How do I get past the fact that my 16 year old tried to commit suicide 3 days ag!
Question: She is safe in the hospital for now but my heart hurts like never before and the giult in my head is torturing myself anyone else have similar situations what can i do I already see a counselor biweeekly.Please help.
Answers: She is safe in the hospital for now but my heart hurts like never before and the giult in my head is torturing myself anyone else have similar situations what can i do I already see a counselor biweeekly.Please help.
it happens....
i'm bipolar, a year older than your daughter...
i wouldn't doubt my parents felt like you when
i was probably going through a little psychosis break
when on an antidepressant for two months..before properly
treated last year...
don't torture yourself, you need to help your daughter out.
it's not your fault, so please don't blame yourself..
many kids wanna commit suicide and never get help
from their parents because they do not know how to tell them... trust me, it's just a cry out for your help.
don't look at your daughter differently now,
she has a mental disorder[probably severe depression,yes?] and she just needs love and support..
go out and buy some yoga equipment...
well maybe just a dvd...
yoga helps relieve stress and anxiety for sure.
your daughter will be better soon, trust me.
it took me about two months to finally get in the process
of being stable again after i got on the right meds
and for a year now i have been stable.
it just takes strength, don't hold it inside and tell your
family. possibly phone her friends and tell her.
this shouldn't be kept a secret, it just makes things worse
for when she's outta the hospital and not being able to
tell the people she talks to about what had happened...
just be strong, don't blame yourself.
disorders are attached to DNA...there was nothing
you could do to prevent your daughters suffering....
hope everything gets better for you.
just remember, do NOT blame yourself.
you're not a bad parent....it's just people go through things
that shouldn't happen...it's no ones fault.
being a teen, it's a lot harder when you get back up on that
horse and ride away...because the fact that i'm almost 18
scares me to death, i've experienced things tha 75%
of all teenagers do not go through...but ya know what?
despite my little ADHD impulse issues...i'm very mature for my age. and your daughters maturity levels will increase rapidly when she's going through recovery, without a doubt.
she will be a very strong girl soon, and it takes a lot of guts
to admit to people at first.."hey, i get mad because i'm bipolar" but now...i tell everybody i talk to just to let them know
that don't hate me at times for how i act.
you guys will get through this, research some meditation
and breathing exercises. it'll help ya a lot. then when she gets out of the hospital you can teach them to her too...trust me, you'll become a lot closer to her when all this is done. i went through a bad time last school year and refused to go back to the public school i had to go to since i failed hardddcore at the private school 9th grade year...and my parents didn't know what to ddo or say, they didn't really understand me...my dad did, but my mom has never really liked to talk about it with me....and so my dad made me go to my aunts for a few days and hang out with her, my uncle and my cousins...ever since then...jesus, i've created a new relationship with them. i'm much more open about my feelings because of them, my dad, and my friends.
so it does help to communicate....wish my mom really tried to, so don't be like her and forget it ever happened...[i guess she just didn't know what to do or say, right?]
since it's getting warmer out...wherever ya may be at...take walks with her while she's goin through recovery. just tell her when she gets out that you're not gonna pressure her, but you will be there for her and you don't want her to be all alone in this.
good luck, just be strong, you guys will be okay soon.
if ya have any questions, don't hesitate to email me.
comebackkiddxxx@yahoo.com
oh i just saw you said she's bipolar,
well then definitely get ahold of me. i can give you
a bunch of websites to help you out with this.
i'm a big researcher guy, always trying to find
ways to help myself and my girlfriend....
when she's out of the hospital, take her to a psych.
talk about Lamictal. i take that and i've read that it is
prescribed to many teens because it doesn't have
tons of side effects. i've heard of other mood stabilizer/antipsychotics that can make things worse...
but i haven't heard anything bad about lamictal.
Hi :] First I'd like to tell you- I pretty much know what your going through- but yet I don't.
I had a friend who tried to commit suicide. I had this feeling like- "I can't believe you would do that." I learned to forgive and forget- and even though I know it's hard my trust hasn't fully returned in my friend. We talk often and I just try to be there for them because that's all we can do. Just talk to her and tell her how much you love her- and try to get over this bump in the road.
Best of luck to you. :]
You have to know that it is not your fault. It's also not your daughters fault either. Bipolar disorder can literally control a persons life.
You also have to remind yourself that your daughter is safe. She's getting the help she needs. She is okay. When you can visit her - do it only if you're ready, and only if she wants it.
Keep talking to your counselor. You need to continue to support yourself. Don't stress yourself out with other things, but don't do nothing. Keep yourself distracted with things you enjoy. If you work, ask for time off, if need be explain the situation - I'm sure they would be more than understanding.
I hope both you and your daughter are okay. Email me if you like.
You do not get over it mom, you deal with it. Suicide is a cry for help. Nobodys fault, it just happens. Suicide rate is at an all time high. Your daughter will need counseling so that she will learn a better way to deal with life. It is hard, yep, but she has to find a reason to live. Get her into a church that she likes, that she is a part of, and she wants to go. One that has activities that will actually make herwant to be a part of the church. Get her into some extracurucular activities that will booset her self confidence. Life is hard, and teenagers have hell to pay - every day. Good luck mom, good luck. Please explain to her that we all have suicidal tendancies; but we fight them, for whatever reason we have found. She just has to find one. Her tendancies to commit suicide are very high, bipolar. She has to take her meds, as she grows they may need to readjust the dose.
This isn't something you can "get past." Get involved in your daughter's treatment in the hospital as much as possible. When she gets out, make sure you have family therapy set up to help everyone process and heal.
It will take time but you will get through this.
Stop blaming yourself.
Your daughter needs all the support she can get from her family right now .
If you see a counselor already that's great, but when you start feeling like this maybe you could call her/him, and you may even want to increase your visits since this is such a crucial time for you and your family.
Good luck and I wish your daughter all the best on her road to recovery, albeit a bumpy one.
treat it as a wake-up call that something needs to change in your relationship with her. It's definitely better that she tried and failed rather than succeeded - this gives you a chance to improve the communication in your family. Communication is extremely important and if after this incident you don't make the effort, then you'll truly have something to regret for the rest of your life.
She's reaching out to you.
You shouldn't get past it, other than the guilt of course. Just look her in the face and tell her you love her and how special she is to you.
I am so sorry that you are going through this right now.....
I went through a similar situation with my son when he was 15. It was/is a horrible thing to go through. Yes, you will feel guilty, and you probably always will..even though it isn't your fault. She CHOSE this cry for help. The guilt will subside, but will always be there, I'm sorry to say. In the 2 years since my son tried, I was in therapy for 6 months 2x/week, and 6 months 1x/week. It helped immensely, however it was also just as important for myself and my son to get JOINT counseling, we learned alot about each other! Now we have an awesome relationship, we can have serious talks, be sarcastic with each other, and even have fun together!
Things will work out for you......just hang in there!!
If you need to talk, I am always around....feel free to e-mail me directly at yahoo----mommap_66@yahoo.com or hotmail at coolmom_always@hotmail.com
Good Luck
Momma P
Well if she is bipolar it is not something that she can control easily. She needs to work on controlling her tiggers for the mainia/depression. I am bipolar and when I was a teenager. I deperately wanted to die. When the suicidal thoughts come I can think of nothing but wanting to be dead. So I won't have to feel like that. I still get in the suicidal zone but I have developed ways to stop it when I feel it coming on.
Just guessing but something very traumatic, to her, tiggered her.It may be something that doesn't seem like a big deal or that bad to you.But when you have biopolar small things can get extreme very easily. And give feelings of hopelessness, guilt, and a feeling like you are the worst person on the earth. Maybe she felt guilty about something she did wrong and would rather die than have to face you or someelse she cares about finding out, because she knows right from wrong. She probably wants to do right and be good. So if she does something wrong(even if it seems minor to you). it could be very tramatic to her and cause the tigger that puts her in the suicidal zone. Because she expects herself to be perfect and when she is not or she can't be, it gets blown out of proportion. Then she wants to die to stop it.
You are going to have to be extremely understanding about drugs, sex and other things like this. don't overreact whenyou find something out that you don't approve of. that will only be a tigger. She knows what you do not approve of, what she needs to know is that you love her unconditionally. That will help with the suicidal thoughts and feelings of hopelessness. Let her know that noone is perfect. You just want her to make better decisions. And if she messes up it is not the end of the world.
In a mania she knows she is doing wrong but can't stop herself from doing it. But Hopefully as she gets older she will be able to have more control.
Hope this will help you understand the train of thought of a bipolar person. Just love her with all you have! Good luck!