Does anyone understand? I dont want to be selfish?!
Question: Economy sucks, I know.
Mom lost her job. She lost it because she was helping an alcoholic/cocaine addict/percription pill addict against my wishes (im 16) and to top it off, he was staying in our house and I have had to witness him drunk, high, in comas and even naked. (Hes 47) and I wanted to kill myself.
She lost the job because he was the owner of a company and my mother got a job at another company that is in the same field. They fired her because she was too focused on helping him then doing her work, and even paying attention to her kid.
My dad doesn't have the BEST job out there, but he has enough to pay child support, for they are divorced.
I had to go through a year and a half of that bullshit, and finally he left for another state for 5-8 weeks. Now we are suffering because of the douchebag who didn't care.
Now I can't even get my license, which means no job for me, which means no college money.
I feel very irritated because nothing was saved
Answers: Economy sucks, I know.
Mom lost her job. She lost it because she was helping an alcoholic/cocaine addict/percription pill addict against my wishes (im 16) and to top it off, he was staying in our house and I have had to witness him drunk, high, in comas and even naked. (Hes 47) and I wanted to kill myself.
She lost the job because he was the owner of a company and my mother got a job at another company that is in the same field. They fired her because she was too focused on helping him then doing her work, and even paying attention to her kid.
My dad doesn't have the BEST job out there, but he has enough to pay child support, for they are divorced.
I had to go through a year and a half of that bullshit, and finally he left for another state for 5-8 weeks. Now we are suffering because of the douchebag who didn't care.
Now I can't even get my license, which means no job for me, which means no college money.
I feel very irritated because nothing was saved
First off you are not being selfish,that is alot for a young girl like yourself to deal with. i suggest that u try to get a part time job that is close enough so u can walk there or maybe get a ride. that way you can save money for all the things u want and need. As far as college goes from what u r telling me u should be able to get grants which you don't have to pay back. just be strong and stay focused on the way u want ur life to be,make a list of all your goals so that u can refer to it. Remember it takes a stronger person to move in the opposite direction of what they were raised in,i'm sure if you want these things bad enough you will be strong enough to make it happen for yourself.best of luck to you!
Here's my advice, if life is becoming so bad that this situation is affecting your grades, your mental health, physical health, etc., you need to get out. There are many ways to do this, preferably if you have family, move in with them for a while. If you have no family in the area try friends and if that isnt an option go to the department of children/social services in your area. They can place you somewhere where you will be safe, have a roof over your head, food on the table and a family that cares about you. Now while this sounds like a hard thing to do, you must remember that there are more than just your mom and dad and whoever else in this situation but you are in this situation. You need to think of yourself because it sounds like for a long time you have been trying to help everyone else other than yourself. Don't worry about school tuition because they have student loans that work for everyone, thats what I had to do. It is hard to accept that you cannot change people but once you do accept this, you can make great changes that will better your own life. In the mean time you should get some mental help and see a psychiatrist or school counselor or someone to talk to. Keeping this in isn't good for you. I wish you all the best and I hope that years from now you can look back at this and see that it has made you stronger.
you are not being selfish. it was not your fault your mother made those choices. dont worry about the school thiing because you can always apply for the state to pay for college funding. for now, try to get a job within walking distance and save up until you have enough for drivers ed and the high costs of driving, insurance and gas !
The adults in your life have made very poor decisions and have poor parenting skills. Now you can be angry (you have a justifiable reason)...or you can work very hard at NOT being like your parents, and move on to bigger and better things. Check out alternative places that you might live before he comes back...that's no way for you to have to live. Talk to a counselor at school and BE HONEST. You need somebody on YOUR side and someone who can get you the help you need. Hurry up! You need help ASAP!kjl
Don't let them drag you down. You have all the power to make a great life for yourself. Your mom should of not got involved with that guy. That is the past, let it go.
As for college. Don't give up. The only way out is education. There a lot of money out there to be had in the form of financial aid, scholarships and grants. Ask your school counselor to help. Don't forget student loans that will help you pay. You won't have to pay them back until you graduate.
In the meantime for some cash, babysit. Suck it up and get on your bike to get yourself there, be it a babysitting job or a store. There should be a lot of moms looking for summer babysitter. Keep your grades up and do your best in everything. Good Luck. ?
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To you your mom may not be the best mom in the world, but sometimes people go through things and may not make the best judgement. we are all humans and allowed to make mistakes. If he is still gone or if he is there try to talk to your mom and let her know how you feel. I'm sure she will feel bad for making you feel that way and try to work things out with you. Please do not shut your your mom out she will always be there when no one else will.