How can you help someone who has very low confidence?!
Question: I have a friend who really hates how she looks,and hardly ever leaves her house unless she's going somewhere with me.
She doesnt really know I know a lot of this,but everyone would agree that she thinks very low of herself. She tells me she looks hideous in pictures,and that she is very ugly.
But she says it in almost a jokingly way. She's also told me that people have called her ugly a lot,and compared her to her sister when she was younger.
Is there anyway I can help her?
If it matters,her dad moved away when she was around,7...and her parents fought a lot when they were together.
She also suffered depression at 11.
Does this have anything to dowith how she sees herself?
Answers: I have a friend who really hates how she looks,and hardly ever leaves her house unless she's going somewhere with me.
She doesnt really know I know a lot of this,but everyone would agree that she thinks very low of herself. She tells me she looks hideous in pictures,and that she is very ugly.
But she says it in almost a jokingly way. She's also told me that people have called her ugly a lot,and compared her to her sister when she was younger.
Is there anyway I can help her?
If it matters,her dad moved away when she was around,7...and her parents fought a lot when they were together.
She also suffered depression at 11.
Does this have anything to dowith how she sees herself?
Just be a friend to her,and suggest that she see a counselor. Gently explain to her that her view of herself is not healthy, but it can be changed for the better with some professional help. In the meantime, don't abandon her. Keep telling her that she is beautiful now, and she will be even more beautiful in the future(both inside & out). If you keep telling her;soon she'll believe it,and she will stop self-deprecating herself. It won't happen overnight, because she has all these negative tapes rolling inside of her head telling her she's ugly, But eventually, she'll come around, and the so - called ugly duckling will be a beautiful swan - count on it! GOOD LUCK TO THE BOTH OF YOU!!!
I would tell her how nice she looks even at her worst and that what other people think of her doesnt matter... What she thinks about herslf is what matters.. And i know thats probably very little but she needs to understand that she is beautiful inside and out...
I had very low self asteem because of the same issues as a child... I never felt worthy of anyone and never felt pretty.. I felt horrible about my weight my hair and everything else about me... I finally took a good look around me and realized that i have it good even when its not... Because im alive and have great friends like you.. Your a good friend and i think all she needs is to be reminded of how much you care
Your friend is lucky to have a friend like you who's so concerned about her well-being.
By constant mention about your friend's positive attributes, she may be encouraged to think more positively about herself.
Do some charity work together-this is useful in that, we tend to "forget" ourselves when we immerse ourselves in helping others who are less fortunate.
Hopefully, all of this will bolster her self-esteem :)
give her genuine appreciation, support, and positive input.
Allthese terms, are made as if your friend is a spy whom has everyone bugged, with both cameras and microphones. These imagges are likened unto knowing what the person in the mirror thinks. Newa flash for you, the future has not happened yet, so the person in the mirror does not exist yet, so even with all the fancy espionage gear, the future has yet to be bugged. Your friend is a person whom, generates fear in herself in order to study it. this knowledge is not usually welcomed by the person doing it. (Been there did that)! However if she discovers this to be truth she will stop doing it, and she will discover , she is nopt afraid, and the only emotion left is simple continual mild paranoia. (PARANOIA IS USUALLY MILD)!
This level is the beginning, of a lot of fun with your frienfd. however, self confidence comes with self-training.
Ask me about ("4-2-1")!