Explosive Anger?!
Question: So lately i've been getting mad at everything. Sometimes so mad that my face and hands shake, and it's over tiny things like something leaving my bedroom door open, or not cleaning up after themselves etc. I'm 16 and I think i have anxiety or depression or something (not sure if this has anything to do with me getting angry). I tried telling my parents that i need to go to the doctor but they don't take me seriously. What can I do to help this without going to the doctor?
Answers: So lately i've been getting mad at everything. Sometimes so mad that my face and hands shake, and it's over tiny things like something leaving my bedroom door open, or not cleaning up after themselves etc. I'm 16 and I think i have anxiety or depression or something (not sure if this has anything to do with me getting angry). I tried telling my parents that i need to go to the doctor but they don't take me seriously. What can I do to help this without going to the doctor?
LOL, my bad, I'm sorry! I took out the pmdd stuff, lol, but I still think you could try the b-complex and see if that helps at all. Sounds like you know what your first step should be...
When I was your age, I was the same way. I would blow up if I was painting and someone opened my bedroom door a crack and peeked in. I do think some of those feelings are a normal part of hormones changing, growing up and discovering your sense of identity, but sometimes it's hard to know what is overboard. If you feel it's becoming a problem, or that you might hurt yourself or someone else, listen to your gut. Exhaust all your resources to get help. I can tell you that some of my anger went away with maturing, but I also took it upon myself to help myself and learn how to cope with that anger. I'm still working on it... You could look into anger management.
I also suggest taking Stress B-complex vitamins. It's all natural and I feel it helped me when I didn't want to take an anti-depressant prescribed by my Dr. You can get it in the vitamin aisle. Since your parents aren't being supportive, get the number to your Dr. and call yourself. At 16, I went to the Dr. alone. Sometimes you can call the Dr. office and leave a message for the nurse to call you back. It's worth a shot. If you don't have health insurance to see a Dr., maybe try contacting a local health center and see if they have any resources for you.
I hope the best for you! Good luck and take care of yourself!
Talk with your school counsellor if your parents aren't hearing you.
Difficult to say what you could do to help besides relaxing. I'd try talking to my parents again if I were you and be extremely serious about needing to go to the doctor.
u can go to dr on ur own talk to school nurse medication helps alot
You should talk to your school counselor if your parents aren't listening, they can help you. Don't ignore it, you could develop a serious problem, but it could also be from your depression or anxiety. Please talk to someone and take care!
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You can do some research on medititation and visualization methods. There are many, so try them and see what works for you.
Also, have you tried to think out why you get so angry? Do you feel threatened, afraid, contempt, embarrassed? What? There has to be a reason you go off. Try and figure it out yourself.
first off identify your anger..
what is making you angry?
do you just get annoyed over little things
if so take some time and first think about something good
take deep breaths and go fix what ever is that is bugging you. its not anxiety or depression i honestly just think its puberty taking hold and hormones rushing + everything added up
and with your parents ask them what you should do
and then if you try what they say and it doesnt work then ask them to go to the doctor
the main reason they arent taking you there is because they don't want to spend un necessary money
talk to your parents not your doctor first
I would suggest talking to your guidance counsellor at school. Maybe there is an issue that is underlying the anger, like being upset about something from the past. However, it is something you should talk to the counsellor about because that type of anger can lead you to doing something you might regret later. There are actually anger management groups that could help you that I'm sure the counsellor can suggest for you. I do think you should talk to the doctor about what is going on too. If your parents won't let you go, then the next time you are there for a physical problem (i.e. sore throat, flu, etc), you should bring this up too. Good luck. You are doing the best thing for yourself by addressing this early.
Talk to your guidance councelor at school or call the doctors office yourself and request that he call you directly. Tell him what is going on and that your parents won't respond.
I am sorry that this is going on but you know what.. you cannot fix what you don't acknowledge and you are acknowledging it and that puts you one step ahead.
Have you ever heard the serenity prayer:
God , grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.
The courage to change the things I can
And the wisdom to know the difference.
That has really helped me through some angry times.. I sometimes would just say the first line over and over and over again until I calmed down..
You sound really smart and in tune with your own body and mind Good luck..
Your explosive personality and depression/anxieties may be due to a underlying metabolic disorder.
You need to get away from home. Tell your parents that you need to get out of the house. Staying home 24/7 is like being in a nice prison. You need more activities, sports, and other activities maybe drama club or chess or the bicycle racing team. You need more social activity with people your own age. It is no wonder you are angry.
I dno but pain helps me to calm down - and i dont mean cutting myself!!
I meant when im angry i pinch myself in the arm hard till my anger dies down, i do it almost every time i feel explosive and it works for me every time.
This is probably a form of depression, which can make you feel so irritated (angry) that you can't shake it.
It definitly should be evaluated by a doctor who may prescribe medicine. The problem is that your brain is having some difficulties with contolling moods that are caused by chemical imbalance, which just means that you are getting too much of some chemical in your brain, or not enough of another.
These are common conditions but they wreck havoc in your life and need to be corrected, the sooner the better. It is impossible to control this by yourself. But with medicine that will calm you, you will be able to learn through therapy or counseling, alone or in a group, how to deal with the stresses all of us face every day without getting sick like you are now.
This is no more your fault that your getting pneumonia or cancer, so don't let anybody lay a guilt trip on you. Your folks aren't listening to you because, just like everybody else, they don't have enough information about it. You can show them on the web by looking up "mood disorders" or you can talk honestly with a school nurse or counselor. You can even pick up the phone and call your doctor, or a mental-health hot-line, listed in your phonebook.
But make the decision to do something about getting medical help, the sooner the better. Your life will feel so much easier when you do.
Lots of luck, l know you will be fine soon.