My boyfriend cut his wrists?!
Question: I love my boyfriend...a lot. Earlier tonight I got this urge to tell him so I went over to his house - his mum let me in and up to his bedroom. I creeped in all ready to surprise him and there he was, sitting at his desk, calmly running a cut ink cartridge across his wrists, I couldn't see any blood because of all the ink but I'm assuming he shed a little.
He stopped as soon as he saw me and I asked why he was doing it, and he said that he was, honestly, just bored and wanted to "see what it felt like". He seemed genuine and had been gentle enough only to leave a few scratches. I'm pretty sure that he's never had any history of depression or self harm before but should I be worried?
Answers: I love my boyfriend...a lot. Earlier tonight I got this urge to tell him so I went over to his house - his mum let me in and up to his bedroom. I creeped in all ready to surprise him and there he was, sitting at his desk, calmly running a cut ink cartridge across his wrists, I couldn't see any blood because of all the ink but I'm assuming he shed a little.
He stopped as soon as he saw me and I asked why he was doing it, and he said that he was, honestly, just bored and wanted to "see what it felt like". He seemed genuine and had been gentle enough only to leave a few scratches. I'm pretty sure that he's never had any history of depression or self harm before but should I be worried?
Maybe he wanted some attention. My friend did the whole "emo/rebel phase" just because he wanted to seem different from everyone else...it's rather annoying, because it wasn't him at all, and he didnt realize he already was different...but before he was different in a good, fun way.
Still, though...it shouldn't be taken lightly. And it seems unlikely that he "was just bored and wanted to see what it felt like". Watch him...the way he acts, how he moves, what he says, how he says it, changes in behavior or eating habits or music, to see if something bigger might be on his mind that caused him to do that. If he sees how scared you are about him possibly hurting himself and how much you love him he probably will revert back to normal.
yes, you should be worried. No one in a sane mental state would try to find out what slitting their wrists feels like.
There are 2 reasons I am aware why people cut. They feel they have lost control over something important to them or they do get a high as if using drugs. Board is not one of them.
Tell him he has to cut UP & DOWN and not SIDE to SIDE for it to work right.
I wouldn't worry. There's alot of other guys out there - one's who appreciate life even.
Yeah you should be worried. He needs help right away
try not to worry.
I'm sure he was only just trying it out.
But be cautious.
He may not have. i think you should talk to him more about it and break it to him gently, say you care a lot and was worried about him. I'm sure he's a real nice guy but a lot of people don't show that they're depressed.
Just talk to him and let him know you are worried.
What I would do is keep an eye on him in case he has more scars on his wrist and if he is covering them up.
If there are more, you should talk to him about why he is doing it and maybe get him to see some help.
But for the moment, just keep an eye on him.
(also just to let you know sometimes bordem is a reason to cut yourself because you are curious..trust me on that one)
Hope I helped :)
make sure he doesn't do it again
Oh hun, sorry you walked in on that, but it is something that shouldn't be taken "lightly." Even though he was doing it with a pen cap and didn't draw too much blood, this is only the beginning and can lead to much more serious "cutting." Does he have any more scratches?? Also, some people do it just to get pain on the surface and not necessarily draw blood ... the nicks on the skin come from razor blades, pocketknives or the plastic utensils picked up in fast food restaurants. Sometimes, cutters also have raw marks brought on by furious rubbing of an eraser that the skin wears off. Regardless, this is a mental health condition and should be addresses. I'm not sure how old you are, but you should possibly talk to your b/f's mom to tell her what you've witnessed. You can tell her to keep it confidential (so your b/f doesn't think you're betraying him) but just so that she can keep her eyes on him more closely when he's at home. Then, it's up to her if she wants to take him into see a therapist of some sort. It's not like your b/f is "messed up" but sometimes people, many of whom seem perfectly normal, are so psychologically distressed that they hurt themselves to cope. Does he have a lot going on in his life right now?? Is there anything YOU can do to help him out, like help with a project or a current even coming up?? I do hope you speak with his mom and encourage him that there are other ways of coping rather than to hurt himself. Maybe you can also suggest to him that he ask his mom to set up an appointment to see a therapist. OR, even going to speak with a school counselor would be appropriate. Whatever you do, please don't take this lightly because it will more than likely escalate and just eventually get worse. Support him and just be there for a shoulder to lean on. Good luck :)
nope.. actually bored is very much a possiblitty!
i was simply bored and have tried it out.. i didn't get highg or anything like that... and i had to go the nurse and the guidance couseloor.. cuz someon saw it... but nothing was wrong.. but i'm never doing it again b/c everyone is fussing over you for no reason... and i got so fed up with people bugging me about it i just decided cutting wasn't worth this nonsense.. and i hated all htat attention!
NO NO odat135 or w/e ur name iz totally wrong ok understand!!!??? good, Now Talk to him ask him if u can see his arm if he says no and gets all pissed off then he probably cuts but if he wuz doing it lightly there iz probably nothin to worry bout.