How can I stop hating myself?!
Question: I think I hate myself. I put myself down constantly. I assume that I can't do anything and won't improve. It's really tiring. Any suggestions?
I'm already seeing a counselor and attending a self-esteem group. I work and go to university part-time. I eat healthfully, get a good amount of exercise at work, but don't follow any kind of exercise regime. I don't even have the energy to finish describing myself :-(
Answers: I think I hate myself. I put myself down constantly. I assume that I can't do anything and won't improve. It's really tiring. Any suggestions?
I'm already seeing a counselor and attending a self-esteem group. I work and go to university part-time. I eat healthfully, get a good amount of exercise at work, but don't follow any kind of exercise regime. I don't even have the energy to finish describing myself :-(
You sound depressed. maybe regret? or guilt?
You are being too hard on yourself.
Try to make your troubles lighter with HUMOR, and start to APPRECIATE YOUR LIFE. Appreciate what you have compared to people who live in poverty, slavery, prison, violence, famine, war, disease etc. When you look at someone who is worse off than you, you can start to appreciate who you are and what you have. Read Candide by Voltaire.
You sound like you are smart, so this indicates you have emotional problems more than mental problems. I recommend a book titled, Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman. Watch some comedy, stand up, laugh at some jokes. Read The Healing Power of Humor, by Allen Klein. Are you an introvert? Are you oversensitive to the rest of the world? I also recommend the book, The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron.
dnt hate yr self .............its god who made u to do all this.better hate god instead of hating yrslf
??? find something your good at and makes you happy......and do it alot.
never put yourself down....your way better than you think
hope this helped :)
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Are you socialising?
Are you getting enough sleep?
The only way things can get better is if they get worse.
Look in the mirror every day and repeat this:
"I am beautiful. Today is going to be a great day. I am successful and my future will be positive."
As LAME as it sounds, it REALLY helps. Definitely give it a try.
<3
start exercising. continue with therapy.
JLB
Have you ever thought that you are depressed? Coming from someone who suffers severely with depression.. those thoughts seem to occur a lot. Maybe try vitamins? I've heard numbers of people recommend them, they help tremendously with energy.
do what you enjoy doing...and stop listening to others...its your life remember...and your the queen
In your case, the best thing to do is have a companion or friend for a while until the time you gain your self respect...words are mere words...what you need is someone who will understand you in what youre going through....if only i can reach you i would really like to help...
dont hate your self
you may have faults but hoo doesnt im the wrst 4 putting myself down but i wouldnt ever say i h8 myself
no one is perfect so stop putting yourself down !! its good to here you eat propley and exersize to keep it off i dont have a regime nd i dont exersize at all other then walking home =] and i eat loads but im not fat
so dont worry about anything k xx your perfect in your own way so always remeber that xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx =D
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Dont' hate "God"....for your self esteem problems as some one suggested earlier....It is God that will pull you out of this,..I am sure that someone has instilled low self esteem in you somewhere along the line, and you are one of God's children, and don't let SATAN...tell you otherwise...many of us feel horrible about ourselves, and it is an unselfish, putting everyone else above us attitude, and getting over the guilt of actually thinking that we are as good as anyone else,..but with God and Jesus in your life, you learn that you are special, and loved and have a purpose in life, ....
all u need to do is believe in urself.
do not hate urself .otherwise u will dipreased.
take ur deit,get up early in morning,do excercises(do it.......)have some juices.
importantly-----feel healtheir every day when u go to universities,don't think that i am teired.
if not working then better to counsult with a physieon or have some medicene for energy growth.......go to
"www.olumpianutrition.com
so feel happy and live happyyyyyyyyyyy......
]]-good luck
well you are doing the right things to try and correct these issues, thats better than i can say for myself, and those self esteem classes will work wonders. i know what it feels like but if u keep doing what youre doing hopefully... you can overcome these problems and have more self esteem and a better outlook on life.
BEST OF LUCK
talk to somebody that can help relate to you.
Thats sad to me. Its NOT yours or anyones NATURAL state. IT'S A LIE!!! You learned it. UNLEARN IT! Look at people who have lots of energy and love life, watch what they do....They NEVER put themselves down, they CARE for themselves, they usually are very concerned for others, and they have lots and lots of interests. They do not have time to sit around feeling sorry for themselves. We ALL have the SAME things to deal with in this world. Hey, you are already here! DO NOT LET THIS WORLD BRING YOU DOWN! REFUSE!!! You asked how can you stop hating yourself. Right now when you have thoughts and feelings that bring you down tell yourself its a f'****n LIE! Do something for someone, smile at someone...put into this life, and watch people who are happy and do what they do...the best you can, FAKE IT!! Energy and good feelings WILL replace all that crap!!! Heres a hint: NEVER, NEVER, NEVER put yourself down in front of someone else! Even if you feel it. DONT! Think of something positive to say or do!
Do you realise that your question is beautifully written? You have a way with words and you also sound very well educated.
I suspect that in some way you are a perfectionist and you are highly critical of yourself because you do not meet your own ideals. I feel that you need to abandon any concepts of perfection, either in yourself or the world. All people have "faults" and weaknesses. In truth we are probably all selfish, lazy and conceited. Just accept yourself in the way that your friends do.
If you are able, post a photo of yourself. We may see a different person to the one you see.
Try to cut your finger, if you can not cut your finger it means that you are not hating your self :)
u know what even I am depressed of myself Iwas the topper of my college while doin my MBA then I joined Zee networks asmanagement trainee, Then I left it and joined a newly started company and now I'm suffering a lot I don't get my salary on time and at times I don't ven I don't have monet to take my lunch . Idon'k know why I believed on this company.
But still I feel I shall wait and watch for thje best So have patience and pray the allmighty.
Well it sounds like you are doing the best things you can to get over this perception of yourself.
I guess if you can attend a self-esteem group you cant totally hate yourself, because your putting yourself forward for others to see, so mayhap the group and counseling are moving things in the right directions.
I guess you have to be clear about who your are and where you want to be in life. Make those decisions and value those attributes about yourself. You are going to Uni so you must have some goals that are assertive and worthwhile to put your self through all that. Find those positive aspects of where you are going in life and what you are achieveing and internalize their worth as part of your worth.
I have never understood the whole "love of self" thing, but you should not understate your achievements and skills etc
Be safe, be sage