Am i rights or wrong>..........?!
Question: Am i rights or wrong>..........?
before my exams in january, my parents prevously booked a 3 wk hols abroad fully aware that i might hav exams. now that they are over and i have done my exams, i got fairly alrite grades although i now need to retake all 3 exams to do better. not only that, i am also redoing a year at this moment so that it why i am soo angry and stressed with them still, i just want them to realise and say that they were wrong because i just get soo frustrated and feel like throwing things when they say it like this doesnt bother them. ******* annoying , xxxxxxxx
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i had to go cuz no one was home and i cant stay att home by myself bein 17 can i?? i acnt believe u think i am wrong..please explain because i am blind! im not being rude but feel like everyone is against me". why the f.u.c.k. am i wrong in expressing the way i feel when all i want is gd grades?? coming from a family of 3 siblings all doctors can u blame me from getting frustrated to do well?? i
Answers: Am i rights or wrong>..........?
before my exams in january, my parents prevously booked a 3 wk hols abroad fully aware that i might hav exams. now that they are over and i have done my exams, i got fairly alrite grades although i now need to retake all 3 exams to do better. not only that, i am also redoing a year at this moment so that it why i am soo angry and stressed with them still, i just want them to realise and say that they were wrong because i just get soo frustrated and feel like throwing things when they say it like this doesnt bother them. ******* annoying , xxxxxxxx
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i had to go cuz no one was home and i cant stay att home by myself bein 17 can i?? i acnt believe u think i am wrong..please explain because i am blind! im not being rude but feel like everyone is against me". why the f.u.c.k. am i wrong in expressing the way i feel when all i want is gd grades?? coming from a family of 3 siblings all doctors can u blame me from getting frustrated to do well?? i
How did people NOT get that the blind thing was a friggin metaphor??!! You meant blind as in I cant SEE why my parents did this and how I can be wrong... right?
Anyways... At 17 you can stay home alone, as long as both you and your parents feel comfortable with that. Some people don't like to be alone with a whole house to themselves, and some parents don't believe their 17 year old is responsible enough to do so...
It doesn't sound like your parents did this on purpose to hurt you or to make you do bad on exams. I know studying and taking exams can be really stressful and frustrating, and when you put so much effort into something and it doesn't work out like you wanted it to, you get disappointed.
Did you talk to your parents about it before going? Did you tell them maybe you should stay and study? If you didn't then you probably should have, and it's not too late know to let them know how you feel about it.
I don't think anyone is really right or wrong here, but that's just me!
If your sibling are doctors, then they, as well as your parents, should also understand that you need to study, so I'm sure they would be understanding if you tried to approach them with this, at least so you can prevent them from doing the same next time!
Good Luck!! :)
It sounds like your family isn't thinking very seriously about your education...and you are!
Seventeen-year-olds can stay at home alone, if they are responsible enough.
When you say you are blind, are you being literal or are you making a metaphor?
If you are literally blind, then you and your parents would need to prepare for you to be home alone by coding and labeling cans, clothing, bottles of detergent etc...
You would also need to work out a system of reliable transportation.
I do think you can stay home alone, but I don't think you should do it without ample preparation.
WELL YOU ARE 17, SOUNDS LIKE YOU WANT TO HAVE SOME ONE TO BLAME EVERY TIME YOU GET STRESSED ABOUT BEING AN A STUDENT.LISTEN SO YOU HAVE A MAJOR DISABILITY,YOU WANT TO BE OUT ON YOUR OWN SOMEDAY , ALONE , RIGHT??WELL TAKE ADVANTAGE OF IT.SOUNDS LIKE YOU ARE VERY SMART AND INDEPENDENT,SOUNDS LIKE THEY TRUST YOU AND MAYBE THIS IS A LITTLE TEST TO PROVE TO YOURSELF THAT YOU CAN KEEP YOUR GRADES UP AND BE ALONE.YOU DON'T HAVE TO SUCCEED AS HIGH AS YOUR SIBLINGS,BUT AS FAR AS I CAN SEE YOU HAVE EXCEEDED THEM.STOP BEING SO HARD ON THEM AND YOUR SELF. BE HAPPY AND LIVE A LITTLE FOR YOURSELF,DON'T LET THIS HANDY CAP RULE YOUR LIFE OR GIVE YOU A BAD ATTITUDE.GOOD LUCK.
What about sitting down with them and having a heart to heart discussion about how to deal with this? If they go on holiday, how do you do what you need to do? On the next trip, if you feel you wouldn't be able to concentrate on studying, tell them yo want to stay home to get done what you want to get done. But, discuss these issues early, before they become a crisis.
It's been a difficult experience for you, and the feeling that your needs were not taken into account when the holiday was planned must have felt pretty bad. I suspect you also find it pretty difficult having these high-achieving siblings, and feel as if you're expected to perform well academically with little support.
They are not going to change now - after all, if after 17 years they aren't sensitive to this aspect of you, it's not going to happen overnight. So it's down to you to find ways of managing the situation. You are 17, and you COULD be in work and living independently. I'm not suggesting this is what you should do, only pointing out that you might change how you feel about yourself and you capabilities. Start to think about your life as your own, not dependent on your parents, and make decisions about what you want and how you want to be.
Being angry with your parents is understandable (to me) but they are not likely to understand your feelings. So, to resolve that anger, try writing them a letter which is NOT, repeat NOT, to be given to them - it's purely for you to get your feelings out and down on paper. Then, have a ceremony where you burn it. Then get out for a good long walk and stomp it all out. When you come back, come back older and wiser and more individual. This will hopefully help you to release your frustration and just get on with what has to happen next.
If there is a counsellor at your school, go and see her/him. Talking this through is another good way of getting the feelings out of your system, and a skilled counsellor will help you get in touch with inner self so you can move forward. Good luck.