ Dont listen to the lies. You are precious to our Lord Jesus and He wants to be your companion. You can rebuke the thoughts in Jesus name. It works. At first it may be often that you have to address the problem but with time in will be less and less until it is very very seldom. I will pray for you and loco too. God be with you and give you peace.

try neuro linguistic programming.
also think about people who are worse off then you.

well just think the other persons in the street! you're luckier in your own different way. think about this, how can you be qualified as a flight attendant if you don't have the guts! smile! you are blessed!

When you say that you think you are "ugly, stupid, repulsive and worthless", you are probably having a low self esteem to begin with. You do not love yourself. Period.

Anti-depressants do not help anyone get rid of negative thoughts. They are just temporary solutions.

You need to start loving and forgiving yourself even if you have made a mistake.

You will need to change the thoughts that are currently running in your mind to more positive ones. Watch this movie to understand about the power of positive thoughts
http://www.attractionmindmap.com/the-law...

I went through something similar. I felt repulsive. I had abused my meds to escape memories that surfaced in college. The drug changed me and devastated my family. But I also had someone telling me for years how foolish, wasteful, and wrong I was. She made me feel like a bad mother, etc. By the time I escaped her, I was ashamed to be seen on the street.

Here are some suggestions. First, think of who you are. When I did this, I couldn't see anything worthwhile at first. But then I realized I had a good heart. I'm compassionate. I love people (even though I was TOLD that I don't). I adore my children and did the best I could with what I had. I'm talented



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