Please help lost in life?!
Question: Why I just don't understand why don't I take advantage of life there's so much to do people to know places to see while I fear everything I dropped out of school I hae no friends all I want to do is stay home and be on the computer I'm not motivated to do anything and I really do try I try to change i always say ok you have to get your g.e.d but im scared I always ask my mom are you sure I don't have a disabilty she always says no your smart you just don't want to learn I don't know why I'm like this I feel like I cant learn anything I feel inferior towards everything I feel like i will fail in everything I do I can't even get a job at the cash register because MY STUPID A** is to scared to mess up and not get it I just hate the way I am but I want to learn I want to be someone and i was born in the u.s why don't i take advantage just why Im scared to do everything I always been like this and my mom she don't care well she does but she has givin up on me I have no one to help me
No one understands me and I feel judged is like having a g.e.d is the worst thing in the world and I feel low because not even that I want to take because Im always negative and i fear I wont pass and as long as i stay like that I really won't..I don't have no one to help me what can I do Im 18 and I really never in my life studied i dropped out in the 11th grade I can read well write well speak 4 languages but nothing I don't try to do something with my life I feel lost and overwhelmed please help me!
Answers: Why I just don't understand why don't I take advantage of life there's so much to do people to know places to see while I fear everything I dropped out of school I hae no friends all I want to do is stay home and be on the computer I'm not motivated to do anything and I really do try I try to change i always say ok you have to get your g.e.d but im scared I always ask my mom are you sure I don't have a disabilty she always says no your smart you just don't want to learn I don't know why I'm like this I feel like I cant learn anything I feel inferior towards everything I feel like i will fail in everything I do I can't even get a job at the cash register because MY STUPID A** is to scared to mess up and not get it I just hate the way I am but I want to learn I want to be someone and i was born in the u.s why don't i take advantage just why Im scared to do everything I always been like this and my mom she don't care well she does but she has givin up on me I have no one to help me
No one understands me and I feel judged is like having a g.e.d is the worst thing in the world and I feel low because not even that I want to take because Im always negative and i fear I wont pass and as long as i stay like that I really won't..I don't have no one to help me what can I do Im 18 and I really never in my life studied i dropped out in the 11th grade I can read well write well speak 4 languages but nothing I don't try to do something with my life I feel lost and overwhelmed please help me!
The only thing that'll hurt nyone the most is when ......."one hates oneself".......that probably becomes the END of all ambitions and dreams.........
because
LIFE IS A LESSON YET TO BE LEARNT& there is no other best teacher than the EXPERIENCE that you get after failing......just savour it.....theres no point getting disheartened by it........u say u r not motivated to do anything thats because you are channelling ur thought towards negativity....."i cant do this" ,"i hate my life"............etc the only best thing that can motivate you anytime is just within you........your mind.........change your thoughts like.......when you feel nothing is goin according to you.........juss alter your thoughts to think "I hav got so much oppurtunity to work & make this thing happen according to me......"..instead of "i hate my life".....think about all the things you are good at.......u say u speak 4 diff languages.......thtz very good......think upon all such positive things in your life.........NOT EVEN ONCE BRING ANY NEGATIVE THOUGHT IN YOUR MIND
even if a negative thought comes just dont think too much about it.....let it come in your mind and let it just flow away like a river.......
u say u r scared to do anything.......thtz because u've already assigned failure as output of all your action......change your thoughts n give it a try.........challenge all new things that come into your life with a bold smile......
NEVER fear to accept responsibility............coz that would just add up to your negativity.......
To think "I CAN DO" sounds much better than to think "I CANNOT DO"
so have faith in yourself and remember that you are here in this world to live a better life each and everyday.......and whatever changes you want to happen in your life hasALWAYS to begin from within your mind........i.e your THOUGHTS.....
. You need to get help for this. You need to know why your self-esteem is so low. Ask your mom if she can find a psychiatrist for you. Or see your family doctor and ask your doctor to refer you to someone. I promise you that whatever you are going through right now can be fixed. And I do understand what you are going through. Once you get the help that you need you will be the happiest person on this earth. You need to find out things about yourself and you can only do that with professional help. Do everything that you need to do to get better. Don't give up now.
Claudia,
A certain amount of anxiety and fear is completely normal--- but when our fears begin to overtake our daily lives-- that's a problem that must be addressed. And you're not alone... almost a quarter of all adults seek treatment for similar issues at some time in their lives.
From the symptoms you've described-- your feelings of isolation, anxiety and stress--- would indicate some degree of depression as well as social phobia. Unfortunately, these symptoms don't just "get better". Without adequate treatment, your condition will likely continue to deteriorate.
In order to feel better, move forward in life and become the whole and complete and productive person you *know* you are, you must seek professional treatment. Once you've been evaluated and treated, you'll feel like a new person and wish you'd done it sooner. (and by the way... someone who speaks 4 languages will have *no problem* obtaining their GED!)
If you have insurance, finding treatment will be as easy as asking your family care physician to refer you to a mental health specialist. If this isn't possible, you still have options. Almost every city has free mental health care available.
Here's a website that will help to answer any questions you might have re: treatment, as well as help you to locate a therapist in your area.
http://www.freedomfromfear.org/
Good luck. You *can* do this.
life is too great my friend .....make a great use of it...illuminate each and every second of ur life....learn new things.be friendly too get many friends.....talk good,think good and act good...three main principles.follow them....u will get a lot of good and caring people around u.....never feel inferior.......be optimistic...discover ur talents...take a glance at the beautiful nature too.....come out of the sick world my friend.think about those poor people.and u may come to know what problems are like.....set goal...the most important thing in one's life
G is for Giving or Charitable Goals
O is for Occupational and Career Goals
A is for Adventure and Fun Goals
L is for Life Improvement Goals
S is for Spiritual and Family Goals
Use the five areas, and Create Your Own Reality with your 2007 goals.
Implement these ten principles below to explode your self confidence into pure self actualization and achieve all your goals! Embrace your infinite self worth and succeed in all your life's endeavors with self determination in the year 2007.
1. Master the art of self liberation and self realization.
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Harness the power of self choice daily.
help urself and others too...be a successful girl...
hope that u got some ideas..life must be of wisdom,smartness and pure fun..do the best...my best wishes would always be along with u..come on end up the darker portion of ur life........
bye
best of luck my dear friend
Get a waitress job. Invent a neutral identity and wait on people of all walks of life. Listen like a fly on the wall. You will see many people are in worse self fullfillment than you are and you will make a GOOD buck while you're observing. Don't be so hard on yourself. You got a long way to go so relax and look around. There is a place for every type of person. You have all the answers to your problems. You can't soar with eagles when you are flying with buzzards. Change your environment or associates. Be around people you look up to or respect as assistants to your soaring.
Wow i kinow the feeling i was once just like you it is in your head, you really should change how you think about yourself and get motivation, this is what you need if no one will motivate you then motivate yourself. As long as you think negatively about yourself you will have negative experiances. You are still young and there is plenty of time to live try not to worry so much it can be bad for you. I dont believe you need psychatric help because all they like to do is put ppl on pills to make them zombies. You are very intelligent you have great vocabulary. Exploit your strengths and get motivated to make your weaknesses stronger.
What your feeling is just human. I think whats holding you back is your fear of making mistakes. But don't be. That's what life's about and you only have one chance at it. If you don't make mistakes, you don't learn and you don't improve.
Think of it this way, if you make mistakes no one is going to remember for too long. Don't think of mistakes as a bad thing. Think of it as a stepping stone for improvement.
So go out and make mistakes.
Go for that job at the cash register. Its a good place to start. You meet new people and you might find your capable of more things then you thought.
I hope this helped and good luck!