Is this depression (i'm 15)?!
Question: i think i'm depressed.. like i can't even be myself anymore. i'm always really tired & most the time not confident and fun (although i have some random times where i am) but usually i'm trying to be me desperatley but i just can't. i've lost most my friends because of this, and am about to lose the rest. i used to be one of those girls that was really confident and nice & funny & clever, but now i'm not. people tell me i'm really pretty all the time, but it doesn't seem to have an affect on me.. something is wrong with me, and that's for sure.. i just don't know what
please help me.. i feel like i'm in a hole & i'm falling deeper into it every time someone who liked me decides they don't like me anymore.. so many people have given me chances and tried to be friends with me, but i pushed them away.. and not even on purpose.. i just like don't know how to be me & a fun person to be around anymore. i don't have any close friends & usually don't hang out with people on the weekends :(
Answers: i think i'm depressed.. like i can't even be myself anymore. i'm always really tired & most the time not confident and fun (although i have some random times where i am) but usually i'm trying to be me desperatley but i just can't. i've lost most my friends because of this, and am about to lose the rest. i used to be one of those girls that was really confident and nice & funny & clever, but now i'm not. people tell me i'm really pretty all the time, but it doesn't seem to have an affect on me.. something is wrong with me, and that's for sure.. i just don't know what
please help me.. i feel like i'm in a hole & i'm falling deeper into it every time someone who liked me decides they don't like me anymore.. so many people have given me chances and tried to be friends with me, but i pushed them away.. and not even on purpose.. i just like don't know how to be me & a fun person to be around anymore. i don't have any close friends & usually don't hang out with people on the weekends :(
Although I'm not a doctor (you should probably see one instead of looking for cures here) it's fair to say you are suffering from some form of depression. And don't think of depression as a always being depressed. Ask your self what started or changed in your life a couple years back? It may have stemmed from that. Either way, you owe it to YOURSELF, not anyone else, to get help. Something that may help you, if you're not already doing it (my guess is you are not) is to get some regular form of exercise. Surprisingly just a little exercise daily helps fight depression by getting your endorfens in your brain going. Think of it as a natural high. Really. You'll feel better. Promise.
Yes it sounds like it. Please go to your doc and seek some help in the form of meds and counseling. A person your age should be happy (I know I wasn't), and finding better ways to cope along with fixing you brain chemistry should make you feel better in the long run.
It could be and that's nothing to be ashamed of. Depression can manifest itself in teens due to fluxuating hormones. I'd suggest talking with a therapist if you can. Are you close w/ your parents? Can you talk with them? I'm sorry you're going through this. *hugs*
i agree with the other person you should just go see your doctor its an easy thing to fix these days best of luck
yea it sounds like your a litlle depressed
I hope this doesn't sound patronising, but losing your sense of self is quite a common thing when you're in your teens. There's actually some study I remember reading that showed your brain acts measurably differently during the teenage years, and then as you get into your twenties things reset themselves again and life gets easier.
We can't tell you online if you are suffering from depression or not - only a doctor can do that. Perhaps if you decide to see a doctor you could just print out exactly what you've written here and show him or her.
My own personal opinion as a depression sufferer (Bipolar disorder - it really sucks) is that you are in danger of developing depression as you do sound really low. the problem is, it's very hard to tell whether low moods in someone your age are caused by hormonal changes (yeah i know you've heard this before, but hormones are really really powerful) or if there is a mental illness at work.
At any rate, see your doctor. He or she will be used to seeing people with depression worries, so don't worry that you sound 'stupid' or anything. You can have a better life :) Take care.
im going thru the same thing except its been 4 years and i went thru treatment,
im me at susanhak on yahoo messenger if you wanna ask me stuff.
First off, you did the right thing by asking for help. That is always the hardest part.
Kid, I remember when I was your age, I had a lot of people problems just like yours, as well as the feelings that you describe. What you are experiencing is not uncommon for your age group. It's normal if you do and it's normal if you don't.
You're at an age right now when you are not going to be sure of yourself and you're gonna have a lot of fears and anxieties. Believe me, it happens to everyone, just like it did to me. I used to push people away a lot, because I had a lot of fears and insecurities about myself, and I thought that I was better off alone. Things like that are never easy to overcome. Fortunately, I had my parents to help me through my darkest days in my not-too-distant youth.
I know that a lot of people may tell you that you are supposed to be happy at your age, but they apparently are not that sympathetic to your situation. I know all too well about the pressures of adolescent life and what it's like to be different from everyone else. Adolescent life is hard on young people no matter what anyone says.
However, don't keep this to yourself. Try talking to your parents about it. They will not ignore you or turn you away if you tell them that you are in pain. My parents helped me a lot when I was depressed or angry. As for your old friends, try talking to them. If they care about you in the least, they're not going to resent you. We're only human. We're not perfect.
Kid, I think you're gonna be OK. It won't be easy, but it will get better for you eventually, even if it doesn't look that way right now. But you have to take the first step. Don't be scared to let people get to know you. Give them a chance, and most of all, don't be afraid to feel good about yourself. There is nothing wrong with having a good self-esteem. Don't put yourself down, and don't let anyone else do so either. Just be confident with yourself and you'll be fine.
I hope that I was somewhat helpful. Good luck, and take care of yourself.
There is a quiz about depression, through sections 1, and 2, at ezy build, below: print the result, and take along to your primary mental health care provider. My standard post follows, but, if you are young, antidepressants are unsuitable for young people, because they have been shown to increase the rate of suicide, homicide, and aberrant behaviour. See depression treatments, at ezy build, below, in section 2, and consult a doctor, to eliminate thyroid problems, etc. as possible contributing factors: also seek a referral to a therapist using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy.
It is your decision, and yours alone, as to whether to take any antidepressants offered, but, before you do, read section 1, and check medications out at www.drugs.com so you will be on the lookout for side effects, like sexual dysfunction. My strong recommendation, however, is to follow the advice of my doctor, and Nathanial S. Lehrmann, MD, Marcelle Pick, OB/GYN NP, and Dr. Mercola, at www.mercola.com and many others: avoid antidepressants (pages 2V, and 2Z refer, & antidepressant websites: pages 2 - 2ii).
The reasons why we all share the same view on this are explained in full, as you will find, if you read it, and section 1. All of their advice, (except prayer, because many people are not religious) I have incorporated into the "core treatments" of the multidimensional approach to treating depression, including occupational therapy, Omega 3 fish oil supplements, or , preferably, "krill oil", (use the searchbar at http://www.mercola.com/ ) relaxation techniques, and exercise, with others as options, such as the supplements: SAMe, Inositol, or herbal remedies, like St. John's wort. If you are diagnosed with clinical (major) depression, antidepressants may be necessary for a while, which will give the treatments time to become effective.
The antidepressants themselves need at least several days, or even weeks to begin becoming effective. It's a good idea to taper off them slowly, with medical advice, after several months, say, to a couple of years, at most, because they are only effective in the long term for about 30% of people (they will always be there, if you find you can't function without them). Because of this, you would be well advised to begin the treatments immediately, and maintain them. I'd just thank your mental health care provider, and pocket the prescription, trying the treatments for a few months, to see if they are sufficient for you, before considering filling it (unless clinically depressed, and totally unable to cope with daily life, or suicidal, in which case I'd try them, after reading the printed insert, and informing myself of the risks, and side effects).
If the amount of daylight you have been exposed to recently has reduced, perhaps due to the change of seasons, see Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D.) in section 2, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and, instead of taking around 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily; replace 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements for the winter months only! (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a little butter, to ensure its use; I take mine on sourdough rye bread, or toast, covered with fishpaste, and pepper, to mask the strong taste). Optimal levels are 50 - 55 ng/ml (115 - 125 nmol / L). It should be above 32 ng/ml.
Don't use medications and supplements together, without medical advice, except for Omega 3, which is safe, anytime. Omega 3 fish oil supplements: EPA (eicosapentaenoic acid (omega 3) ----360 mg.DHA (docosahexaenoic acid (omega 3)-----240 mg
Take enough supplements to attain, or exceed the levels (no possibility of overdose) of those every day, with an orange, or the juice of a freshly squeezed orange, grapefruit, or other antioxidant.
(make sure the epa is higher then the dha) important for adults... kids need the opposite levels: more dha than epa, but all are beneficial, if you can't achieve the recommended proportions.
They should be certified as being free of mercury, and if containing vitamin E, it should be shown as from a natural source; otherwise it is synthetic: avoid it! Consider having your doctor test your vitamin D levels, (60% of depressed people have low vitamin D levels!) using the 25 Hydroxyvitamin D test. Those people who receive adequate exposure to sunlight, daily, won't need the vitamin D from cod liver oil, but many people, particularly those in latitudes far from the equator, find this difficult to achieve.
If the above is insufficient for you, after several months, (unlikely) try one of the alternatives, such as the neurofeedback, magnetic, or low current electrical stimulation, or EMDR therapy, (see sections 33 - 34) keeping ECT back, as a last resort.