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Question: my husband and i are financially struggling and we have 2 young girls...to go on..we live near a family circle,his parents and his families friends and everything that goes on,even i was to keep my little girls home from school they make a big deal out of it,i feel like i'm a shitty mom and he's a shitty dad...for whatever we do.has there been anyone on here that has or is going through the same thing?i feel like screaming and when i make a comment about my child,they act like oh she doesn't even care,ect...along them words.when my kids are sick,i get on top of it and give them medicine or take them to their doc,and then when its over,i feel like i'm a shitty momma and get talked bad behind my back...anyone have any suggestions on dealing with this.other than moving away,which is financially impossible right now.
Answers: my husband and i are financially struggling and we have 2 young girls...to go on..we live near a family circle,his parents and his families friends and everything that goes on,even i was to keep my little girls home from school they make a big deal out of it,i feel like i'm a shitty mom and he's a shitty dad...for whatever we do.has there been anyone on here that has or is going through the same thing?i feel like screaming and when i make a comment about my child,they act like oh she doesn't even care,ect...along them words.when my kids are sick,i get on top of it and give them medicine or take them to their doc,and then when its over,i feel like i'm a shitty momma and get talked bad behind my back...anyone have any suggestions on dealing with this.other than moving away,which is financially impossible right now.
My famliy is the same way. you do something-everyone knows about it. you say something bad to one cousin-everyone hates you, I have 56 cousins, 11 aunts and 11 uncles on one side of my family. and they all mostly live in one town. I do my best to stay away from them.
but when they comment on how you parent or say stuff to your kids-stick up for yourself. who are they to judge? theyre not you. they dont share YOUR specific job as the mother to your children if they dont like it-tough, that is their problem. maybe if they see enough of you being confident in what you do-then they will get off of your back, I would have to ask my parents more about it. we just learned to ignore it. most of them are mentally sick anyways. a big problem in our family is that everyone who lives in that town-and two aunts who dont-is that almost everyone just wants my grandmas money, to the extent that they set my mother up so that my grandma would hopefully stop helping to pay my high medical bills when I was extrememly sick. its not right, but you have to learn to adapt and know that you are better than them at your job