How do you accept that you are going to die young?!
Question: I know it's late at night and I may not get a lot of responses, but I figured I would give it a shot.
I am 22 and I have rapidly progressing Multiple Sclerosis. I was diagnosed when I was 18 and by the time I was 21 I was in a wheel chair, although I can still walk with a walker. For the first 2 years I had real hope that maybe a cure would be developed or something to halt the progression entirely, but I gave that up a long time ago.
My neurologist told me that based off of clinical data I probably won't live longer then 5 years. I have pretty much given up hope on everything. I still take online classes at school, but I am going to stop those after this semester. I don't talk to people anymore because my memory is so bad and I don't want to embarrass myself.
I told my girlfriend this weekend that she is the only thing I get out of bed for.
I've been seeing a therapist and they put me on some medications, but they really don't help.
How do I deal w/ the fact that I will die young?
Answers: I know it's late at night and I may not get a lot of responses, but I figured I would give it a shot.
I am 22 and I have rapidly progressing Multiple Sclerosis. I was diagnosed when I was 18 and by the time I was 21 I was in a wheel chair, although I can still walk with a walker. For the first 2 years I had real hope that maybe a cure would be developed or something to halt the progression entirely, but I gave that up a long time ago.
My neurologist told me that based off of clinical data I probably won't live longer then 5 years. I have pretty much given up hope on everything. I still take online classes at school, but I am going to stop those after this semester. I don't talk to people anymore because my memory is so bad and I don't want to embarrass myself.
I told my girlfriend this weekend that she is the only thing I get out of bed for.
I've been seeing a therapist and they put me on some medications, but they really don't help.
How do I deal w/ the fact that I will die young?
I am a bit older than you, but I have less than 3 yrs left to me. They do not know how long. I have lupus and am down to 12% kidney function and have a developed congestive heart failure. I try to see as much as I can every day, enjoy as much as I can and make memories that others can have of me when I am gone. I love life and I do not wish to die. But I am content that I know I have this time to say good bye and enjoy a few more sunsets, a few more games with my kids, a few more hot fudge sundaes, another good movie and lots more good love making with my BF. You need to make the most of the time you have. There are plenty of people I have known who have died suddenly from an unknown ailment and had no time to do all these things. Look around you. Life is beautiful, you have a gift of Years. Take them all and relish them. I will see you at the other side as I will be there before you. I really do believe there is something else. I don't know what, yet, I will look forward to the adventure. Good luck :)
I don't know that anyone young or old can prepare themselves for death. I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I would say that as cliche as it might sound....try to live every day to it's fullest. Keep telling your girlfriend how much you love her and don't cut off your friends and family. They love you and support you. Maybe you should consider going to some sort of a religious outlet. Good luck and stay strong.
make a list of all the things you've always wanted to do, and work to meet them... don't let anyone stop you.
Have you ever thought about putting your thoughts and feelings and fears into poetry, or another art form? Its a great way to release..
In my experience, it's best to be able to take things in your head, and put them to where you can see them with your eyes..
Really, We aren't granted tomorrow and there is always the chance of walking out the door and dying.
All we can do it try to live life to the fullest and say Hello to that Stranger on the Street Corner, Give a Smile to someone that needs it, Call up that friend from ever ago and Love everyone.
There are days where I don't feel like getting out of bed due to severe medical problems and chronic pain and I try not to live in fear that I may get a Migraine and I try to keep everyone in my life as Happy as Possible and let them know that I love them.
You wont deal with it
i dnt think anyone can deal with the fact they he/she is goin to die young. All you can do is do watever makes you happy and make the happiest memories u possibly can ..dnt waste time being depressed..instead spend time doing wat brings joy to your heart the most :)
I am sorry about wat u are going through..chances are i will never know what it feels like but i wish u the best
Have faith ..love always, stay strong and make happy memories
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Your question is heartbreaking. I have no idea how it must feel to hear the doctor say that you only have a short amount of time to live, but I can imagine...
I don't blame you for not wanting to go on, but you should do something good for yourself; make your possible last years the BEST! You won't regret it! You'll only regret it if you don't. (do you want your life to end on a boring note???)
Many times doctors turn out to be incorrect. You could live much longer than they say! You never know!
As a Christian, I must say all of this is in God's hands and only HE knows when he wants you to leave the earth.
So make your times memorable. Go out and see the world, meet new people, do something exciting.
I wish you the best of luck, and you'll be in my thoughts and prayers.
~JMSmiles. =]
to tell you the truth, it is going to sound cold, but there is no easy way of doing it this is something that you have to cope with from within, going through the 7 stages of grief, you seem to have hit on all of them and they have come to pass but now is the hardest part...Acceptance and Hope. There was a grief counseling class they made me take back in school, I failed, but i took one lesson out of the text book...
acceptance need not mean losing your integrity