Emotional abuse--mother to child?!
Question: I've looked online to find information on emotional abuse, but can only really find things regarding husband to wife or visa-versa. I was wondering--what are the symptoms of this kind of abuse on a child (and not necessarily just a young child) from their mother? What kind of problems can this cause later in life?
Answers: I've looked online to find information on emotional abuse, but can only really find things regarding husband to wife or visa-versa. I was wondering--what are the symptoms of this kind of abuse on a child (and not necessarily just a young child) from their mother? What kind of problems can this cause later in life?
Emotional abuse from mother to child might cause a number of problems. There seems to be a connection between mood disorders (especially depression) and parental abuse. Also, almost all the people with borderline personality disorder have been abused in some way by their parent(s). Of course, many abuse victims never seem to be overly affected by it.
Probably one of the biggest problems that can happen, and in fact is likely to happen, is that the abused child becomes the abuser parent. No matter how much we hate what our parents did, for some reason most of us will repeat those same behaviors as we become adults.
It may cause future depression and suicide at the teen ages. Dont you dare try it.
its called Toxic Parents
well everyone will be diffrent . how they handle it .. some will get mad and act out eventualy . some will shrink down and do whatever someone tell them to do.. there is no 100% thing that will happen
They have low confidence and dont ever seem like going home.In later in life, they can be insecure and it will scar em for life
well i would say the in the general population all kids seem to love their motheres more than their dad because mtohers are more nurturing, but if they have this absence of niceness they might get very angry and mad in the future
low self esteem, which can lead to suicide. They can inturn treat people as they have been. They can have resentment, anger, lack of trust, .
try including the term psychology or even "Freudian psychology" in your search terms, most people don't agree with Freud anymore or at least not so much as they did but he wrote and researched a lot on the matter
Here are some links:
http://www.parental-alienation-awareness...
http://www.safechild.org/childabuse3.htm
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parental_al...
Hope this helps!
My mom was really abusive to me. I had an eating disorder and mental disorder and a bad relationship with my dad for a long time because of her... I had to learn to let it go and move on because I am thousand times better than her! but for those that aren't so strong, it can cause a daughter to feel wanted and look for love in the wrong places.... Or do drugs... thats just my guess...
it destroys them emotionally, can cause depression, social phobias, and even suicide, anyone can cause somebody emotional abuse, it makes the person feel that even if their own mother doesnt love them, WHO ELSE IS GOING TO?
As pyschology tells us, children & adolescents often have self-fulfilled prophecies. Meaning they fill the shoes they are given. When people are told they are stupid, or a failure, it has a subconscious effect on them and their mind begins to believe (whether they admit it or not) and will acheive to whatever degree they are belittled to. Also negative comments about weight or physically features can cause low self-esteem which can trigger a lot of different effects.
This is such a mine field of emotional swill. Fear of rejection is a major symptom and not being able to form any lasting and deep relationships. You need to pass an exam to drive a car but you can give birth to a human being and totally destroy him or her without any questions at all. Great isn't it? I hope your OK and it is research your doing. Take care. XX
Ther are many types of emotional abuse. If you can't nuture and love your child, he or she feels it and doesn't thrive very well. It's like planting a seed, watching it sprout and then seeing the plant produce. If you do not give it sunlight, feed it and water it, it dies. While children may not literally die, they die inside and feel empty, rejected and don't learn how to love. Usually they will make poor choices in life and in relationships. So the cycle begins again. If you can't pick up your baby and show it love and the baby will really feel it.....it's emotional abuse. Putting your child down, making fun of your child, degrading your child, name calling and not caring what happens to your child are all forms of emotional abuse. Fighting in the home and a child seeing violence from whomever, is also abuse. I hate to say this, but my daughter has actually hated her son since he was 2 years old. I can't understand why and am only left guessing. My grandson is now 17 yrs. old and is in trouble with the law,started acting out in a violent way, has no self esteem, is failing in school, drinking and having sex, running away, unable to hold a job and just feels worthless. No matter how hard he tries, he can't please my daughter.....his mother. I have called Child Protective Services but was only successful in getting the lock taken off his bedroom door. I live far away from him but it breaks my heart and I love him so much. I tried to help, but his parents won't spend a dime on him. As a child , I also grew up feeling unloved and it always leads you to destructive behavior . Growing up without hearing the words " I love you" and being called names and ignored or punished for the slightest thing is emotional abuse that you can never forget. The best you can do is seek help like I did in therapy. My daughter and son-in-law will not pay for him to get help. He's a lost soul and I worry about him. These kids even harm themselves or others and even animals as they don't know how to love. They even consider suicide and down the road, they will choose the wrong partners and become abusive themselves to them. They do not have a good attitude about women. They will wind up in jail. That's their fate and it's awful. These are a few effects of emotional abuse. Hope this helps you out. It tears me apart.
I think sometimes its hard to just look at. You might would think low self esteem but some children have personalities that are like that without really abuse. I think maybe harming themselves might be a good indicater. Emotional abuse is to me when i think of it, is to name call and so on from a parent. ex are you stupid? you are stupid! And im sure most parents do and have said the before or something similar. I would not consider that abuse. Saying 2 or more times a day could definitly in my book! Or whats wrong with you? I say this a lot to my children, but I try not to because im afraid it makes them feel as if somethig is wrong and after repeated exposure, id say that could be too, even if unintentional. Why dont you listen, cant you hear, why dont you listen, whats the problem that you cant listen, you never listen, why? That too could be but again as a parent, i never mean to cause harm but it could if i did it often. you never do anything right, why cant you just listen, dont do it if you cant do it right, whats wrong with you that you did it like this, you know thats not how we do it, you cant do anything right! Again over anf over could and probably would cause problems.
When a child looks up to his or her mother, they trust her. What mom thinks is right cause she knows everything. We believe our moms even if we know they are wrong. They are our moms! Anything our moms tell us about us must be true. Mom says im a fu** up so i must be. This will affect them as adults. Duh. Whatever mom does to critisize us we will always believe. My mom told me to pray for forgiveness all the time, now i apologize for everything. And i truely am sorry, even if i know in my heart that its not my fault, i really am, cause ultimatly i must have screwed up something. See thats the thing, verbal abuse is not just that. A a parent you have got to make your child know the things you expect out of them. It may not be the best way to do the things listed or maybe not even wrong to a point but how loud how offten and how many physical actions go along with it is what matters. No one hold there child on their lap and touches their soft little face and says" yo never do anything right, ect ect. Its in the moment of passion, when we see our children make mistakes that we unintentionally make fun, as we are doing that, we look away or yell or whoop or point or jerk and 'fix' the problem ourselves in a no it all, you cant do it fasion. Even as adults parents 'need' to correct their children. How they do it is key. But like i said even the nicest way of 'teaching and correcting' can cause damage in adults. Not enough positive attention is also key. I have much trouble and worry myself. All this is why I think its harder to find it.
Self cutting, could be the dirrect result of verbal and physical abuse but also many many other things. I would look for those with the worst self worth. And dig from there. The picture your mother paints is the picture you will have for life. We all hear all the negative and add our own but hear only a fraction of the positive.
I have went Thur this when i was younger and it really messed with you and makes you hate and often kids get into cutting them selves or drugs and alcohol.Sometimes the parent gets so mad she can't stop and the child ends up dead or a vegetable.atTHERE IS NOTHING GOOD ABOUT IT' AND IF SHE WANTED THE CHILD TO HAVE ANY KIND OF NORMAL LIFE' SHE NEEDS TO GET HELP FOR IT ASAP.SHE CAN GO TO A THERAPIST AND WORK THUR IT WITH THEM.
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