So, how do i tell my parents that i need help?!
Question: So, how do I tell my parents that i need help and want to be taken to a doctor or therapist? I think i have depression or anxiety, and I have explosive anger, and some guys on here are making me believe that I may have ocd. I have never been comfortable with talking to my parents about anything (mainly because they will tease me about stuff i talk to them about in front of my siblings), so this is going to be really hard for me to say anything to them and I need advice!
Answers: So, how do I tell my parents that i need help and want to be taken to a doctor or therapist? I think i have depression or anxiety, and I have explosive anger, and some guys on here are making me believe that I may have ocd. I have never been comfortable with talking to my parents about anything (mainly because they will tease me about stuff i talk to them about in front of my siblings), so this is going to be really hard for me to say anything to them and I need advice!
First, gather the facts, as you seem to be doing. Organize your information. print it out, print our emails that say you should see a Doc. keep everything in a folder. be all ocd about it. LOL. Just kidding on the ocd, but be organized, I think it might show how serious you are about this matter. List the symptoms you are having, and show your parents the relation between your list of symptoms, and the disorder(s) you think you might have. (maybe highlight the symptoms you have on one of the print outs you made?). When you do go to the Dr., you'll have all your information at hand, and it'll probably help your Dr give a better diagnosis.
Write it in a letter and read it to them. Maybe it seems corny, but you won't forget anything that way. Write exactly want you want to say to them, and ask them to please respectfully listen to all you have to say, before they make any comments, judgments, etc. Tell them how you feel. If you want, start off with how hard it is for you to talk to them about this, tell them how it feels when they tease you about it in front of your siblings. But be careful not to put BLAME on them. If they feel that way, their response could turn out unpleasant. This is not about them, it's about YOU. The goal of this meeting is seeking their unconditional love and support, and to get you help.
I don't know your parents, or know what reaction they may have, so I don't know what exactly you should say to them. There are things you can control and things you can't. You can't control your parents reaction to this. What you can control is what you say, the information you offer, and your reaction to their reactions. You are responsible for your own emotions. No one can make you feel happy or sad unless you allow yourself to feel that. I mean, your instant reaction might be anger or sadness, but once you realize that emotion, choose whether you want to dwell in that anger, or not. You can choose to allow others to affect your mood. That might be hard to grasp, but with lots of thought and training it can be done. In your case, with the depression, it'll take more work, and possibly psychotherapy. (but who am I to know, let your doc/therapist be the judge of that.)
I hope things go smoothly with your parents, but if they don't, be aware of your emotions. If you must, close up shop and talk to them about it another day...Best of luck!
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