Do you tell someone of your past addiction problems?!
Question: imagine if:
if you started to see someone and were going strong(getting close to them) would you tell them about your past addiction to Heroin.
you are currently clean, and feeling good. You plan never to use again. How ever this is a battle you will be fighting for the rest of your life (once an addicat always an addict).
You have the best intentions but you carnt see into the future so it is impossible to give them a garenty that you will never use.
would you tell them? (there is alot of stigma involved with this drug) - will they think your a bad person?- as you have done bad things in the past.
would you keep it a secrete? and risk them finding out in some way..
Answers: imagine if:
if you started to see someone and were going strong(getting close to them) would you tell them about your past addiction to Heroin.
you are currently clean, and feeling good. You plan never to use again. How ever this is a battle you will be fighting for the rest of your life (once an addicat always an addict).
You have the best intentions but you carnt see into the future so it is impossible to give them a garenty that you will never use.
would you tell them? (there is alot of stigma involved with this drug) - will they think your a bad person?- as you have done bad things in the past.
would you keep it a secrete? and risk them finding out in some way..
I would tell them, why take the chance. Honesty and being yourself should always take priority in your life. If they don't like you for who you are now, they aren't worth your time. Fighting a heroin addiction takes a lot of personal will power. This says a lot about you, (good) to the right person.
Billy C -
Generally, it is always better to share things than to hide things. So don't lie about. If you choose not to bring it up, consider a few things:
Many people struggle all the time about whether or not they should keep things from their partner or person they are dating.
Obviously, timing is everything. If you are starting to get serious, then you might want to let them know. It's a matter of getting to know who you are and what you have been through in life.
If they care for you, they will understand.
That said of course, only say something when you feel comfortable or that you are ready to share that with someone.
Rory
I strongly believe that everyone, everyone is addicted to something in one way or another. Be honest, and if you are rejected, then your potential partner is a hypocrite. Some are addicted to being holier-than-thou.
If they ask you can tell but if you want to be open then it is okay. Now how they take it is probably going to be different than me...I would think nothing of it because it was in the past and it shouldn't matter, unless that problem started coming up again.
Stefani
If I were you, I wouldn't go into too many details. Maybe just something like, "I did heroin in my past and am so glad that I no longer use it".
I think if you have been seeing them for quite some time and you intend to stay with them, then yes, definitely.
Why? Because in the future, if you have problems relating to that addiction, they will be able to better give you support/advice as they will understand what is going on. I told my current girlfriend of 7 months that I had tried to commit suicide two years ago in a very dramatic way that involved the police and that I have a history of depression. I told her this after I really felt that we were going to stay together. And as a result, she knows better how to approach me when I am having problems related to my depression.
This is a serious issue and although you're clean now (by the way I think that's great) you definetly shouldn't keep a secret like that in the dark. Honesty really is the best policy. What if the shoe were on the other foot? Suppose they had a secret that they were addicted to cocaine? You would want to know. Also by getting everything out in the open it'll make you feel so much better to finally have that off your chest. This also gives your partner a chance to say ok we can work through this giving them a heads up that this is a day by day process, or they might feel like this isn't something that they can deal with. At least that way you aren't taking their choice away.
for me its better if u tell them the whole truth... in that way they will get hints of how bad it is and how drugs make thierlife misserable...thenin that way u can advice them... i dont believe that u say that "once addict is always an addict" i wont believe though..... addict person has feelings.. even they are burden in the public thy have still feeling that can be hurt they have still pride.. if we help them to stop using that drugs they will listen but its not in a fast way it takes lots of step.. i have a friend who is addict she use shabu but the respect that i give her before is never change i still care for her.....addict person has thier reason y they do that.. maybe there looking for some answer... and they looking for some care and attentions and they though they can get all of that in drugs thats y they use it.... my friend has rehab her self... and after a months i think 6 months she study hotel and restaurant management and now... she is now in italy she worl there and she tell that being addict is the best thing happen to her life bcz she achive the care and attetion that she want... and she tell me if u wnt to meet the devil use drugs....
so its means as long as u have still breath u have the time to change.. theres still hope
First if you see that you trust the person you are to open it up to.And if you can feel that he will not put you down , but instead tries to cheer you up. And if you are also trying to really forget your past, theres no wrong to tell to a dear friend.Then tell him also that past is past, and i want really to change for my future.So its good to be the one to open it to him, rather than knowing your past w/. someone, and in that way he will respect you for that. Goodluck!!!