How do you trust again after a traumatic event that happened YEARs ago?!
Question: For me it was betrayal (assault) by my pastor.
6 years, and I still can't trust authority-type people.
Answers: For me it was betrayal (assault) by my pastor.
6 years, and I still can't trust authority-type people.
first of all, i'm sorry to hear that, well to tell you the truth, i've never gone through anything as horrible, but like most people i do have skeletons in my closet, and when i just remember them and feel like crying, i go to somewhere clear and open, like a thinking spot, far away from everyone and everything, then just sit there and let your thoughts go wild, you'll be amazed at what you can come up. But you know, i'm going to be honest, you don't need to trust them, i don't trust ANYONE (yes i kow something is wrong with me), i've survived well enough, yea, you can't live life to the fullest but you'll live. but if you do want that trust again, remember, ying and yang. There is terrible evil in this world, that evil is judged on the person, in your case authority, but even among great evil, there is great good as well, and vica versa. So remember just that even if that guy did do horrible things, there will always be somone in the same level to hug you after and tell you everything is going to be alright, maybe you just haven't found that person yet, but when you do the weight upon your shoulders will be somewhat lifted. I'm not promising instant trust, because..yea it'll take a while. But if you can just find that good in the world, everything will clear up, and you will be able to live life's every moment.
time.
i've went through many traumatic events...and i mean many...i don't trust anyone. i guess in time we will meet people who we feel we can trust then somewhat get over it. time heals.
Your just going to have to be brave and take a chance.
That is horrible! Just keep in mind pastor's aren't God. He will pay when it is all over. Just don't give up on God! Keep up the counceling and keep Jesus in your life and you will be ok. Try not to judge everyone by this one horrible person. I know that is easier said than done. Just choose to not let that situation control you. You will overcome this! I will pray for you.
Do your parent's know?
Recovering from trauma is not a microwave process. It is more like a crockpot. Don