Is my ex mentally abusive??, does he love me, what does he want from me?!
Question: i was with my ex on and off through highschool-i believe that we were in love, however we bickered constantly-he would break up with me alot, only to get back together with me? he went on antidepressants and impulsively broke up with me saying that he didnt need me anymore because his medicine made him happy-i have since then tried to move on, dated other guys, but have not had a boyfriend-10 months later right b4 we leave for college, he contacts me & b4 we know it we're dating again-until he randomly broke up with me again-we talked here and there since that breakup, and now, 3 months later we hooked up again. I'm "talking" to another guy and trying to move on, but i just can't.He tells me he loves me but after we hooked up he hasnt made any effort to speak to me.until 2 days later (today) he tells me how nice it was to see me and hes glad we met up.i just dont get it, he says 1 thing, yet is constantly flirting w/ other girls on facebook, & will answer my phone calls days after
Answers: i was with my ex on and off through highschool-i believe that we were in love, however we bickered constantly-he would break up with me alot, only to get back together with me? he went on antidepressants and impulsively broke up with me saying that he didnt need me anymore because his medicine made him happy-i have since then tried to move on, dated other guys, but have not had a boyfriend-10 months later right b4 we leave for college, he contacts me & b4 we know it we're dating again-until he randomly broke up with me again-we talked here and there since that breakup, and now, 3 months later we hooked up again. I'm "talking" to another guy and trying to move on, but i just can't.He tells me he loves me but after we hooked up he hasnt made any effort to speak to me.until 2 days later (today) he tells me how nice it was to see me and hes glad we met up.i just dont get it, he says 1 thing, yet is constantly flirting w/ other girls on facebook, & will answer my phone calls days after
You are mentally abusing yourself. No one makes you hook back up with a nut job. You choose to. When you get tired of being a door mat and a piece of tail you will end things permanently. Until then you have to swim in the soup that you cooked up.
Honey, tell that jerk to get lost.
You deserve so much better than that.
You are worthy, remember that.
Don't ever let a guy make you feel less than.
There are great guys out there. Get rid of this jerk.
No, that's not love. It's easy to hook up with ex, cause ther is a comfort level, but if he loved you he wouldn't ever treat you like this, he would let you go and want you to be happy even if it wasn't with im. Hun, you need to move on and enjoy life, don't let this unstable guy play with your heart like a yoyo. It may be a long time before you have a long term bf, but even if, don't keep falling back into this pattern with your x, it will only keep hurting you. Move on, he has no respect for yu.
Mentally abusive, I'm not quite sure whether that's the right word... being a "typical" guy... yes.
(Note: My definition of typical guy is as follows: a person that regularly flirts with other girls)
But, you will definitely find someone who is different in personality compared to your ex...
Plenty of other fish in the sea...
girlfriend, it is ok to test the the relationship at first but sounds like you are the fallback girl and dont you want better for yourself? feeling eventually fade if you cut all ties. keep reminding yourself - with post its if necessary- of all the reasons you dont like him. now make a list of all the qualities you want in a guy and another list of all the qualities you dont want in a guy....which one does he have the most of? you will never find the right guy until you eliminate the wrong guy and he sounds wrong. if it was love you wouldnt be breaking up....you would talk threw it argue threw it something. He has the i dont want you but i dont want anyone else to have you syndrome. Its not healthy and honestly you need to talk to a girlfriend or aunt or even your mom about this openly...someone you can be honest with without judgement cuz honey you deserve someone that will love you all the time not only for who you are but inspite of it on your bad days.
Get rid of him, or, you will lose whatever self-esteem you have left, he's playing games with you, and knows, that no matter what he does, you will always take him back. Get a backbone, don't call him, and do not answer his calls, feel good about yourself, this guy does not care for you, caring people, do not treat others this way.
please honey run don't walk away from him ,hes a true head game, and hes messing with your head leave him alone , and move on and tell him to do the same ,because if you stay around him and 10 years from now you have no money no children , just his insanity you will be miserable please find another and be happy in your life and wen you do find someone new and grad from college and get married some day to some great guy and have beautiful baby's, your look back on it, and thank-god for your blessings believe me i did now stay away from that heart breaking ex you grew up ,, now to even write this letter asking for a answer please i have been there and thank-god that i got out been married for 19 years and have two beautiful girls, please take it from someone that knows , run I'm telling you to run and chose a better life for your self, please go down the right road and yes this man has a mental illness run now!!