Ok I really need Help! Please Help Me!!?!
Question: Ok, well my life at school and my life at home are two different things, My home life sucks, theres yelling, fighting, and my parents don't do much, they mostly sleep on the weekends, and my school life is me being happy, joyful and outgoing. It's like I have a mask on, how do show how I am feeling, if im sad at school I act happy, If I'm mad, I still act happy, How do I get over this feeling I have to show people how I am feeling? Please answer, I really need help. Thank-you.
Answers: Ok, well my life at school and my life at home are two different things, My home life sucks, theres yelling, fighting, and my parents don't do much, they mostly sleep on the weekends, and my school life is me being happy, joyful and outgoing. It's like I have a mask on, how do show how I am feeling, if im sad at school I act happy, If I'm mad, I still act happy, How do I get over this feeling I have to show people how I am feeling? Please answer, I really need help. Thank-you.
I'm the same way... my friends never know when anything is wrong and they seem to think I'm this really happy person with a great life... I guess you could choose to not look happy, so that people will see that you're sad/angry/etc. but do you really want to do that? If you don't mind showing people that side of you and you aren't afraid of what they may think then really the only way to show people how you feel is to express that emotion...
Personally I'm proud of my ability to go to school and always be positive, my boyfriend recently cheated on me and my friends realized then that there's a lot of problems in my life. They asked me why I was able to keep smiling and seem so happy and I was like, "what else can I do?"
Sure I'd cry at night, fight with my parents in the afternoon... but people saw me as being strong, and I liked that...
Maybe you should wait to show your vulnerabilities to someone who deserves to see them? I personally love it when a guy will let down his guard around me more than anyone else...
Just take it slowly. Say that you are going to give that a chance in one situation and take it from there.
Changing behaviors doesn't happen overnight.
It is important to remind yourself that it is okay to show your real emotions because you are human and the things you feel are normal.
Don't be hard on yourself. Just relax and let it come naturally.
I can relate to what you are going through. :)
This is A LOT like me, believe it or not.
My home lifes tough, me & my parents DO NOT get along.
But when I'm at school, I never want the day to end.
Mostly because I love being around friends,
and I don't want to go back to my home life. :/
Find a close friend or someone you trust to talk to about your feelings.
Trust me, thats what I did, and it REALLY helped me. :)
Hope I helped!
Bye. :)
well thats how i used to b but i just like never go home i try to spend as much time out of the house as i can and im so much happier my rents r divorcied trust me i know how it feels it helped me so much just to get out of the house and just chill with my frineds and do sports it mad me so muxh happier
um try seeing a school counsler u don't have to tell them every lil detail but just enough for them to help or if that don't help try talking to ur most trusted friend they don't have to help but i bet it will make u fell better to get it out.....
don't be afraid to cry. talk about it. find an outlet and express youself boldly. i'm in the same/different situation and i'm quite depressed. i was sexually assaulted by a good family friend and my home is not the best place. i find my outlet through art, music and relating songs to different things that are bothering me. sometimes i sit and stare at myslef in the mirror and bawl my eyes out. heck if it works for you attack a piece of paper! but somehow get it out of your system. it is not good to keep that inside. so let it out however works for you.
good luck
Please go talk to a guidance counselor or a teacher at school that you really like and respect. If your home life isn't good than you should really try and talk about your real feelings with others and not hide them, which is unhealthy.
It's good that you are trying to improve yourself by acknowledging that something needs to be done about your well being. If you are older, I really suggest moving away after you graduate and live at college. Do whatever it takes to get out of a situation which makes you depressed - and at the same time college would be making you a more successful person!
Dude you should really talk to your school counsuler, or a friend. tell them whats going on man.
To be honest with you, showing how you feel won't help; you can talk about it all til you turn green but it won't change anything. My home life was like that growing up and it is like that now because I had to move back home a few yrs. ago. No one can solve the problem but your parents; you are not responsible for how they act. Talking about it won't change them and won't make you feel better but only worse. Talking about it stirs up all your emotions. I suggest you stay happy and keep your mind on happy things. If you continue to dwell on how things are at home, it will make you negative and depressed. It will eat away at your joy and your strength. And also if you dwell on it too much, you will begin to act just like your parents. Don't speak of it, just go on with your life as usual. If it just gets to be too much, see a counselor.
And above all else, pray for your parents; they need God; He is the only way out; Jesus Christ is the only way to escape our sin. God Bless.
I am sorry I am not able to understand your problem.Apparently there is no financial or other problem which would interfer with your schooling.Why do you allow your home worries to intrude in your school.Just shut off that compartment when you are with your friends and you would be OK. Remember if you laugh the whole world will laugh with you but if you cry(granting that you have enough reason to cry) you cry alone. Apparently your story is the common story of all American boys(and girls) By allowing themselves to be too much impressed by the domestic atmosphere many have become misanthrope and even criminals.
If you hide your your feelings then no one will ever be able to get to know the real you. You have to have faith in the people around you and know that they will accept you regardless of how you feel. If you are sad then just be sad and let someone help you. We all need to talk our problems out with someone and to feel as if someone cares about our feelings. So let down the wall and just be yourself and let someone help you. You are only hurting yourself by keeping it all inside.
What must be must be. There's little you can change if you do nothing about it. Think positive!! Look for help. Counsellors, close friends, get it out of your system. Most importantly you must get control of yourself. Write down on a piece of paper your troubles point by point. Can you do anything about it. How? There's a will there is a way. However if it is beyond you, then forget about it. if it cannot change, it cannot change!! Go through all the points on your paper. Look for things you can do, to make things better. Every improvement will definitely make you feel better.
Holding things in is not healthy but neither is just "letting it out." Although you need to relieve your own stresses, you don't necessarily want to add to the stress of someone else who may be in the same position. Be creative and put those energies to work for you.
KNOW that you are among friends and there appear to be a lot of us. Also, KNOW that you cannot control anyone in this world but you.
That being said, you need to make a goal (or two) and a plan. Make them for different time periods (next week, next month, next year). What do you like, what makes you happy, how do those things ultimately affect you? Not everything that makes us feel good now is good in the long run.
Take the positive items on your list and research the best ways to get there from here. Determine who's assistance you will need (everybody needs somebody). This may be a good place for the best friend, guidance counselor, or crisis line supporter. ASK FOR IT! This also gives you someone to bounce your ideas off. It's a good bet that they will see something special in you that you don't.
Take credit for everything you accomplish during your journey. If you normally get Cs in English, work for a B. If you want to joint a sports team, try out. If you want to join the science club, do it. When you reach a goal, jump up and down! Remember, you can't get everything but you definately get more when you try than when you don't.
Finally - remember that you have every day to move forward in. Take really big steps. Like they say...Two steps forward and one step back...is still one step forward. Good luck!
well hun i know how you feel. my life is ALOT like your my parents don't get along etc.
Tell someone about how you feel , well not just anyone. tell a friends,close family,a school counselor about how you are feeling. Go out and have fun try to avoid home as much as possible stay over at Friends. do things to get your mind off your home life.If you every need someone to talky to feel free to e-mail me .