My son is mentally ill and violent how do i cope i have no support?!
Question: I had my son who is 19 arrested today because he attacked me again. He is getting very violent and has extreme rages and regulary threatens the neighbours. He is diagnosed with depression and anxiety and on medication.I look after with no support as i dont know who can help me in kirklees. Itold the police i dont want him home yet but when he does come home i dont know what i will do.
Answers: I had my son who is 19 arrested today because he attacked me again. He is getting very violent and has extreme rages and regulary threatens the neighbours. He is diagnosed with depression and anxiety and on medication.I look after with no support as i dont know who can help me in kirklees. Itold the police i dont want him home yet but when he does come home i dont know what i will do.
Hi
Sorry that your Son's behaviour is causing you so much distress and that you feel that you are alone coping with it.
My suggestion would be to contact your local mental health charity:
http://www.mind.org.uk/Mind+in+your+area...
they are easy to access, you don't need to be referred by anyone else and it only takes a phone call.
They are there to provide help, support and guidance to anyone who suffers from, or cares for someone suffering from, any kind of mental ill health.
Please give them a call tomorrow.
These links to the Mind website may also prove useful to you in understanding your Son's illness and having an insight into it.
Understanding depression:
http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Bookl...
Understanding anxiety:
http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Bookl...
This link will be useful to you as a carer and will offer some practical tips on things you can do
How to cope as a carer:
http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Bookl...
the information is easy to understand.
Hope some of this helps.
Take care and good luck to both of you.
Contact your local Social Services or see your son`s GP who could probably refer him for professional help.
did you ask the police about help in your situation ?
He is over 18 and no longer your responsibility. I know this sounds harsh, but you do NOT have to sacrifice your health and happiness for him. Tell the police to tell him he can not come home and get a restraining order on him. If he is danger to himself or others due to a menal disorder he can be committed to a psychiatric facility. Do not be a facilitator and rescue him. He needs to help himself at this point.
If he is 19 yrs old , he i an adult and you dont have to have him at your house , speak to your doctor about his medication and any support help you can obtain
If he is a threat ti himself and others (you). You could ask the authorities to have him sectioned under the mental health act. This may sound harsh but it could be a blessing in disguise because he would then have time in a residential centre with assessments and guidence regarding his meds.
Don't put yourself at risk.
Your son is over 18, so legally he is an adult. It sounds like your son may be drinking or taking some other substance when he becomes violent and goes into extreme rages. Depression & Anxiety alone do not cause this symptom.
Contact your local Social Service Agency or get in touch with his primary doctor.
The best thing you could do for your son is get him the treatment he needs and some assistance in finding housing and a job. If his mental illness is too profound, then he may be eligible for a group home apt setting.
Demand help before its to late for you and him.
Write to your M P and demand help from your social services if nothing happens create a fuss get the local paper to help you and see if your G P can get your son sectioned .
I know this seems harsh but he needs help and if it helps him then thats all to the good for both of you
well for one, he attacked you. (again)
two - He is violent
three- He threatens the neighbors
four- does this medicine work or agrivate his issues?
First off, You are his mom, and love him. But sometimes loving him means doing things that dont feel good, but in the long run are life saving, not just for him, but for everyone around him.
- You stated four very very BIG reasons why he needs more help than just you can provide. Thats not a slam on you, but look at the situation clearly. Safety first- for everyone. WHo does he get his meds from? Talk to them first. clearly there needs to be a med adjustment, somthings not working. There are plenty of alternitives if you look online. And no you dont have to be rich or even average to send him to a hospital or treatment center for mental health issues. He has to be the one to learn to do right. He keeps up with this behavior because he knows he can. When you decide wich place can help him most, they will be such a support to you, in helping him get there... otherwise the alternitve might be prison for seriously hurting someone. Dont feel like you have no control over this situation. You certainly do. There are hotlines you can find online too for support just to talk. CALL ONE. They will have ideas too. The only thing you can do wrong is allow this to continue one more day. start now. you love him.
talk to the police and explain it all to them they can help and so can social services and also your dr and the local hospital all of the above can help you hugss and good luck
You're going to have to act or your neighbours will.
The police could apply for a section under the mental health act, but the fact they haven't suggests you have dropped the charges in the past?
You sound depressed yourself and you do need to talk the whole thing through first with your GP and then Social Services.
The fact this is on going means you are dithering and that is doing neither you or your son any good.
Better to sort things out on a voluntary basis than have it forced upon you?
Does he have a community psychiatric nurse?. If you get in touch with them and ask to meet them I'm sure they will be very helpful and show you the way to get the support you need. I am in Kirklees too and suffer mental illness. They have been very helpful to my parents.
I am surprised if they haven't took him to the local hospital and sectioned him , he is obviously a danger to you and other people. Has he ever been in the psychiatric unit? You must show tough love to him if he ever does anything to you again and immediately call the psychiatric unit. The nurses will then direct you to sources of support and coping.
Symptoms of depression and anxiety do not usually present themselves as rage, in fact usually it is the opposite.
Depression - ones emotions are depressed - feeling of worthlessness, unable to deal with the basic fundamental emotions of living
However Paranoid schizophrenia present symptoms such as you describe.
I am not questioning your question I am questioning your son's diagnosis.
Seek a second opinion.
That is my advice.