I really believe i am on the verge of completely losing my sanity?!
Question: I've been through a lot of bad things and i can't stand it anymore.. i think i'm paranoid. The reasons are:
1)My mom kept me away from my friends when i was a kid and as time went by everyone forgot me.
2)I don't have any friends from my younger years except 1 which is a nerd and i gave up on him because i thought i was wasting my life.
3)The girl i was in love with for 3 years asked me if i loved her and i said no because i was shy at the time.
4)I must have asked over 10 girls over the past 6 years and i got rejected 10/10. I don't think i'm ugly
5)Right now nobody calls me and i have no stable friends to hang out with. i must call them first and i believe i am getting annoying so i try to stop that.
6)When i'm at school i see the popular girl i have a crush on and i don't have the guts to even talk to her.When i come home i regret it and promise myself i'll do it. Then i don't and i fall even lower. i can't "just do it"
7)At home i get yelled at all the time because of
Answers: I've been through a lot of bad things and i can't stand it anymore.. i think i'm paranoid. The reasons are:
1)My mom kept me away from my friends when i was a kid and as time went by everyone forgot me.
2)I don't have any friends from my younger years except 1 which is a nerd and i gave up on him because i thought i was wasting my life.
3)The girl i was in love with for 3 years asked me if i loved her and i said no because i was shy at the time.
4)I must have asked over 10 girls over the past 6 years and i got rejected 10/10. I don't think i'm ugly
5)Right now nobody calls me and i have no stable friends to hang out with. i must call them first and i believe i am getting annoying so i try to stop that.
6)When i'm at school i see the popular girl i have a crush on and i don't have the guts to even talk to her.When i come home i regret it and promise myself i'll do it. Then i don't and i fall even lower. i can't "just do it"
7)At home i get yelled at all the time because of
Its alright. We all go through stuff like that. Its just part of life like the person said before. You probably are just stressed if anything.
1 my mom kept me away from people to but you know you just have to get out there and make new friends and just have fun with life as much as you can.
2. That was kind of mean. At least he was your friend. But if you want more friends go to more places and hang out get into your hobbies try new things. Dont hold back on talking to people and trying new things.
3. Well, hey things happen. We cant change them but as far as that goes you just have to forget its in the past unless she comes back into your life then tell her how you really feel.
4. Maybe they just were not your type. I am sure that you are a nice guy and i doubt that you are ugly. your personality makes the person. If people can not see your for your personality and like it trust me it is not worth it at all.
5. If they are like that you need to find some new friends. you should not have to call them to hang out. That is just not right and if you just need to get into a group or do something. You will meet new people.
6.This you are just going to have to get over and ask her. You may wait until it is too late and then you just will not have a chance. Sorry to put it so bluntly but i know... you have to face it i mean whats the worse that can happen? Nothing and really you know that. Your just going to have to do it. You will feel a lot better. Atleast try to talk to her.
7. Just dont let that get to you at home. If your parents want you to do something do it help them out and dont give them a reason. We all think that we dont deserve to get yelled at but sometimes we could help the situation a little more. and as far as smoking i am not going to diss it because i have. It always seems to make you feel calm but trust me it is a nasty habit and it will get hard to stop but you should try. I really hope that you can just not stress because that is what it sounds like. We all have some kind of problems like these. You are not alone there. Good luck.
FYI - sanity is overrated. but you're not alone. it's called growing up. it sucks.
People need someone they can trust and talk to. See if your parents will let you see a therapist who may be able to help you solve some of your other difficulties. If you can't talk to therapist meditate, journal, or pray - just to get you thoughts out.
Well you aren't going nuts, but you are being abused by your parents. You seem to be about to abandon yourself as so many other changes have come about. It may be time to talk with a School Counselor and tell them what you are trying to cope with.
It can be horrible being on your own. Can you join a sporting group of your own age perhaps?
Also you are an important person, you are the only you so don't give up on yourself. Look around and see if you can find company who also look to be alone, and don't get to the stage where you fear abandonment. Lots of people are just plain shy. Look around again and again. You'll find them.
Colin
First of all, I would say, forget about your mom keeping you away from your friends when you were a kid, because what happened to you when you were a kid is what happened to you when you were a kid-It's not happening now.
Second of all, the girl you were in love with for three years is probably off with someone new. Why hold on to it? It was the past. Find someone new for you to love.
Third, getting yelled at at home is common. Kids your age get yelled at. Say something about it. Sit down your parents and say, "You know, I'm going off to college soon, and you can't be at my college with me, when I go. So, you are going to have to learn how to get off my back now, before I go off living on my own. That way, I'll be able to be as successful as you really want me to be."
p.s. about your friends: maybe she saw something that you didn't. Mom's are cool like that, sometimes. If she was from a foreign country, I don't know what her problem was.
oh sweet insanity...
join the army!!! you will have lots of friends. plenty of females to find a girlfriend, you will definitely gain confidence, and you will get the hell out of there!! they also pay for all college and medical in the active army. if the army is too much then go airforce.