I really don't see the point of life???please help me!?!


Question: OKAY
so I'm 14 and im seeing a therapist for this
I think of suicide
BUt i wont
and I am IN love
Its a gut feeling
I cant live without this guy i wanna stay this way forever but with happier thoughts
I mean whats the point of life?
if were gonna suffer
IM always depressed
PLease help me
I wanna be happy again
='[
I have a bad family
IN 07 i wasnt like this i was a happy person


Answers: OKAY
so I'm 14 and im seeing a therapist for this
I think of suicide
BUt i wont
and I am IN love
Its a gut feeling
I cant live without this guy i wanna stay this way forever but with happier thoughts
I mean whats the point of life?
if were gonna suffer
IM always depressed
PLease help me
I wanna be happy again
='[
I have a bad family
IN 07 i wasnt like this i was a happy person

You're still at a young age, I know how you feel, I once went through a stage like that when I was about your age.
Racing hormones, new feelings, everyone goes through it.

You still have a very long and hopefully joyful life ahead of you, just because you feel this way now doesn't mean you will always be like this.

And your also in love, which every girl wants to experience in their life, but a word of advice, your young, a bit to early to want to stay with someone forever. Give that a few years. =]
You could try to talk to him more even if you already know him, But as I said wait 'till your older to actually make a commitment.

The point of life is to enjoy it, God put you here for a reason. Think happy thoughts! =] Your lucky to be in love, your lucky to be alive and breathing.
Right now, your just thinking about the bad stuff, relax and do something you enjoy.

If you want to be happy, it's okay to just start of slowly, try to smile and laugh more, do things you enjoy, do new things.

If it's because of your family try talking to them, I know it wont be easy, but once again start slow.
Try talking about the joyful things that happen n' stuff (I'm not gonna be a therapist for sure If I just write "Try talking! ").

Oh! And yes, that sounds a bit like Bi-polar disorder, You'll have to go to therapy for that, But It'll be a step to happiness!

Good Luck! =] Sorry If it's a bit on the long side.
~Karon

Read my last question.

how is your spirituality? join a support group of some sorts. it all starts within..

you need a couple boyfriends, not just 1, life is about many relationships that involve love, its okay to love more than 1 boy and like each boy for a different reason

just talk about it to someone,
talk to him and just be friends 4 a while
don't think to be happy. sometimes in the right places, you'll find that you just are. then you'll move on

Think of all the great things in your life, this guy, your life, change your perspective! Don't see the bad things, but focus on the positive. Will committing suicide really solve anything? It will take away your pain, sure, but it will cause others tremendous amounts. Hang out with friends and see your therapist alot, I hope everything is all right!

life can mean anything to you. but to me, life is about having fun, enjoying yourself before you die and just to have a great life. life can mean anything, especially being liked, and having fun.

You really need God in your life!!
He's EXACTLY what you're looking for.
Talk to a Christian or just look into it, please!!!

Hon, you're 14.

Your hormones are going crazy, and it feels like somebody took the instruction manual for who you are and tore it up.

You have to write a new instruction manual. That's what puberty is all about. You learn about this new person you are becoming and learn how to handle this new body that's growing.

It's one of the toughest periods of your life. I don't know anybody that would ever volunteer to go through puberty twice.

Cut yourself some slack if things seem out of control.

You WILL figure all of this out, but you don't have to do it by the weekend - you have years to let it all make sense, so take it as it comes.

Your mother's been through this - she can be a guide for you - talk with her.

As for the guy, I know he's sooo importantto you right now, but he is really just a phase. You'll move on in a while to someone else.

The first time you're in love is always so extreme because these are new feelings and you don't have any way to handle them yet. You'll get better with practice.

You WILL be happy again, trust me. But it's going to take some time.

Take it one day at a time. That's the best advice that I can offer. And have faith that this will all work out.

Because it will.

Good luck.

Girl!
B-R-E-A-T-H-E

Practice deep breathing (inhaling from nose) in a quiet and relaxed place

Life is so much more than fretting over some guy who you THINK for now is your "life" (who knows in a few months you'll dump him or dislike him for any reason?)

Making a fuss over a person or thing just means that you are being very "materialistic" .........do yoga or GOOD DEEDS like volunteering in orphanage or elderly hospitals...KNOW that life is not about obsessing over things "you" like....life's worth so much more!!!!

As a teenager, and a female, especially, such moods are fairly common. Life has no inherent meaning, and it's up to each of us to find our own purpose. For some, this doesn't happen for quite a while. In the meantime, find things that you enjoy, or that interest you, and make a reasonable contribution to the society which supports you. See suicidal thoughts/ideation, in section 5, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and contact them, when the need arises. Also see section 13. There is a quiz about depression, through sections 1, and 2, at ezy build, below: print the result, and take along to your primary mental health care provider. My standard post follows, but, if you are young, antidepressants are unsuitable for young people, because they have been shown to increase the rate of suicide, homicide, and aberrant behaviour. See depression treatments, at ezy build, below, in section 2, and consult a doctor, to eliminate thyroid problems, etc. as possible contributing factors: also seek a referral to a therapist using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy.

It is your decision, and yours alone, as to whether to take any antidepressants offered, but, before you do, read section 1, and check medications out at www.drugs.com so you will be on the lookout for side effects, like sexual dysfunction. My strong recommendation, however, is to follow the advice of my doctor, and Nathanial S. Lehrmann, MD, Marcelle Pick, OB/GYN NP, and Dr. Mercola, at www.mercola.com and many others: avoid antidepressants (pages 2V, and 2Z refer, & antidepressant websites: pages 2 - 2ii).

The reasons why we all share the same view on this are explained in full, as you will find, if you read it, and section 1. All of their advice, (except prayer, because many people are not religious) I have incorporated into the "core treatments" of the multidimensional approach to treating depression, including occupational therapy, Omega 3 fish oil supplements, or , preferably, "krill oil", (use the searchbar at http://www.mercola.com/ ) relaxation techniques, and exercise, with others as options, such as the supplements: SAMe, Inositol, or herbal remedies, like St. John's wort. If you are diagnosed with clinical (major) depression, antidepressants may be necessary for a while, which will give the treatments time to become effective.

The antidepressants themselves need at least several days, or even weeks to begin becoming effective. It's a good idea to taper off them slowly, with medical advice, after several months, say, to a couple of years, at most, because they are only effective in the long term for about 30% of people (they will always be there, if you find you can't function without them). Because of this, you would be well advised to begin the treatments immediately, and maintain them. I'd just thank your mental health care provider, and pocket the prescription, trying the treatments for a few months, to see if they are sufficient for you, before considering filling it (unless clinically depressed, and totally unable to cope with daily life, or suicidal, in which case I'd try them, after reading the printed insert, and informing myself of the risks, and side effects).

If the amount of daylight you have been exposed to recently has reduced, perhaps due to the change of seasons, see Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D.) in section 2, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and, instead of taking around 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily; replace 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements for the winter months only! (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a little butter, to ensure its use; I take mine on sourdough rye bread, or toast, covered with fishpaste, and pepper, to mask the strong taste). Optimal levels are 50 - 55 ng/ml (115 - 125 nmol / L). It should be above 32 ng/ml.

Don't use medications and supplements together, without medical advice, except for Omega 3, which is safe, anytime. Omega 3 fish oil supplements: EPA (eicosapentaenoic acid (omega 3) ----360 mg.DHA (docosahexaenoic acid (omega 3)-----240 mg
Take enough supplements to attain, or exceed the levels (no possibility of overdose) of those every day, with an orange, or the juice of a freshly squeezed orange, grapefruit, or other antioxidant.
(make sure the epa is higher then the dha) important for adults... kids need the opposite levels: more dha than epa, but all are beneficial, if you can't achieve the recommended proportions.

They should be certified as being free of mercury, and if containing vitamin E, it should be shown as from a natural source; otherwise it is synthetic: avoid it! Consider having your doctor test your vitamin D levels, (60% of depressed people have low vitamin D levels!) using the 25 Hydroxyvitamin D test. Those people who receive adequate exposure to sunlight, daily, won't need the vitamin D from cod liver oil, but many people, particularly those in latitudes far from the equator, find this difficult to achieve.

If the above is insufficient for you, after several months, (unlikely) try one of the alternatives, such as the magnetic, or low current electrical stimulation, or EMDR therapy, (see sections 33 - 34) keeping ECT back, as a last resort. ------------------ Visit your school counselor. Males have higher sex drives than females, generally, and although he is being understanding, and patient right now, there is a fair chance he won't be, in the much longer term. You don't have to have intercourse, but there are other ways of bonding, and dealing with his sexual frustration, (which is there, believe me, if he is at all normal) and get him to understand what you like/dislike, too, so ask girlfriends, or http://www.askemilyanything.com or email me, through my profile, for safe suggestions.

you're not bipolar.
you only get depressed....so you arent.
you're freakin 13, dont think about hooking up.
you're way too young to be thinking about sex.

if you're going to tell that boyfriend you wanna be friends
cause you're gonna have a lot of hook ups, then sorry. you're not in love.

go get help.

i kno how u feel,
especaily right now!





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