What can I do to calm down and find peace of mind?Do you thing yoga will help?!
Question: I'm having a very very rough time this period of my life.I'm 24,5 years old and my sentimental life is on the edge(the love of my life,my bf of 6,5 years, may leave me).I don't have a job at this time,I'm desperately looking to find one and there are times that I honestly can't breathe.I feel very very stressed and I can barely manage a whole day.I need to start doing something or else I'll go crazy.I don't have many friends and the ones I have, have a busy schedule and don't even bother calling me to see if I am ok.I hope to find a job asap but until then I have to do something that will help me find peace.Is there anything you can suggest me?I've heard that yoga might help me...is that true?
Sorry for my english
Answers: I'm having a very very rough time this period of my life.I'm 24,5 years old and my sentimental life is on the edge(the love of my life,my bf of 6,5 years, may leave me).I don't have a job at this time,I'm desperately looking to find one and there are times that I honestly can't breathe.I feel very very stressed and I can barely manage a whole day.I need to start doing something or else I'll go crazy.I don't have many friends and the ones I have, have a busy schedule and don't even bother calling me to see if I am ok.I hope to find a job asap but until then I have to do something that will help me find peace.Is there anything you can suggest me?I've heard that yoga might help me...is that true?
Sorry for my english
For social interaction, consider doing some volunteer work at your local hospital or school. This will get you out of the house and help you develop some friendships with people who will have time to talk to you during the workday. As a volunteer you will have some control over your schedule, so you can do it part-time. Volunteering can also get your foot in the door with a potential employer, and gives you something positive to add to your resume.
For relaxation, there are a lot of things that will help.
You should talk to your family doctor about how you feel. The fact that you are saying that you feel very stressed, can barely manage a whole day, and are "desperately" looking suggest that you have very high levels of anxiety. Your doctor may be able to offer you a prescription that may cost as little as $4 a month, that can help you manage your anxiety levels.
Ask your doctor, or call your local hospital, to ask about support groups for people struggling with anxiety. You might meet some wonderfully helpful and supportive people that way who can help you through this.
Consider counselling. If you have insurance, your insurer might have an arrangement for offering counselling at a reduced rate. Your public health department should be able to help you arrange low cost counselling, but there might be a wait. If you go to church, ask your pastor about it. Call your local hospital and ask if they have a number that people can call to get help. Often, there are organizations that provide a number that you can call to find out about what services are available in your area, and who to call.
If you can afford it, try a hypnotist to help you with stress. If you can't, try looking online for information on self-hypnosis. I have tried hypnosis sessions, and you leave feeling absolutely wonderful. You might also try meditation.
Guided imagery is helpful. Close your eyes, and visualize yourself conducting an interview. Athletes use guided imagery sometimes as part of their training.
Try simple relaxation techniques. A warm scented bath. A relaxing book or movie. Candles. Relaxing music. Take the time to give yourself a manicure or pedicure. Yoga is also said to be good for relaxation and mood elevation.
Focus on your health. Eat a healthy diet with plenty of fruits and vegetables. Avoid sugar. Avoid caffeine, diet pills, alcohol, etc. Maintain a regular schedule for sleeping and eating. Exercise. At the very least, take a fifteen minute walk every day. Your body needs the sunlight to help produce vitamin D, and the exercise will elevate your mood. Go to sleep and get up at the same time every day and avoid naps to maintain a healthy sleep cycle.
Avoid spending time with people who add to your stress level. Keep it short, and let them know up front that there's something you need to do, so you won't be able to visit long. If there is someone who helps you solve problems and look at the bright side, then spend a little time with them, although I know you said your friends are really busy.
Monitor your self-talk. If your self-talk starts to be negative, then be prepared to counter with a strong positive message. Divert yourself with an activity that requires all your attention. Or immediately employ some of your relaxation techniques.
You might try some self help books about managing anxiety, boosting self-esteem, or finding happiness.
Is there something bothering you, other than your job hunt? If there is a specific issue bothering you, then the best way to relieve your anxiety is to tackle your problem. Since you are without a job, is the lack of money causing you to feel desperate? Job hunting is one way to tackle it, but there may be other things you can do. If you get counselling, your counsellor could help a lot with this. Is there someone that you can sit down with to tackle your money situation? Go over your budget and identify expenses that you really could live without. Can you cancel cable, or switch to a slower internet connection. Could you give up a landline service and switch to internet phone, or use a prepaid cell phone instead of a postpaid plan? You can still keep your phone number. Call your creditors and tell them you have no job, and you are actively job seeking. Negotiate a lower payment or an "interest only" payment plan for a short period of time. There may even be big choices that you could make, like trading in your car for one that is less expensive or moving to a home that is less expensive. As painful as such decisions are, once they are made, they can bring greater happiness in the long run.
Good luck with your job hunt and stress management. I hope that you start feeling better.
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Yoga and meditation both help but the key to peace of mind lies in your belief system. If you believe the universe is a scary place and that your happiness and peace of mind lies in some external exercise or job, you will probably experience a lot of your life on the edge. Fear often comes from within and usually doesn't change until we find a way to go with the flow and relax. You might try reading The Road Less Traveled by Peck or other self-help books available in the library. Maybe it's time to find some self-esteem and inner strength and be less dependent on others.