SERIOUS QUESTION. I NEED SERIOUS ANSWERS .... DOUBLE LIFEs?!
Question: Ever since June 6th, 2006 I've been living a double life on MySpace. At first it was a joke profile to mess with people but it blew way out of hand. I sign on daily and have multiple "lives" with certain people. For example, i'm the virgin GF to one and we're supposed to meet during christmas. To one I'm a teen mother to a baby boy with a guy ive been dating for years, and I'm the girlfriend to another and to him i go to college and planned on going to spain instead of meeting up with him. My one friend that thinks im a baby moms, we call eachother best friends, but now it's been disputed that since i dont chill with him. And tonight we said good-bye. I don't know how to give up this life, its so much better than my own. The girls pictures are beautiful and i'm just not. But one of the boyfriends says he's in love with me and i just don't know how to end it. It got way out of control and of course i want to end it but it has become a part of me. I'm not skitzo or anything but
Answers: Ever since June 6th, 2006 I've been living a double life on MySpace. At first it was a joke profile to mess with people but it blew way out of hand. I sign on daily and have multiple "lives" with certain people. For example, i'm the virgin GF to one and we're supposed to meet during christmas. To one I'm a teen mother to a baby boy with a guy ive been dating for years, and I'm the girlfriend to another and to him i go to college and planned on going to spain instead of meeting up with him. My one friend that thinks im a baby moms, we call eachother best friends, but now it's been disputed that since i dont chill with him. And tonight we said good-bye. I don't know how to give up this life, its so much better than my own. The girls pictures are beautiful and i'm just not. But one of the boyfriends says he's in love with me and i just don't know how to end it. It got way out of control and of course i want to end it but it has become a part of me. I'm not skitzo or anything but
The interesting thing about having a double life is that you slowly morph into a person with the history you think would be interesting to have, you think you can appeal to people and in that way gain relationships you wish you had in your real life. The problem is that its very unhealthy and will way down on your social life and having a healthy social life is actually important, dont let your fantasy lives rule over reality. You need to build relationships based on truth in the real world. I suggest to end your fantasy lives with no explanation i recomend cutting all ties to these people if you dont feel strong enough to admit who you really are.
Just say goodbye to all of them and go cold turkey. You don't have to tell them the truth, but you might feel less guilty if you do. Learn to love you're real life. If you find it so boring, find something real to do. Don't sit in front of the computer and pretend. Go out and have fun! ;-)
First of all, quit My Space for good. If you are an adult you should never be afraid to pursue a real and fulfilling relationship. Love knows no distance. By constantly living a lie on line, you are actually hurting yourself in the long run. You are already doubting your ability to sustain a long term relationship. This is a warning!
Cut your losses and move on, simple as that.
the truth will set you free.
tipical girl. I see a future pattern here............
you did something that we all do .. but to a greater extent ..
nothing went wrong even now .. just let those people know the truth .. and telling this thing might lead to terrible heart-breaks ..
try damaging as little as possible and tell them everything ( or anything which might make them feel lighter even if they come to know whats real ) ..
fix things asap .. do it today .. gud luck :)
OK...ummmm....just wondering how you are worse off than me??? I think that you should be thankful that it is not something more serious-speaking from personal experience-i was sexually abused by my own father when i was 4, and thats not even half of my problems-but considering you asked me to answer your question i think that you should just stop talking to all of these people on myspace and delete your account. I have a myspace account to but i just let friends add me, perhaps this is what you should do, this way you will be less tempted to create a double life. Hope this helps...
Edit:umm ok now that i realise that you commented someone else with a similar answer to what u gave me i am very irritated. I think you need to get a life, SERIOUSLY!!! If you honestly believe that your little web off lies is the worst problem in the world than you need to get some urgent help, SEE A PSYCHOLOGIST IMMEDIATELY!!! U r a little self absorbed prick! Get a life!
By the way...if anyone finds themselves offended by what i have said i believe that you should look at her answer to my question( at least it is a real question unlike this one!) http://au.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind...
The way you deal with this is to CLOSE those accounts. You don't even need to explain anything to anyone.
Then open an actual factual MY Space account that is YOU.
Yes, you are living double lives. You are lying to others. You are putting forth life histories that are not you.
You need to stop the games and just play straight.
Sounds like you don't like who you are so you are masquerading with fantasy figures that you can manipulate.
Real life is tough. Trying living it instead. That way the friends that bond are ACTUALLY bonding with YOU.
Sorry, but you